Men should not talk about their feelings.

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I fucking can't stand that mentality. This rant would be longer but my phone is dying.

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Guys have feelings. Nobody should pretend not to have feelings. Good friends do not resent helping each other out when they need to talk about feelings. The macho attitude of pretending not to have feelings is reprehensible. I fucking can't stand that mentality either.

Shit like this is why gender stereotypes are bad for everybody.

Ugh.

The idea that men should be emotionally closed, stiff-upper-lipped rocks upon whose shoulders women can cry is one which leads to men struggling with depression and anxiety in silence.

Men are more likely to commit suicide. I think one of the contributing factors to this greater rate of suicide is having little to no support network - people to talk about their feelings with, to express their fears and difficulties with. I think one of the contributing factors to this lack of support networks is... surprise surprise, people like you perpetuating this archaic notion that men should not talk about their feelings.

Most people wouldn't want to sit through 2 hours of a friend one-sidedly expressing their feelings, but most friends would rather that than have a friend collapse under the burden of emotional repression culminating in a break-down, self-harm, maybe worse. It's nice you sat there and advised him despite your prejudice against men opening up, so kudos for that. But perhaps you should revise your sexist views against men?

Women shouldn't talk about their feelings either. None of us should. If we can't handle life, we all need to Seppuku.

Seppuku knives for everyone!

What? Males express emotions too, we are human too.

I understand why you feel bad listening to him whining about some girl..But honestly why must men be expected to behave as if we don't have feelings?
Constant whining is unacceptable according to me but I guess you must be a better friend to him..

I never understand people with the mentality you have. I guess you shouldn't express your feelings either if he can't.

What a fucking bitch. We're human too.

The nerve of that man! Who does he think he is expressing emotions and expecting a shoulder of a friend to lean on? A HUMAN? Bah! Real men are robots filled with sawdust!

Sarcasm aside: Who wouldn't want to vent after the breakup of a long term relationship? Your friend is completely normal and you should quit thinking like that. One day tragedy is gonna hit you and I hope this way of thinking doesn't keep you from looking for comfort in your friends.

I think for men, especially English men, talking about your feelings to other men is basically admitting you secretly have a uterus, and is akin to the sorts of guys who straighten their hair, and wear skinny jeans. Talking to girls about feelings is acceptable, but in the face of all men you must appear detached and rugged, to maintain your masculinity.

I agree. Men should not show and expose their feelings. At least not very often. It's for their own good.

So when he's feeling like finding out what its like to take a life you don't want to know? Cus your his company right now and he's scheming up a plan to to put your eyeballs in some fruit salad and make a quiche with your coagulated blood. Not sure how it will come out but hes feeling culinarily enlightened right now. Good thing he kept quiet or you may have ruined his dinner plans. Guys get cranky when they are hungry, dont'cha know.

Keeping feeling in isn't good for either sex so why should he? Just because he was born a man doesn't mean he has to lock away his emotional side, that's unfair. I believe that's wrong but yes its normal to feel that way, most people probably do.

Men should talk about their feelings. In my opinion, if a man can talk about his feelings it is a plus.

Men who hide their feelings are insecure in showing their true emotions whatever they may be. I guess some have been brought up to believe that not showing their true emotions makes them more of a man. I disagree with this though.

We are all very different. It is the same for women.

I always lend a sympathetic ear to those I find deserving, and I expect my friends to do the same for me. That is an important part of true friendship, to be there when you need them and vice versa.

Some men don't need to express their feelings and that is fine and dandy for them, but I don't work that way. Sometimes I just need to vent or talk things out.

Gender shouldn't even be an issue. People are people regardless of what equipment you have under the hood. Emotions aren't just a female characteristic, they are a human characteristic.

Maybe it was an earful for you and that is all.

It just means that you are a inwardly negative person. The fact that you call him your "friend" and 2 seconds later state that you regret helping him through his troubles tells me there is something lacking in your personality. You should do some more research on what it means to be a friend or do us all a favor.

Nobody should talk about their feelings. We should all pretend to be happy and smile as the fire rises.

Words can't describe how much I detest this mentality. In your logic, woman shouldn't be allowed to get emotional either. All Humans should be And act like robots!!!

I can relate to the question. I was raised with the belief that if you are a guy you are tough and you don't cry or show that you are vulnerable. But it will cause problems in future.
Feelings happen whether you want them or not. If you don't express them you will suffer for it.