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Love Him So Much
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I was friends with this guy - he asked me out and cus i like him i said yes! But like a week later i told him i thought it would be better if we were just friends! thing is, now I really miss him. we haven't talked since! I really regret breaking up with him! I don't even know why i did it - he was like my first boyfriend and i guess i just paniced!
I know i was his first girlfriend too - When i said i would go out with him, he said it was the best day of his life!
I miss him so much - I guess i just wanna know that if you've liked someone for ages then go out with them, and then break up - would you automatically not 'fancy' them anymore - or could there possibly be a chance he still likes me!
I do really like him - do you think there's any way he would ever like me again - is sending him a text a reeeeally bad idea?
Do you think it's normal?
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-02 14:55:54
This is a repeat post I believe from yesterday.

http://isitnormal.com/story/5646/
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wishitwassimple (4497)
2006-12-02 15:05:39
@: sisophous
And your point would be - I needed to repost it because the sight is so crap and people don't respond!
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-02 15:19:00
your right, sorry. I think everyone gave you good advice. Mine was to speak to him face to face because I've turned down girls who have contacted over the phone after they turned me down the first time when I wanted to go out with them. It's sort of a payback thing. Just my experience.
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roger49 (3711)
2006-12-02 16:25:22
Yeah, we gave you good advice. Why did you feel the need to repost? If that wasn't the response you were looking for I don't know what you want.
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-02 16:42:37
Wishitwassimple, guys the world over are very simple, they respect straightforwardness and don't like playing games. Girls who are direct and say exactly what they want are valued. You're afraid of rejection and are reluctant to act.
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wishitwassimple (4497)
2006-12-02 19:02:59
@: sisophous
I am afraid of rejection - what if he says he doesn't feel like that anymore! I don't know if I can deal with not even having any hope! What if he tells people and stuff - embarassment AND rejection - Sounds great!
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-02 19:36:38
@: wishitwassimple
wishitwassimple,

so he tells someone, so what!!!! You aren't ashamed for liking him are you? If I like someone I wouldn't mind telling anyone for that matter. Rejection is something EVERYONE goes through. There is not a thing to be embarassed about either. Keep it short and to the point and then the ball is in his court, either he acts or he doesn't act. Don't follow up after you inform him, he'll come to you if he is interested. I'd like to know how this turns out, and we will never know if you don't approach him. Let us know.
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wishitwassimple (4497)
2006-12-03 09:10:33
@: sisophous
You know that poin - about whether i'm ashamed for liking him mad me think - an no - I'm not ashamed - I'm being stoopid! I'm gonna talk to him - any idea of what to say to get him by himself though? And yer - I'll tell you what happens!
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-03 10:58:49
@: wishitwassimple
Just walk up to him and say hello and that "I've been wanting to talk to you". Can we go outside? If other people are around him doesn't matter, they wont know what you are about to say outside. Take a step or two back and he likely will walk with you and then talk to him. I've found asking a girl out while walking in the hallway very easy, it's natural. Often they will just stop to talk. Expect interruptions from his or your friends saying hello, or if the timing is bad ask to see him later or after his last class. Keep it very brief, takes seconds, he'll get the point fast. I always use the "I've been wanting to talk to you" line with girls, it gets their attention.
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wishitwassimple (4497)
2006-12-03 12:15:09
@: sisophous
Okay - I'm gonna do it - tomorrow i hope - just one question though - would you take me back or am i just setting myself up for a massive fall! He did really like me for like ages before i said i'd go out with him and he's kinda quiet around girls!
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-03 12:32:20
@: wishitwassimple
I'd just tell him you want to be friends again and miss him, nothing about taking you back. It's the truth and there's no pressure on you or on him. It's not like you're asking him out and he can say no or say he is busy or come up with an excuse. Leave it open to get together, don't ask for anything specific. He's likely to be surprised and will not know what to say, that's fine too. Point is to let him know you are interested. If he asks why you changed your mind, admit you weren't thinking right or nervous at the time and regret it. You can't go wrong just saying the truth!!!! If he says he's seeing someone else now, that's ok too, he will at least know you are open to see him.
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wishitwassimple (4497)
2006-12-04 09:12:30
@: sisophous
I couldn't do it! I don't know why - i was just all up for it and then i just couldnt!
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Mimir2 (3348)
2006-12-04 13:06:05
acting on behalf of your fear of rejection is a very good way to aquire rejection.

Like a very corny song once said...
"Its the heart afraid of dying that never learns to live!"
(said with poetic expression and a finely tuned dance motion)
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-04 13:12:52
wishitwassimple, come on!!!! You wimped out on me!! If you are that terrified then send him an email or phone him. It's not the way to go about it, but it's easy enough to email him and ask if he'd like to hook up. Now you see what guys go through.
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wishitwassimple (4497)
2006-12-04 15:48:41
Stupid person doesnt have internet does he - aaaaah - an i really can't do phones - I'll see him tomorrow - i gotta do it! I've worked myslf up to this so much
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roger49 (3711)
2006-12-04 16:13:54
Try to relax, I personally think you should tell him you want to get back together, because if that's what you want you shouldn't leave him hanging, but whatever you want, tell it to him straight. If women would tell me what they want instead of trying to protect my feelings or not look stupid, my life would be much simpler and happier.
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-04 16:57:37
@: roger49
Well said Roger, guys aren't mindreaders, it's often impossible to know what girls are thinking with all the mixed signals we get, much of it is game playing too.
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wishitwassimple (4497)
2006-12-05 14:18:12
Aaaaaaaaah - I did it



and he said yes!!!



=D



Thanks for all your advice guys

I'm so happy!
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sisophous (3738)
2006-12-05 15:47:24
@: wishitwassimple
Great to hear some good news for a change. I thought he would too wishitwassimple. Have fun.
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dukepost (6726)
2007-03-23 02:45:18
Of course he still likes you if it was so recently.
Dumass.
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