I've been with my man for 5 years, and we have 2 children together. He is 10 years older than I am. Initially, we had an awesome sex life- neither of us could get enough! Now, my feelings haven't changed, but his have dramatically altered. He lives like a priest when it comes to me, but browses porn online. He claims to love me and be very attracted to me, but all I see is him avoiding having sex with me. We do it maybe twice a month. To me, that is unacceptable. If I mention that, he goes all stressy on me and says I'm too demanding!
I don't have the worlds highest opinion of myself, but I'm not unattractive. Is it normal for him to say I'm too demanding because I want to be intimate with my partner at least once a week? Is it normal that I can walk around in a tight black corset and panties in front of him, and that his reaction is annoyance that I'm in the way of the television?
I don't have the worlds highest opinion of myself, but I'm not unattractive. Is it normal for him to say I'm too demanding because I want to be intimate with my partner at least once a week? Is it normal that I can walk around in a tight black corset and panties in front of him, and that his reaction is annoyance that I'm in the way of the television?
Your husband is acting like a real jerk and you should not put up with it. Read the riot act. Tell him he must go for marital counseling. If he doesn't, start yourself.
There could be a lot going on for him to explain his declining libido, medically perhaps. Or what have you.
But you must let him know that this selfish indifference towards you is unacceptable. Stand up for yourself.
Its normal.
Its like an old habbit, and not anymore exciting thing 2 do. Ask him what he wants.Does he have some fantasy that you could maybe please him?
Its just, we all get sick of each other after a while, so just take it easy.
It may just be one of those things where he wants what he can't have, and because he has you, totally and fully it's not that much of a turn on when he gets it so easily.
I must admit when a girl throws themself at me, for me, it's "too easy" and I don't want to sound like a bad guy here, but it's nice to have to work for it, but that might just be me.
I'm quite tired and what I've wrote might make no sense, but just try this before you do anything as rash as marriage counselling, because that might fuck things up further, just try not offering yourself to him, don't give him it easy, if he goes in for a quick feel make sure to not let him, when he wants sex, tell him you're on your period or you aren't in the mood, make him want it and make him work for it, believe me, if he is anything like me, that will work alot better than throwing yourself at him.
Hope that helps, also hope it makes semi-sense, if you need to talk further on the issuse, feel free to contact me.
Okay, Cheerio and good luck. Xx
The other thing is addressed to ratz: there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with 2 parents having sex once a week, twice a week, hell, even every night of the week. Sex can be good for a couple's relationship so if you were raised to think that a mother and father shouldn't have sex, then there's a problem. Since you're here, obviously they were! :)
Frank... :)
Turns out he had problems at school and couldn't keep up with the others in his class at university and was afraid of failing. We talked about it and we connected on a deeper level , I told him a story of my own school problems and showed him I could relate..and he showed me his ''weaker'' emotional side and it relieved him and took off alot of pressure from his shoulder.
We had a long night of soft, amorous sex that night. We could not have enough , he was all over me !
Maybe there's something going on in his life that bothers him or he could think HE is not attrative enough or something like this?
Or just try to make him a little jealous.. start making yourself pretty and going to clubs with your friends. Without going to the point of ignoring him ( only gonna make it worst) show him that you can still have fun without him and that you are still young!
You could try to do new non-sexual thing as a couple and it could make your emotional bound stronger and get him ''interested'' back in you.
ps; sorry for my english , it's not my mother language!
Sex is an integral part of a relationship and you have every right to be worried and frustrated. Especially since your had a good sex life before. Of course, with time, it's normal to have sex less often, but twice a month is clearly not enough for you and you should do something about it. I really don't think your boyfriend's behaviour is normal.
i wouldn't want to do it with my man if he got too fat or out of shape. mind you, he is chubby.
i'm just asking.
Now, with me, my EX was indeed cheating on me, or at least had been for 2 years with our super skinny childish looking childish acting neighbour! Which fits, because he's now in prison for child sex offences. So I was obviously just too mature and too woman like for his taste. I was more than likely his experiment to see if he could wean himself off of his unnatural desires. You live and learn. I've got a gorgeous bf now who sometimes does not feel like sex. He has things on his mind and he will let me know it is nothing about me, it is his preoccupation with work or similar.