My 36 year old boyfriend hangs out with our 17 year old male neighbor

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My 36 year old boyfriend hangs out with our 17 year old male neighbor (who is a Junior in High School).

Our background: We have been together 7+ years, have a 4 (almost 5) year old daughter and I am pregnant(8 mos.) with our 2nd (and last) child. He has not worked in almost 2 years (bad economy). I have my B.A. and work for a reputable, national company.

Okay anyway... my boyfriend has been hanging out with this kid for some time now. He is not a relative or the child of any friend of his. It is just our neighbor's kid (he lives with is Dad). I initially did not find it too alarming as it was very rare and sporadic that he would stop by. They had Playstation 3 in common (the boyfriend is a partial gamer) and I just didn't think much about it.

But, now he comes over quite often, text's my boyfriend all the time, has him (boyfriend) buy him ciggarettes or dip, etc. And recently took him out pseudo-hunting (my boyfriends hobby of the last 3 years has been hunting)and takes him over to other friends (of my man's) houses on occasion.And talk about "stuff" together. Which I think is a big part of it. My man enjoy's running his mouth, talking about his youth and seem's to find enjoyment in just talking to him about his adult life (jobs, people,girls, whatever).

And although I think that for the most part it is harmless. I find it extremely odd (as do my friends and family) for adults to hang out with kids that are not your own, are not family, you aren't there big brother/ big sister or even a very close friends child. I feel other people may perceive it as strange and there are other implications... if he got ticked at my man for any reason he could lie and say he was mistreated in our home or in my man's company.

My boyfriend does not find this friendship strange. And states that he had "older" friends as a teen. As did I, but, not over 5 years or so my junior that I actualy hung out with as a teen. Plus, they truly don't have much in common. The young man is very "emo" as they call it--- which would have been "alternative" in my youth.With pimples and shaggy long hair & well just lost in youth. And my man is more tall, macho, masculine,Latin, short hair, etc. That played sports in high-school. Two very different individuals before you even throw in the age gap. FYI: it wouldn't matter what the kid is like; I find the fact that he is a high-schooler (period) alarming and unethical.

And P.S. my boyfriend is in no shape or form the mentoring type. He is a good Dad but, is not in any position AT ALL to self elect himself as a big brother for a young man that doesn't even come from a broken family or appear to have any extreme issues(his Dad appears normal). And I also find it odd that his father doesn't find it odd that he is always over here.

So bottom line is it just me? Or is this scenario not so normal?