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My best friend is my lover but what will come of it?
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So Ive been friends with this girl since junior high, I've always been very attracted to her but never had self-esteem to talk to her about it. It was always so intimidating because whenever i wanted to she would be going out with a guitar-guru genius. So near Christmas in our senior year she walked me out to my car after we hung out and I asked to kiss her. We then started to go out but it didn't work very well because I was always concerned about how she was feeling and i guess she became a little annoyed I was also had felt anxiety alot when we weren't together if she had been cheating on me or not. I was terrified. I became very deppressed. I was being to boyfriendy, she was not looking for the conventional relationship, rather than a more laid back one. So we broke up. But then we still fool around but she wants to still stay friends. Is this normal? what will happen to us? I don't want to lose her. we talked about getting back together and she said i needed to sort somethings out first and find out how to make myself feel happy. I still love her so much and I can't stop thinking about her... I don't want to hang out with my friends... only sit around all day and wait for her to get off work so we can hang out... I don't know what to do... I'm too afraid to bring her around my friends being I think a few of them are way cooler than me and she might want to fool around with them... I don't know what to do... I am lost in my sub-conscious thoughts... Is this normal?
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Comments (6)
Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-04-19 09:26:31
I predict this relationship will never amount to anything but frustration. You won't take this advice, but be friends and move on.
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isaiah268 (22300)
2009-04-24 11:04:40
it is entirely normal to be anxious, depressed, self-conscious, low self-esteem. But with these issues, come relationship problems. Go seek counseling. If you want this relationship to happen, you won't be doing you or her any favors until you get professional help.

This will reduce your jealousy, clinginess, paranoia, and then you can pursue a romantic relationship if it's meant to be. I just wouldn't recommend you trying to take care of her until you take care of you first.
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freeforall (22316)
2009-04-24 22:15:34
@: Jim_Pfoss
take her
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Galaxy500 (24989)
2009-07-21 07:49:15
On top of the others' advice..I just want to say (from experience, mainly) that insecurities are the biggest turn offs, ever. Be confident in who you are and love yourself. You need to take care of you first and she's trying to tell you that.
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guessme (27428)
2009-08-22 22:21:22
@: Galaxy500
i agree with others..our partners want to us to be happy and confident when we are with them..
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cooldavid (27425)
2009-08-23 21:14:22
You had your chance and you blew it with her. Do whatever you need to do to move on.
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