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Men won't leave me alone, women hate me!
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I work at a grocery store as a cashier. I was taught to look someone in the eye when talking to them, it is rude to do otherwise. So When I greet customers, I look them in the eye, smile, and say, "How're you doing today?" or "Find everything you needed?" So the male customers (usually 25-70+) often look me over and attempt to strike up a conversation. This not only slows me down, but makes me uncomfortable. So I frown, do not respond, and even continue with the next customer, but they DO NOT GO AWAY. Men often select me to help them with the self-serve registers when there's an idle male co-worker right next to them. There's an older man who goes out of his way to come to my register (when he's done checking out) to tell me "Oh there's your pretty face!" Even my male co-workers go out of their way to talk to me. I try to make it clear I am not interested by not looking at them, and not really responding to what they have to say. I don't wear make-up and never contacts, I always tie my hair back, I'm twenty pounds overweight, and I even wear a sports bra to make my breasts smaller. And women (ages 13-50) always give me the "stare-down" and often are short-tempered with me, even though I am helpful, polite, and faster than anyone else in the store.
I feel like I will always stand out unless I don't give anyone the time of day. (But then I will be fired.)
(Maybe I have especially potent pheremones?)
Is it normal? How do I fix this?
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Galaxy500 (24989)
2009-07-28 06:25:10
lol the women hate you because you don't even try to look good and you probably look better than most girls do on your bad days. The men, are basically, just men. See if you can get into another department where you don't do as much customer service. Plus, don't give them anything to hang on to. Pay attention to yourself if you seem to be coming off as flirtatious. You can easily, and politely, let a man know exactly where you stand as a woman by being confident, but firm and brief with you statements. "Hi. Find everything ok today? Good" and like, leave it at that.
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firesonicx (26276)
2009-07-29 08:27:50
huh... you seem hot. i think i can feel your especially potent pheromones from all the way across the web!
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andrian007 (21330)
2009-07-29 14:49:40
Well, it's pretty simple really. Men find you attractive no matter how little effort you put into your appearance and behaviour and be happy for that. Some women are willing to die to be in your shoes. These women who give you the stare-down are probably the girlfriends/wives or the men and they just wanna walk into the shop trying to find out who this cute cashier girl is.

Firstly, please don't change your mannerism in anyway. Regardless of what people might think, it's the perfectly professional thing to do to smile and ask if everything's alright. I would like my local grocery store staff to do the same too. It's just nice and friendly. If you feel that uncomfortable, find somewhere else to work.
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