so my male partner and i had a bit of a disagreement the other day. i really love foreplay (yes, i'm a girl). i mean hours of sensual teasing. he sort of placates me with 15 to 20 minutes of awkward fumbling that he tries to pass of as foreplay (of course i tell him he's wonderful and all that), but i'm really getting sick of not having what i had with almost every single one of my ex-lovers. my partner said that guys don't like foreplay, and when i told him that almost all of my exes did, he said "they must have been gay." now, obviously they weren't, but my question is, is it really that uncommon for a guy to love hours of foreplay? have i just been unusually lucky until now? i realize this may depend on age and all, but we're in our early 30's.
it's kind of like that horrible metaphor about bases. start at first and work your way around the bases. don't just cut across the field to 3rd and make a mad dash for home plate.
But, once you get into more advanced stages of foreplay, it's hard to imagine more than half an hour of this--perhaps, an hour, at most. Such physical activity, without progression to actual sex, within a reasonable period of time, is a big TURN OFF for me. But, it's a compromise. Nearly all the women I've been with don't need that much foreplay, certainly not "hours." And, sex, with very little foreplay, is also perfectly normal (if the woman is already very aroused). I think it has more to do with technique and emotional connection, than the length of time.
Consider also what happens after the first climax or two. The initial urgency (for the male) is gone, and you now have the opportunity for more physical activity, with even more intense climaxes, because the arousal level (for the female) is very high.