my dad is obessed with me is that normal?

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I had the same problem, and it made me feel very uncomfortable. If you can tell him that he is making you feel uncomfortable that might help him to realize that he needs to stop obsessing with you.
I know you don't want to make him feel bad, but he's making you feel bad and needs to know that.
Boundaries are important.

My dad made me angry because I was the one who had to set the boundaries and he should have known better than to make me have to do that.

Just know you aren't alone, and that it's not your fault.

Maybe he just worrys about u alot i mean i dont know much about dealing with dads because i dont get along with mine but thats beside the point hes ether worrys about u or theres something more there but u could always ask him y he does it

I think he loves you.

Yeah sounds like it is you who needs to gently set some limits & let him know how his behaviour is affecting you. Is there something that happened that has traumatized him & made him fearful of losing you or something?

him and my got a divorce when i was 13 thats all i can think of..

I think its normal for dads to obsess about their daughters, especially as teenagers who are dating, making their own choices and being generally more independent than when they were kids. In this case, it seems like your dad thinks there are some mixed signals?

Even though it's "taboo", a cute, flirty girl can have an affect on her own father. Has your dad been dating? Does he usually go for younger women?

Either way, it seems that you need to change the relationship to make it work for you...more space or whatever. Once you start bringing your boyfriends around, I think he'll see that you don't like relationships that are that intense.

yea the thing is he does date younger girls since my mom, his gf now is six years older then me...and i have brought bfs around him

i think its creepy that he had a dream about making out with u..... that doesn't sound normal to me.

OK so what is scaring/upsetting you then is just that he is losing it & going over board around you.

As the first post said, set boundaries - which means setting some limits. This will be hard, but he'll survive & learn how to behave appropriately & you'll be better off for it.

Do let him know how you feel in short phrases, not long dialogues. "I don't like being obsessed over."

Don't answer every & all texts or calls - maybe just do one a day, or every second day. If he starts blubbering, change the subject, or walk away. Same if he gets too personal. Tell him to talk with his girlfriend.

The advice from karmalass is very good. And I think you will probably need to set boundaries mostly by your behaviour towards him, not pleading or talking in out.

* it out.

As a dad myself I can see him being obsessed in a way because of your age... I DREAD the day my little girl gets to that age... I plan on buying a big fence and a shotgun lol....so that part I do get...but the dream?? NO FREAKIN WAY!!... thats a sickness.. (A) to actually have a dream like that and (B) to actually tell you!! like wtf!

My dad is just caring all about homework. He doesn't care when i date when i go back to my mom's (Yes my parents are divorced.) its all about homework... -_-

Sure the growing up & leaving the nest has its challenges for everyone. But the slightly over protective Dad whose interest in their daughter's life and well being is at heart & who puts his foot in it now and then isn't what she's talking about.