My best friend ever is dying. He is only 18 years old and terminal on cancer. I still cannot believe I will lose him. I am searching for alternative treatments, better hospitals, better doctors. But all doctors guarantee me there is no ‘miracle’ treatment for him, they tried everything within the medical possibilities. Still I cannot accept defeat, I cannot give up. I gave all my savings away to new search projects, hoping they’ll find a cure in time. I tried all strange things possible, I prayed to all the different Gods I could find in religions, I have sold my soul to devil. I spoke with priests and ‘witches’ to make healing magic on him, even good voodoo. Yet I have no idea if any of this stuff will work. Some people tell me I became paranoid. Even his parents pleaded me to stop, they told me to stop harming myself and that they accepted their son’s destiny. But my sick friend tells me to continue, he is grateful that I try, he thinks I might find a cure, even if it’s some strange spiritual thing. Should I try until the end? Or am I indeed becoming paranoid? Above all, my friend asked me to suicide if he would die. The first time he was delirious with fever, but the second time not. He told me he was afraid of being alone after dying. He wants a friend ‘on the other world’. Should I even contemplate killing myself, if he ends up dying?

It does appear that you have become quite obsessed in trying to find a cure for your friend and it does not sound healthy at all. I know you do not want to hear this but it sounds like your friend is being quite a burden on you. And it seems that your friend secretly takes pleasure in seeing you going to extremes to find some miracle for him. As harsh as it may seem, I believe that he wants for you to share his pain with him.
Your friend must have more love for himself than he does for you. Instead of telling you to end your life, he should be pleading with you to go on and live your life happily. And instead of telling you to leave this world with him, he should be telling you that he will wait for you.
PLEASE DO NOT TAKE YOUR LIFE! Do you know how upset and crazy the people who love you would become? Just like you, they may go to great lengths to try and resurrect you.
People love you. And even more people will come to love you in the future. Do not destroy your tomorrows.
Have patience, you will certainly see him again.
However under no circumstances should the OP commit suicide. Live the life your friend might have led and enjoy every moment for him. That would be a better testament to his life than taking your own.
This guy is obviously scared and yes he may like the idea of you finding a cure for him but what your doing is not healthy for either of you so you need to stop.
whatever you do do not take your life! You will arrive their on your own fate and own time!!! Its not your friends decison on how long your life span is.
Trying to find a religious or spiritual answer to your friend's illness may only be useful if you actually believe in the god or thing you are praying to, so don't waste your time praying to every single deity out there, you could use that time to be with your friend, love can heal you know? At least it can heal sadness (and sometimes it looks like it heals the body too).
I agree with Empathy "I believe that he wants for you to share his pain with him." but who wouldn't? He is probably very scared, much much more than you are. And the fact that you've spent all your savings, prayed to different gods, looked for better doctors and better hospitals just proves that you ACTUALLY are sharing his pain much more than most people would do for anyone they care.
BUT commiting suicide it's just not a solution to anything, it doesn't mean you are sharing his pain because if he dies he will be in pain no more. You sound like the kind of person everyone would love to have as a friend, and with only 18 years people say we have a whole life to come, do you know how much it would hurt the people who love you if you even think of commiting suicide? Do you want them to be desperate for an answer, to a question the may not even understand, as you are? Life is overwhelming, but there is beauty everywhere, and if your friend dies and you two love each other as much as it looks like, he will be with you and you will be with him even if none of you notice, you dont need to kill yourself for that to happen.
Good luck, i hope the best for you. :)
1) there is no afterlife, in which case killing yourself doesn't result in seeing your friend.
2) There is an afterlife as several religions describe and killing yourself results in eternal damnation. (In which case, whatever being lords over said damnation isn't interested in you comforting, visiting, or even being aware of your friend).
3) Nobody has it right and something other afterlife occurs, you may get be aware of your friend, you may not be.
My belief is 2 out of 3 options ends in your sacrifice of life is pointless. The third only has a random chance of your suicide having any point at all.
By committing suicide you're very likely wasting your life and providing no relevant help for your friend.
You're friend isn't selfish, he is scared.
Honey, I hope you have done whatever is right in your heart.
Don't give up your search either. Keep that hope burning because crazy, miraculous things HAVE happened before.
If your friend does loose this fight know that you're life can go on and that, maybe even because of this, you can go on to do something amazing. Believe that he will in some way go on too and you just might make it so.
No one can really prepare for such a heart-wrenching end but the two of you are very brave for a least trying.
I don't know you or him, but it seems to me that if you give up, that he will too. Yet, you have to think about if this is good for yourself too. You're fighting a losing battle, and I have a feeling that the more you put into it, the more it will hurt when he finally dies.
I'm not going to try to rationalize this by saying "God has a plan for everyone," because that's bullshit. What's the plan for the kid who has to die at 18, and never had the chance to live his life, have a career, a wife, a family? But I will say that everyone dies. Sorry that sucks
I'm glad you are trying everything possible. But killing yourself won't really make him happy after he is gone. He says that now only because he is scared. Which is understandable. Just be supportive while he is still here.
Peace
Please don't do this, its bad enough that you are consdering it.
I'm not saying stop trying or hoping. But don't kill yourself because of it. There is a heaven, still believe that. And think what it would do to your friends and family, and more to the point, his parents. Imagine what would happen if they'd just lost their son, and then you kill yourself because of him. They then have all the guilt to deal with aswell as the grief, and that's not fair.
I don't mean to be harsh, but someone has to say it. Life isn't fair sometimes and the crap always happens to the people who deserve it the least. But sometimes in the end, however scary it seems, death is a release and takes away all their pain. And that's what you've got to remember.
thats my solid advise.
think of your OWN family and friends.
think of what your life could be.
LIVE for the BOTH of you,dont die for one.
Nobody wants to loose a friend,but what kind of friend ask's you to take your own life, for his benefit? you have already given away so much and gone through so much to help save his life, but It is to much to ask for your life.
Please don't do anything stupid and think about the people that love you and would miss you if you were gone from this world.
Good luck!
Also, you should talk to someone about the way u feel...
I hope you realise...
It is very nice you have decided to support your friend. I have a hope there might be cure for him. Your friend thinks about his future with fear. Fear and love are the strongest emotions. Tell him about Jesus, there is nothing he should fear. It is great he has you. You are helping him to live. Forget about suicide. You need to be strong to help him, mentally stronger than he is. You should try to heal any bad emotions if you have one.
I believe in process of healing it's very important the choice you make. Think, what would be most important one, most beneficial choice for both of you. Love your friend as you love yourself.
I do hope that a cure is found. I suggest prayer - and that you get your friend to ray as well - to whatever good higher power you both can believe in. It won't always work, but there have been some miraculous reports! And this type of meditation has the power to soothe - maybe it can at least make him less scared of dying alone. You and your friend are in my prayers as well for what it is worth!
If you are willing to try anything this will cure him!!!!!!!
Read about rick simpson's "running from the cure" and i hope its not too late by the time you read this!!! Act fast! And learn from this information! It will save your best friend!!!!
You have mentioned you had tried everything. I would advice your friend to eat totally RAW VEGAN ORGANIC DIET. Hippocrates says: “Let food be thy medicine and medicine thy food.”
Nutritionist recommends how to cure cancer:
“This is or will be the hardest single thing to follow, but it is very important. Only raw organic fruits, vegetables, nuts and sprouted grain are what you will be eating until your cancer is in remission. Nothing cooked; no cooked beans, bread, potatoes, etc. Sounds tough, but let me tell you this is much easier then taking chemotherapy and having your hair fall out, vomiting, being weak, etc. And , of course chemotherapy will not build up your immune system. Instead it will tear it down. Organic raw food is live food and possesses the highest nutritive value. It is full of vitamins, mineral, enzymes, phytochemicals, etc. Cooked food is dead food, plant any seed and it will grow. Cook the seed and then plant it and it will not grow, because its life principle has been destroyed. Place cancer cells in a cooked media and they will proliferate. Now place the cancer cells in a raw matter and they will disappear! This astounding fact is known to the Cancer society, but the public was never informed.”
Raw food has to be organic only. It is not enough that it says on packing that it's organic. There has to be small logo of Soil Association Organic Standard in UK
http://organicrules.org/1819/1/Soil_Association_symbol.JPG
and USDA in USA
http://www.organicfacts.net/organic-food/organic-food-basics/how-to-identify-organic-products.html
Why it has to be only organic watch on:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Z1C8VKtLwY
Other important links how to cure cancer:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndOE-qMLMTg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4DOQ6Xhqss
In this case vitamin C should be taken intravenously. As vitamin C supplementation in tablets I would recommend Ester C from Solgar because it works as time realised:
http://www.solgar.co.uk/product/ester-c-1000mg-tablets-180-E1053.html
Other links:
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/pdq/cam/gerson/HealthProfessional/page3/print
Do more of research about raw food. It definitely works.
God bless you!
I always try to give him hope. We used to be Christians, but seriously I don’t know if I believe in the Christian God anymore. I don’t know if I believe in any God at all. I just continue praying. But I can’t push myself to convince him about Jesus’ love, I would sound like a hypocrite, because I can’t understand how a God would let people suffer this much. It’s so confusing. Instead I always tell him there is life after death and that his antecedents will take care of him.
Make him happy until the end, you'll see him again.
- Coenzyme Q10, 90mg daily, improves cellular oxygenation.
- Garlic (Kyolic from Wakunaga), 2 capsules 3 times daily, enhances immune functions.
- Inositol hepaphosphate (IP6), has powerful anticancer properties, possesses natural killer cell activity.
- Melatonin, 2-3mg daily, taken 2 hours or less before bedtime, a powerful antioxidant that also aids sleep.
- Methylsulfonylmethane (MSM) a powerful cancer prevention agent.
- Selenium, 200 mcg daily. Do not exceed a total daily intake of 800 mcg daily from all sources, including diet. Powerful free radical scavenger and protector against cancer. Aids in protein digestion. Caution: Do not take supplemental selenium if you have heart, kidney or liver disease.
- 7-Keto DHEA, a metabolite of DHEA that possesses anticancer properties without being converted into testosterone or estrogens.
- Shark cartilage (BeneFin), for cancer treatment 1 gm per 2 lbs of body weight daily, divided into 3 doses. If you cannot tolerate taking it orally, it can be administered in a retention enema. For cancer prevention 2000-4500 mg 3 times daily. Has been shown to inhibit and even reverse the growth of some types of tumors. Also stimulates the immune system.
- Superoxide dismutase (SOD), destroys free radicals. Consider injections (under doctor’s supervision)
- Vitamin A (Micellized Vitamin A emulsion from American Biologics), 50,000 IU daily for 10 days, then reduce to 25,000 IU daily. People with cancer require higher than normal amounts of this antioxidant. Use emulsion form for easier assimilation and greater safety at higher doses. Capsule forms put more stress on liver.
- Carotenoid complex with beta-carotene enhances natural killer cell activity. Low beta-carotene levels have been especially associated with lung, bronchial and stomach cancer.
- Vitamin E, up to 1,000 IU daily, a powerful antioxidant and cancer-fighter. Use d-alpha-tocopherol emulsion form for easier assimilation and greater safety at high doses.
- Vitamin C with bioflavonoids, 5,000–20,000 mg daily in divided doses. Powerful anticancer agent that promotes the production of interferon in the body.
I understood he can't digest raw food. Under these circumstances it would be worth trying to eat raw food - fruits and vegetables prepared in blender or juicer.
He should avoid peanuts, saturated fats, salt, sugar, or white flour. Instead of salt, use sea salt, kelp, or a potassium substitute. Avoid all teas except for herbal teas.
Preferred is food with lots of fiber as clean bowels are very important. Person is as healthy as his/her bowels. Regular bowel movement helps to get rid of toxins and all body waste.
If you can buy book (on Amazon, might get it in whole food store):
Prescription for Nutritional Healing, Fifth Edition: A Practical A-To-Z Reference to Drug-Free Remedies Using Vitamins, Minerals, Herbs & Food Supplements.
The best would be find some specialized nutritionist center, someone who has years of experience with passion helping others, but you had already mentioned it.
This book is great and helped me a lot. I have third edition. There is already the fifth updated addition. I can recommend some SUPPLEMENTS from this book against cancer in general as I didn't find reference form acute lymphoblastic leukemia.
- Grifron maitake D-fraction from Maitake Product, a mushroom extract that contains D-fraction form of isolated beta-1,6-glucan, a substance that prevents carcinogenesis and inhibits the growth of cancerous tumors. Also helps the body adapt to the stress of cancer treatments such as chemotherapy.
HELPFUL
- Acidophilus (Probiata from Wakunaga) has an antibacterial effect on the body. Use non-dairy formula.
- Chromium picolinate, at least 600 mcg daily, helps to build and maintain muscle mass. Useful if muscle atrophy exists.
- Flaxseed oil, has antioxidant properties and may protect against, and prevent spread of, cancer.
- Kyolic-EPA from Wakunaga, speed healing.
- Grape seed extract, a powerful antioxidant.
- Kelp or seaweed, 1,000-1,500 mg daily. For mineral balance and to help the body avoid damage resulting from radiation therapy.
- L-Carnitine, protects against damage from free radicals and toxins. Use a form derived from fish liver (squalene).
- Multienzyme complex, to aid digestion.
There is much more to write. The important thing is to avoid any dairy products. To eat low-fat diet and supplement omega 3.
- Curcumin, an extract from the spice turmeric, is gaining attention for its antioxidant properties and its ability to protect against cancer.
- Tomatoes, onions, rosemary, green tea...
- It says: “Do not eat any animal protein – never eat luncheon meat, hot dogs, or smoked or cured meats. As your condition improves, eat broiled fish three times a week.”
I pray for him. God bless
All the best, be strong, he needs you.
To touch on the issue of faith I'd have to say heartbreaking situations can either break your faith or restore it. When it comes to death we never see why "god" would take young children or wonderful people from us. We don't understand why rapist and murders live yet your best friend has to die. It's not fair. And it will never be. The only thing you can do is make peace with this issue. It's not the end of the world if you choose not to believe. One day your faith will be restored. I hope this helps ;)
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But I wanted to comment to tell you that there are alternatives to cancer treatment, I once watched a documentary about how there is some centers that treat cancer where cancer patients eat high amounts of fruit and vegetables and are treated with high amounts of vitamins and it really does work.
Also, I'd recommend reading the book "The China Study" by T. Colin Campbell, PHD. It talks about how meat causes many diseases, and cancers (animal proteins cause it) and going vegan can reverse these diseases and stop cancer and reverse cancer growth.. so a vegan, plant based diet for your friend could very well be helpful as well.
So I just wanted to let you know about these options to look into that could help since you really seem to want to try anything to save your friend.
I have no friends to worry about
I personally would like ding holding the hand of somebody I love while he/she is ding as well.Ding together holding hands.Possibly after the last meal the last joint and the last shag.In this order.If you plan to kill yourself you might wanna do it in a cool way.Even known I think it would be an awful waste.But before you do it,make your friend knock up some fine chick.Children are our only immortality.
That would be my last wish.If I had any strenght left in me to do it.And,don't get fooled,you'll never meet him again.
But you can raise his child..wouldn't that be just awesome?If you can't do it right now,save some of his sperm!Some of his cells!put it under liquid nitrogen for later use!If you can't freeze him whole...maybe one day cloning won't be illegal and...
It sounds crazy doesn't it?Well,it would most likely work better than praying!
You have my sympathy.For what's worth.
Psalm 34:18
"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
John 3:16
"For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son (Jesus) so that whoever believes in Him might have eternal life."
People live on in memories and love and his family memories of him wont be yours.
am i making any sense...I hope so.
I lost my mum to cancer 7 years ago and only now am I learning to live with this. Through grief I very nearly ended my life but the thought of putting my kids through the pain I was going through stop me.
I wish you the answers to your prayers and peace in your heart
DONT DO IT
TL;DR version: it's your choice, but think about it carefully, as its your life.
You're too hard on yourself. Death is something that happens to everyone. It happens to some younger than other. But it's a fact, and you have to accept fact.
"Let my family mourn my passing but not my loss,
and let them heal knowing I will see them again"
Same as I believe in Christian beliefs as long as you believe in it, whatever you are, christian or pagan you will see your friend again
If you really love your best friend, just pray dude. In one way or another, prayers always turns everything at its best.
this is their path not yours.
peace be with you.
DON'T KILL YOURSELF!!!!!!!!
You're feeling this pain because your friend is dying right? Well your gonna do the same thing to your whole family if you kill yourself!!!
YES, THERE ARE WAYS THAT CANCER CAN BE CURED EVEN WHEN THERE'S NOT AN INCH OF POSSIBILITY AND ALL DOCTORS HAVE GIVEN UP ON YOU. REMEMBER THIS. LET THIS SOAK IN YOU BECAUSE IT'S TRUE.
If you're looking for remission, I'd directly go for the BEST: there's a man called Gerald Kein (I am *not* related to him in any way and won't get a cent for this) that has got people to find their REMISSIONS. He's American and he's a hypnotist (I too am a hypnotist, and even though I know the technique, I wouldn't risk people's lives saying that I know I can cure them because I'm still denifinitely not *that* tried and tested. Kein's got about 50 years of work in the field of hypnosis, and is a nice, funny old chap. He's a great person to get to know.)
Hurting yourself,and I know you're in emotional pain also,is doom for you,and no turning back .
Your friend wouldn't want that of you. If you are a true friend,just be there for your friend. It will mean more than you could ever know.
One day,you will be happy with your decision to be with your friend til the end.It's an awesome gift to be there for someone !
Studies show THC starves cancer cells. Google it there is a lot of information on this. If he's not already try to get him a medical marijuana card if your state has it. Though not a cure for cancer(though it may reduce the risk of a tumor living to that point and may slow the growth of a malignant tumor) it might give him more time.
Why Not Today?
My granddad got lung cancer and gr lived for five more months than expected we tried a lot but his time came
You were destined to be born otherwise you woulnt be on earth!!!
You have a life so you should enjoy it while it lasts
Sorry, but that's not worth it.
You need to find one religion you like.
For example,I'm catholic, which means christian (duh) and if your friend died he would go to heaven (if he was a good guy) Ok, you sold ur soul...sorry.
And voodoo? Come on.
And since you sold your soul..you won't be with him "on the other world anyways."
Life is nothing, remember that.
Sorry.
No, you should not commit suicide. Who knows if there is an afterlife? What if there isn't? Its existence hasn't been proved. If there wouldn't be one it would be just a pointless waste of life...
I'm sure your friend would not want that for you. If he truly is your friend, he'd want you to live a long and happy life, and be happy if you found someone else when he isn't with you anymore.
my brother's best friend int he world killed himself and my brother wanted to kill himself.
please don't kill yourself.
that is not going to change the fact that your friend is going to die or is dead(if he does pass away) one day you two will meet again.
i also believe that if someone commits suicide they will go to hell.
you need to try and be strong for yourself.
Need for suicide D:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0psJhQHk_GI
i have not tested this myself, but i have met people who have and apparently it works absolutely as well as they say, also a lady i know who is suppose to be dead by this christmas because of cancer (she has 5 tumors) started taking this and within 2 weeks 2 of her tumors were decreasing in size by a noticable amount
to die because of the one you love is not poetry but a symetry of events
stay posotive because there is always hope and you have to be posotive to see that there is hope yet
peace out
1. The Silva method (either him, you or both) probably would be best if you downloaded audio lectures somewhere online for free, in person lectures cost a shitload
2. Read (both of you ideally) Robert Monroe trilogy, or start with the first book "Journeys out of the body" (to find out what happens after physical death).
Hope you still get the chance to read this and that you at least check it out,
may you always be better and better.
If he goes into remission, which he probably won't, all's good. If not, he dies. And there's no changing that. I understand you want to go for everything that could possibly increase his chances, but what you're doing now ain't it.
What you got is a bit of super hero syndrome. You can't solve all problems. Sometimes the won't, can't go away. Period, end of story. Keep your friend good company. But don't let his damn genes interfere with your life. You don't need to let two people die, do you?
Although really, if you want to off yourself, have at it.