MY boSS is a PERVert

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First let him know your not interested and be very cold to his advances. If he continues don't act in haste. Get a tape recorder and put it some place where he cant see it yet you can hear the conversation on the recorder. Now you talk to him and let him say as much evidence as possible. You can even play along a little bit. After you gather enough proof with this method, let him know that if he doesn't stop you will tell his girlfriend or the authorities etc. As long as you have proof your good to go. Don't reveal all your aces at ones.

sexual harrassement is a big deal.sue his ass and make some big money from the company.

In this day and age of "SUEING" I find it hard to believe that your boss comes on to you like that.

How is it a "good" job if you have to put up with this nonsense? There are few things in the workplace that are worse than having someone in authority over you persist in making unwanted advances.

I don't know what sort of work you do, but this situation is bound to put a strain on other aspects of your life. You don't have a lot of choices here. You can continue to endure the present situation, which I don't think is going to do much for your self-esteem. You can tell him straight out that you aren't interested and risk the consequences. Or you can start looking for another suitable job while you continue to suffer his advances, and hope that something else comes up soon. Threatening to tell his girlfriend probably isn't an option because if she breaks up with him, it will either piss him off or make him more inclined to pursue you if he's free.

One way or another, if you tell him, you may very likely be risking your present employment. Only you know how much of his harassment you can safely take before psychological and/or physical stress begins to take its toll on you.

Definitely report him. Sexual harassment in the workplace should not be tolerated.

By the way, he sounds really gross.

Report that mother. Put him in jail or something.

Obviously, reporting him is not in your plans, or you would have already. Also, not feasible.

However, START keeping a journal of EVERYTHING he says and does. Get a date book, note the time, the day, situation [alone in the stock room, etc], the exact words. Tell a friend daily of his advances. After a time, he will fire you for not putting out, or because he thinks someone else will, and he gives them your job.

THAT'S when you tell him, or just file charges. You will need the book and friend for court. Also, maybe see a Dr. for anti- anxiety stuff, or a counselor to sound off to. If it ever comes to court, you sign a waiver allowing them to testify concerning your info, and when you 1st notified them. The least you can do is report him to the labor board- if it comes to that.

What he has been doing is highly illegal, but we all know [OK, WOMEN all know] that realistically, no one gives a shit about the employee, the justice system has more to do than go after him, and it is literally his word against yours.

Likely, his GF will back HIM. IF anything happens, he will say, and she will 'confirm', that YOU have done this, YOU have made the advances, and are blackmailing him for a huge raise.

Lastly, if you are brave enough, TELL him [maybe making sure she is within earshot around the corner] that he is being inappropriate, that you love your job, but it has to stop, as YOU don't feel like he is kidding [another one of his defenses].
good luck kid, I've had this problem.