most of my guy exes loved foreplay as much as i do

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Normal, but normaller for girls. Guys seem to get hung up on getting off. But I love being horny, and nothing gets me hornier than making my woman horny. I use fingertips, lightly or firmly, hands, lips, tongue, teeth, penis - everything I can think of. Nothing is finer than hearing her sigh, seeing or feeling signs of her arousal, or feeling her body move to meet my touch. Mornings or afternoons are best if we're child-free because there's plenty of time...

Your partner sounds like a dick - I'm a guy & sometimes foreplay can be as good as the sex itself - I certainly like to spend a long time on it. He's just insulting your exes because he doesn't want you to think its normal, so he can just get back to satisfying himself.

yeah.... i've just stopped having sex with him. i can live without sex (that's what battery operated boyfriends are for), i just can't live with mediocre sex (aka - no foreplay)

im a guy and im young and i think that foreplay is key but most the girls i have been with are much older than me and have taught me a thing or two

ok.... apparently there was a misunderstanding. for any other men out there who may be under the same mistaken impression - foreplay is not exclusively oral sex. it involves hugging, kissing, massages, etc.... his mouth got tired when he'd try to go down on me for more than half an hour, and he thought that's what i meant.

it's kind of like that horrible metaphor about bases. start at first and work your way around the bases. don't just cut across the field to 3rd and make a mad dash for home plate.

Sex without foreplay is boring. It's almost as if you are not getiing the attention you deserve and should have. Quick sex can sometimes feel useless and pointless.

This is one of the basic differences between men and women. As a general rule, women need lots of foreplay; men don't. When you said, "hours of foreplay," that scared me, but it depends on what you mean. If, by foreplay, you mean walking, talking, hugging, dancing, laying next to one another, and generally being intimate, that sounds perfectly normal.

But, once you get into more advanced stages of foreplay, it's hard to imagine more than half an hour of this--perhaps, an hour, at most. Such physical activity, without progression to actual sex, within a reasonable period of time, is a big TURN OFF for me. But, it's a compromise. Nearly all the women I've been with don't need that much foreplay, certainly not "hours." And, sex, with very little foreplay, is also perfectly normal (if the woman is already very aroused). I think it has more to do with technique and emotional connection, than the length of time.

Consider also what happens after the first climax or two. The initial urgency (for the male) is gone, and you now have the opportunity for more physical activity, with even more intense climaxes, because the arousal level (for the female) is very high.