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My Boyfriend Is Being A Bit, Too Obssesive........
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for less then 2 months and hes being a bit too obssesive. Heres How

1)He calls my house sobbing when I dont answer my cell phone 2 times in a row, because he thinks someone broke in and hurt me.

2)Hes so jealous about my guy friends, even the GAY ones. He wants to know what Im doing and who Im talking to at all times. Even when I say Im talking to sissy about girl stuff, he wants to know in detail or he cries.

3)He calls me every hour, even at night, if he wakes up to go pee, he calls me to talk for a few.

4)Within the first 3 weeks of dating he got me a....really expensive....gold necklace for no reason.

5)I was told a bit late about my bestfriends surprise birthday party, after I made plans with the boyfriend, and I havn't seen the bestie in 3 months, while I've seen the bf for the past 3 weeks. So I had her come pick me up to hang and he was MAD. I went to the bathroom to change and his BANGED his fist on the door, when I opened it (with my pocket knife ready)he was inches away from me. Which surprised me.

6)So this weekend, 7th week marker, I was asked by the bestie and him to hang....I choose the bestie, I havnt seen her in 3 weeks. And he was mad. Then I cancelled plans with her because I wasnt feeling good. So when I told the bf I wasnt hanging out with the bestie, he was happy and tried to make plans, but got mad and hung up when I said it was because Im feeling sick. So I turned off my cell, and logged off my IM and Myspace. He kept calling the house. And after about an hour, he showed up at my house, crying. Not like, tear tear, but CRYING. And hes big. Hes 6 feet and a football player for his highschool, so hes not like some little nerd kid, which makes him crying scarier.

7)Everytime I go to his house,he always wants to do something sexual, and he knows I have a problem telling people no, which is bad. I need to practice, but like I said, hes a BIG guy, so even if I said no...

I dont know what to do. I mean, I blew it off at first, I just wasnt used to having someone who cared so much, but now, its just an obsession. He calls me his drug and he tells me he loves me 50 times (if not more) a day. Should I give him a month to calm the crazy or should I dump him now?
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Comments (15)
MrChimpo (22020)
2009-04-20 04:25:26
Holy crap, this guy is crazy. I think you need a restraining order...
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-04-20 04:38:38
You know the answer to this. Say good bye for good & put distance between you. If you have concerns for your safety let people know (friends, family, school, police).
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imrighturwrong (15501)
2009-04-20 20:49:51
this guys is crazy gurl! Tell him it's not working because he is CRAZY! And if he love's u like he says he does then he will let you go.
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lisha590 (22204)
2009-04-21 12:13:12
Omg run and run fast! Controlling obsessive guys have a tendency to become violetn guys as he demonstated when he banged his fists on the door. He has some serious issues u should probably tell him that he needs to work on these issues if he wants to be with you or call it quits. Be sure to surround yourself with people and tell EVERYONE u can what is going on in case he gets violent
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meggriffinU218 (22220)
2009-04-21 19:58:03
I was in sort of the same situation as you, except it was my guy friend and not my boyfriend. You have to try and let him know what he's doing. Obsessive personality probably means he's insecure and you are most likely the only one that makes him feel special. With his somewhat controlling attitude about you hanging out with your best friend, he just wants to know he can control you. That's also with the sexual stuff. You might want to think about telling your parents or somebody who can help you because if he had a pocket knife it's not safe and you could get hurt. You could also break up with him, but thats also dangerous. It would be better for you but he would probably have a fit. With that though, you could just ride it out and if he bothers you tell somebody like the police. You could slowly distance yourself, too. Good luck!
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verppisces030990 (20454)
2009-04-30 10:06:27
dump. him. now. that guy is insane.. :S you might end up getting hurt.. just end it.. :S
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oh_so_meeeeeeeee (22567)
2009-05-01 19:57:02
@: verppisces030990
holy shit are you kidding me!? yeah you definately need to end this... and ASAP. Even if you think he would be upset and try to hurt you, cause he may be upset and to be honest he may even try to hurt you, so do it over the phone or somethin, but i guarantee if you stay with him, youll get hurt!
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Austinsworld (23229)
2009-05-20 01:39:22
Weird, most of the time it's the girl's who are obsessive (well, from what it's like where I live anyway.) :P

Do you think he would go through depression if you dumped him?
Sounds sort of serious, you need to talk to him about it, or get a friend to help you out if you have trouble.
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hundrethsheep (20974)
2009-05-31 00:53:03
This is absolutely not normal. This man has severe problems and will probably end up abusing you physically after awhile. Most abusers are jealous and insecure and act like this guy is acting. He will make you doubt yourself and make you feel guilty for not spending time with him, he will try to create problems between you and your friends and will most likely try to guilt you into not leaving by threating to hurt himself, or will do some other rash thing when you leave. The thing is no matter what he does to try to get you to stay -- the man needs a psychiatrist, not for you to be his girlfriend.

The other reason he might be acting so jealous is that he is cheating on you. Most men act like that when they are unfaithful because they know what they are up to when you are out of sight.

Dump him and find a REAL man, not an insecure whacko.

I recommend reading these
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656

http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_60/97_dating_list.html
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shadow776 (24491)
2009-06-20 23:45:59
yea i dont know, the first thing i would have said was to give him a break because he is suffocating u, but after i read the whole he showed up banging on the door and u opening it and he was sitting there with a pocket knife, i mean then its time 2 hit the ol' dusty trail, for the sake of ur life and ur friends, u dont know what he might do...
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alloutballsout24 (24620)
2009-06-23 18:52:14
dump him, do it before it gets out of hand
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ilikeexspiredmilk (26943)
2009-08-11 02:21:04
if you dump him i bet he will kill you
because hill probaly be like if i cant have no one can kind of things
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nothing2 (29013)
2009-10-15 19:12:26
why would he be interested in your GAY friends? something might be wrong. does he dress well?
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purplecharmz (29918)
2009-10-17 19:23:53
Omg i thought i was the only one. I'm in a similar situation, i've known the guy 3 weeks, been dating for two weeks and he's trying heaps of sexual stuff on me cuz he nos i have a LOT of trouble saying no
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sephff9 (30328)
2009-10-25 23:22:21
To be honest, I would suggest taking a form of legitimate Karate. Knowing that someone your size could take him down should make you feel better about dumping this crazy ass.
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