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My boyfriend degraded me yesterday and I don't know how to cope
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My boyfriend (basically fiance) told me I had small breasts infront of one of our good friends yesterday and I am humiliated. He basically said "why dont you enhance your breasts"..he said he was kidding but 96%% of joking around is truth. Why would you put down your significant other in the first place?!?! I have a big B cup and don't see the problem, but now I feel like I need a boob job. I am hurt beyond belief and don't understand why it was necessary to state such rude comments infront of other people. I don't know what to do and I am lost. My self-esteem has hit rock bottom, but I know I am a gorgeous girl..what should I do?
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You're perfect the way you are, don't change.
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It's really rude when someone does things like that to humiliate you:/

but your breast is fine.
If I'm not over the internet now, I'll be robbing it:P

well you can do the same to him and say he has a small dick
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@: xino00
Hahaha! Well, they do say that if you dish it, you've gotta be able to take it.

I respectfully disagree. It's not good turning this into an insult (but it was a joke hunny!) throwing match. Tell him exactly what you've said here. If he loves you, but is a bit on the tactless and thick side, he'll apologise for the hurt he unintentionally caused and will at least try and make it up to you, as he very well should. See, he truly may not have realised how humiliated it would make you feel. Joking around can be 100%% joking around too.

If he still disregards your feelings, then that points to him being a bit of a prick. A small one at that. Then, it could be time to pull out the penis enlargement joke in front of a good friend.
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@: xino00
YUP I AGREE WIT U HUN MAKE SURE U SAY IT IN PUBLIC JUST LIE HE SAID TO U
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why don't you get an extra outragiously large bra stuff it and set up a date with him--- meet him somewhere and ask him if these are what you really want then dump him, he'll come crawling back apologetic---tell him you'd really like a big dick if he's got one of those then ask him to start going to the gym some muscles would help like most hunk etc.. etc.... he'll get the point see how he likes it
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LOL that's excellent!
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Ollieo
That's pretty insulting and he should be begging forgiveness. The bigger issue, however, is not your breast size. It is his view of women in general & you in particular.

Sure it could have been a bad joke. Maybe. And perhaps there is a slight chance you are being a bit oversensitive. Maybe.

But I doubt it. Trust your feelings because I think they are telling you that you do not know this guy and his attitudes as well as you thought. If he's your fiance, then this is the time to take a long hard look.

If he is a misogynistic SOB who feels entitled to insult & degrade women - better to find out now, not once married.
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Most people say things as a joke when they actually mean it. It is rude for him to just point things out like that, although I don't think you would want to take advice from a 13 year old. So, I'm just going to leave it like that.
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if he has to put you down like that to make himself feel better then u need to move on. hes got issues.
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He was way out of line. its rude, degrading, humilating and disrespectful. He might think it was a joke, but I know I would find that hurtful. You should tell him how you feel and that its not on. he may feel really bad when he realises how much it effected you. Im glad you know your gorgeous, dont buy into that "big boobs are better" rubbish.
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What a JERK. You shouldn't have to put up with crap like that. Next time you should say, "I will get a boob job when you get something else enhanced!!!" See how he likes it. I'm sure he won't feel too great after that.
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Say he's got a tiny cock in front of his mates.
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Tell him (in front of his friends) get your penis enlarged ! Then I am only 99 percent joking
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By the way thats not an "is it normal" question, its more of you asking for advice on how to cope, what to do.
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Just tell him you wish his dick was bigger and he'll shut up pretty quickly. I don't know what you look like but I'm sure you look absolutely fine the way you are. I'm a guy and I know we can be assholes but not all guys are. Don't stay with this douchebag if that's how he treats you.
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EatMyShorts
Dump him!if the doesnt like you for what your are,then tell him to fuck off.be strong about this,dont let this so called boyfriend/fiance of yours make you feel so low of yourself.you deserve better =)
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unknownone
Dump him. What a pile of shit. B cups are beautiful.
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To be honest, I don't like women with large breasts. It's tolerable if their frame supports it but I prefer smaller to larger.
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N/A(anonymous)
ok i like small boobs my gf is the same hes a dick ok just say well your dick is small i love girls with small boobs i mean yeah sure girls with big boobs are ... ok but ilike smaller ones i dont know why but dont let it get you down
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N/A(anonymous)
(43290) is right!!
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tell him how you feel, it will probably get worse if you get married, he needs to know he cant say stuff like that
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That's disrespectful, but something that minor shouldn't break your confidence that easily. Don't ever get down on yourself because of what other people say.
A man should never embarrass you like that in public, that's terrible. Especially if it is something you've expressed that you're self conscious about.
Tell him how you feel, immediately.
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He should have thought of how what he said would affect you. And out of commonsense HE SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THAT AT ALL!!! I really felt so sorry for you and I cried reading it. I am a woman not endowed with big or medium size assets. I have 32A breasts and I have a boyfriend that knows to not act like a jerk. And if he did he told me to slap him. You should slap him or threaten to leave him if he acts or does it again.

First: I think it's BEST to reassess your relationship with your fiance. He seems to not appreciate you or accept you for who you are. And with his joking it can't fool any women that he may be saying the truth. If you find that this happens a bit more than usual NEVER forgive him for the damage he has done; by the time you are married you will be hurt and depressed. Talk to him about it and make it an important matter. If he refuses it's more likely that it is a stay or leave relationship situation. But don't think about it until you have talked to him.

Saying for you to enhance your breasts is something every women will hate a guy for. Don't talk or be around his mate. His mate should have stopped joking about it in the first place and had some common courtesy to be nice to you.
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I don't think he's the right person to marry. What a douche bag
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You need a new boyfriend, that's not cool.
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I'd dump him
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Ask him why he hasn't enhanced his dick.
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The only real solution is to get breast reduction surgery. That'll show him. Also stitch up your vadge so yous can't have sex anymore. That'll really show him
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Tell him how this made you feel... and then move on. It really does sound like he was trying to say this in a joking manner. This isn't all that big of a deal... don't let an obvious joke send your self esteem spiraling out of control..
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I say FUCK ANY ONE WHO TREATS WOMEN AS OBJECTS AND NOT PEOPLE!
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theres nothing wrong with a b cup, imo best size. anways degrade him, talk about how small his penis is in front of his friends
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Ive gotten boob implants and it was one of the best decisions of my life
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Eva_Braun88
What an ass! I'd put him in his place for being a jerk. And joke or not, that is still belittling you. Guys like that get worse, believe me.
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