My friend just got pregnant and now I HATE her

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She's obviously just excited like many other women would be, just because your opinion on baby matters is different to hers, doesn't mean you should hate her, perhaps you could talk to her about you issues and explain that perhaps she shouldn't talk about babies aroudn you.

Hi there, it is normal for you to feel this way. It is difficult in this world today to survive for ourselves and many people bring babies into the world for selfish reasons. You sound like a real sensible lady to me and you are lucky to be out of it. If these women want babies, let them carry on as long as you dont have to hear about it. I have no problem with women myself who want babies, thats up to them but If you dont want to hear all this stuff about her having this baby, keep your distance from this woman and limit the contact that way you cant get offended by what she says to you, you are in control, you dont have to listen to anything that upsets or angers you, good luck x

Wow. Both of those comments make a lot of sense. I guess I really don't hate her, I just don't understand why I get this violent angry feeling. It's not jealousy. If I wanted one, my husband would be fine with that. I just don't get it. And I hope I didn't sound like a total pscyho. I am polite to her when we hang out. I'm just not my bubbly, talkative self.

I think you need meds. Why are you raining on her parade?

You are annoyed because your friend is being very self absorbed.

Her whole life revolves around this baby now. She will have it, and in about a year she will be bored and maybe want, say, a bigger house that she can talk endlessly about. Or maybe a trip to Cancun will fill the void, then something else. You get the idea.

You seem happy living day to day with your husband. That's great!

you hate someone for getting pregnant? you sound like a real prick

and you sound like your a little gender confused and jealous

you need to be happy for her , not be an ass to her, shes going to have it hard enough without your bull$hit

If I had a friend like you and I got pregnant and you started acting like that toward me I would knock your teeth out

I have no idea why this would be so upsetting to you. I'd understand if YOU accidently got preggers, but she's just excited young new mommy to be. Let her enjoy it!

Procreation is our destiny. Maybe you should do your body and the planet a favor and get knocked up. You'll enjoy it, my wife never wanted kids and was actually pro-choice until she felt our little girl start to kick and it changed her whole life. You sound very angry and a little baby will most likely fix your selfish mouth.

god you sound really mean!you obviously havent been pregnant before,its exciting and not all of us see it as'ripping you apart from the inside' that is what pregnant people are going to talk about.when you say whats so special about children?well they cant do anything for themselves at such a young age so they need to be fussed over your child would grow up a cold weirdo if you didnt fuss them.what are you going to do be a straight faced blunt bitch when you get pregnant you just wait hahahaha

LOL! I'm sorry to make light of it, but that is hilarious! Hey at least you admit it! I felt exactly the same way before I had kids. I hated kids, hated pregnant women. Pregnant women totally disgusted me and bored me with all their talk about babies and pregnancy! But then I got pregnant by accident and it changed my whole world. I don't feel that way anymore, now I actually enjoy talking to pregnant women! I think it's totally normal for you to feel this way. I definitel understand why you do!

she's doing something she wants to do, it's not your place to judge just because you have a different view. let her ber a little happy.

i wholeheartedly agree with you. i think it's hard for people with dreams and goals to understand how some women think that the solution to life's problems is just to get pregnant. isn't there ANYTHING else you'd like to aspire to be besides "mommy"? especially a 25 year old, it's like, don't you want to have a life and enjoy being a newlywed for uh, a few days at least?? it's so baffling. well enjoy your brat-free, screaming-free, life with lots of extra money that you won't be spending on diapers, and when you're getting a wonderful night's sleep, think of your friend who has been up for 10 hours with a screaming baby.

No. Sorry but I think you are being the big baby and resent that she is actually going to get attention (because she deserves support, is pregnant and that is a huge event) that you feel entitled to yourself.

Your anger & contempt seems kind of narcissistic, don't you think? Do you actually believe that YOU are being treated badly because of babies and pregnancy in general & hers in particular?

Makes me wonder what your real issue with all this is. After all, having children may not be for you. That's fine. But it is important for your friend. And you are being horrible and disrespectful about it.

Shame on you.

Has a Dr. every told you your womb was a ininhabitable wasteland that will never nuture life? if so, you could be jealous.

If not, then you are just in a different place in your life and you should just ignore her or find other friends.

I am married with three kids and people I know that have no kids and go on and on about one nightstands, getting STDs and petty stuff really annoy me.

From my point of view, you are completely normal. I personally wouldn't have a friend who was pregnant. And if a friend of mine ever did get pregnant, I would no longer continue being their friend. I'll admit I'm a selfish human being, and want to be of utmost importance to my friends and family. Children always take that away.
Going to childfree forums is really cool, cause you can make really good friends who feel the same way as you. It's hard being friends with people who want babies so much (the term for this behaviour is "baby rabies", which is what your friend seems to have ATM.)
There's nothing wrong with not liking babies and not liking it when friends have them.

Uhhhh I feel really tempted but I'm not going to read the other comments. Otherwise I'm gonna be here all night long, OPINIONIZING.(man that's a bitch of a word)

Anyway... I think there may be some issues there because you say you HATE her. I feel dislike would be okay and acceptable even. Hate is something that's a bit too strong to come from simple annoyedness.

Let me preface this next part by saying I'm not American or British, so I'm very much removed from those "western" cultures. However your cultural waves, esp. from America, are a massive influence on my country. And I feel like this whole motherhood thing is becoming really cultish. I've been getting really creepy vibes from over the pond... for example, from 'professional homemakers'. The state of being a parent has been turned into this whole career and TONS of literature (well, 'literature' IYKWIM) and media time are being dedicated to it.

I completely agree that being pregnant DOES NOT make you the most important person on the planet to everyone else. It's very understandable that an expectant mother will be highly excitable and her unborn child will probably become THE most important subject of her life at that time. However this is, nevertheless, huge egotism on her part. If she feels the need to devote every part of her to the child and child only, she really should find LIKE-MINDED women. Yes, children are a big thing, but a parent's wonder is a parent's wonder. You can't expect the world to ever be as enraptured as a mother is by her baby :)

this is a rediculous story.
just dont hang out with her then. let her at least be happy even if your not.

No, you are not at all normal to HATE someone because they are pregnant. It may be normal to be disappointed and annoyed, but HATE and ANGER? No, sorry. NOT normal. Seek professional help before you hurt someone.