I was at my friend's house the other day, I lived with her for a while along with her husband. She says she wants to apply for disability because her husband does not give her enough money.
The point is not that she is disabled. She IS disabled. However, her husband brings home six figures. She'd get laughed out of the office. Not only that, but she gets $1000 a month minimum as an allowance from her husband as well as two brand new cars and everything that she needs to live a happy and comfortable life. But she can't handle her money, she just wants more money to spend on senseless bullshit!
I AM PISSED! My friends that are on disability don't have it because they want more money to go out and buy BULLSHIT and fill their pampered, comfortable lives with more IPads and smart phones, they use it to pay their bills and feed their kids! I consider this to be an insult to everyone that NEEDS the system. Her even contemplating using a vital government service that thousands actually NEED to make her life a bit more cushy and comfortable almost made me punch her.
Is it normal that I am this pissed off about my friend wanting disability i.e. more spending money?
The point is not that she is disabled. She IS disabled. However, her husband brings home six figures. She'd get laughed out of the office. Not only that, but she gets $1000 a month minimum as an allowance from her husband as well as two brand new cars and everything that she needs to live a happy and comfortable life. But she can't handle her money, she just wants more money to spend on senseless bullshit!
I AM PISSED! My friends that are on disability don't have it because they want more money to go out and buy BULLSHIT and fill their pampered, comfortable lives with more IPads and smart phones, they use it to pay their bills and feed their kids! I consider this to be an insult to everyone that NEEDS the system. Her even contemplating using a vital government service that thousands actually NEED to make her life a bit more cushy and comfortable almost made me punch her.
Is it normal that I am this pissed off about my friend wanting disability i.e. more spending money?
Ready. Set. Rage at me.
By the way, her brother is just as bad. His wife left him because he didn't feel like he should have to work for his money and that she needed to carry the entirety of the financial burden... and the domestic activities. Her son is a money grubbing little cock who only smiles at you if he thinks you have a buck for him.
While I appreciate your insights, this post is not about you and your agenda. It is not about money grubbing females. It is about my feeling towards my friend and my asking you whether or not they are justified.
If you need me to answer the point I already think you know the answer to, then I will.
Yes, it is normal to dislike a selfish person trying to gain more money by exploting their dissabilities, when they get more than most people do, for free no less.
There is an element of truth to what you are saying. She sees her allowance as compensation for her services as a homemaker and is actually resentful of her husband for paying his employees (who have bills to pay and mouths to feed) more than she is paid. I find this to be totally ridiculous for many reasons, including the fact that those employees do more work in one hour than she does all week. She's lazy.
Please do not allow her to serve as an example for homemakers. Every other homemaker I know easily contributes as much to the household as her husband and is grateful to her husband for giving her the increasingly rare opportunity to be able to stay at home and raise her kids. I don't believe that any of them require monetary compensation for what is the natural duty that they signed up for.
She pisses me off.
Agreed, people like that piss me off.
If you don't like it, don't contribute to the number of females doing it.
Keep doing you, I love your comments dude.
For example, nobody cares at all about me? Weird, coming from someone that cares enough to reply to me twice. If you are going to state something, atleast do it in a way that isn't easy enough to flip back on to you, it saves me from explaining how irrational you are by your comment being betrayed by the whole act of replying to me.
Secondly, I have full list of stories I could share of people raging at me, which would beg to differ.
You seem to make a habit of "trying" to be offensive, but you do it in such an average way that it makes me think how cute it is of how hard you try to insult people.
Schoolyard antics won't "upset me", you lack what it takes to "upset me", and the "nobody cares about you" comment shows that all you have to offer is insults a twelve year old would have. You going to call me a poo poo pants, too? Atleast do it right, kiddo.
I'm going to have fun with you, I can tell.
Poo poo pants hahaha...
Didn't you know? You have to have rationality to play in my league. I expected no more and no less from you.
I could go in to depth about how ironic your reply is, although I think you want to scurry away, so I'll let you.
The ones that have nothing to do with you barely or vaguely answer the question, that which I do not blame you for directly or indirectly.
Yes, OP, I would be totally pissed at your friend, as well. Completely normal.
That guy really has a way of hijacking a post and making it "all about me" huh?
I have friends that are on disability that legitimately need it. That disability money goes towards their essentials, their kids' school supplies, their rent etc. and they are on disability because they have no other means of income.
This woman has all of her essentials and then some provided for her but she is terrible with her money. She spends like it is literally not an object and the thought of her using a government service that people use to LIVE just so she can spend more money angers me.
Its possible you can get access to front (huge) parking bays at the shops. You can get discounts on just about everything (ie you still pay money, but not as much as others) You even get tax benefits, especially if you are running your own business. I mean it goes on and on.
These disability or pension entitlements (possibly a card that you present when required) can help in all types of areas, where you may not receive actual money (ie The 'government may decline any 'payments') BUT you still get the entitlements it allows.
ie Children are expensive! Sports; school fees; even entertainment. Having a 'dissability' card, may also help out with family matters (again no actual cash given out though for ones who are financially secure already)
Plus, I wanted to say that whatever YOU (meaning everyone reading) get paid, is NEVER enough. Are you suggesting that if their employer said You are getting a pay increase that these people (or anyone) would say No? Of course extra money helps, however financial you are. Otherwise Microsoft would just give out Windows for free, I mean they have enough not to go broke for years!
When she applies for the dissability pension make sure to tell her she also gets free ambulance rides. Because those things can cost the Earth for a 1 mile drive down the road!
Also you said she IS disabled. Therefore she should get it. Since our society helps those that cause more taxes and rises in footpaths costs etc etc to everyone else. 'Normal' is basically frowned upon. Look a disabled person, every one step aside let her through, a century or so ago she would have died at birth!
She couldn't get it anyway. She hasn't worked in over twenty years.
By the way I'm not disabled in any way. And I notice that those who are generally spend their days shopping only for hours on end, hence the 'disable' zones.
Think of it this way (this should get you away from the 'cash' point) When the hospitals say 'no beds', or you wait for hours at the doctors, or our taxes for better roads and footpaths etc go up, its usually because 'disable' people come first! Now is that an upside down world or what?
Aliens land and ask who is cared for and respected by society the most. Well the sick and disabled of course. They are the face of our culture! Pretty sure the aliens would say, what about the strong and intellligent? Oh, we put those ones to work, except we make MOST of them work in menial jobs, basically society has no time (or money!) for healthy people. We hate them!
:D
Please explain. The issue is not the benefits, it is the money. Her disability is depression, arthritis and migraines.
I really don't know what you are talking about.
Then by getting the 'dissability pension', in actual fact sh would only be getting the 'benefits'. Like: Hospital care etc etc etc etc etc (There is a LOT of extras!)
That's what I'm talking about!
She doesn't leave the house except to shop. I didn't know about any other of the benefits. I am assuming you live in the US?
But I tend to stay anonymous on that too (although quite obviously staff know)
In my view it shouldn't matter where I'm from, my opinions aren't based on place of origin. ie If I lived in the North pole or south pole, it wouldn't change my viewpoints on any personal matters (except possibly eskimo kissing Lol)
Anyway, if she's not interested in any other benefits? Or as far as you know its only for the (possible) financial gain. Well then she IS disabled, so all good :) Could you possibly donate a few bucks to her? I mean she's disabled! The top of the human race that someone could aspire to in our society ;)
I have the feeling that you're kidding me with your last paragraph. I really have not been able to understand anything you have said so far. Sorry.
Geez now I feel sorry for her (and so I should!)
Its depressing. Wait a minute.. That means I could get a benefit, I'm depressed over your state of affairs.
Since you are not aware of anything I said, as it must not exist in the US? Then tell her to move, to a BETTER country, where the sick and poor are looked after and given houses etc etc etc. Wait, you don't actually know either! OMG, I've opened a can of worms. Meaning US citizens are going to ask where the hell is your money going? That's a concern.
Have you even... read... anything that I have said? She is not impoverished. She is upper-middle class.
I don't know of the benefits available but I don't know whether or not they exist. I have not looked into it, I have never needed it. Social Security Disability is a government check. That is what she is talking about applying for. Plenty of citizens wonder where our money is going and while I study our financial state, even professionals in my field of study have voiced concern.
I don't understand if you're trying to attack me or what? Did I say something?
Anyway, I get half price for car insurance and yearly licensing
I get nearly half price at ALL entertainment areas (cinema, pools, amusement parks, etc) for the entire family!
I get cheaper school fees, and discounts on required clothing.
And I even got a house (as per normal) of which I do pay rent at HALF (approx.) the normal rental rate.
There are many other benefits, like money off bills and concession for this and that.
The point is there is NO cash given to me (actually for sake of argument there is cash but that's not my point) ALL these things are helping me (us family) live normally.
same applies to 'dissability pension'.
Free ambulance ride (if ever needed)
Free or major (mostly) discount on anything medical (ie dental fillings or extractions either FREE or about $25 at MOST
The benefits continue and continue and continue. Actually I'm positive I am not using everything that I could use on it (since for one I hate hospitals and doctors just for me)
I have expected! That this woman would also receive 'benefits', with or without cash benefit as well (dependant upon her finance)
Therefore. This would be a GOOD idea for this woman (if she even gets one thing discounted) even though she may (or may not) receive any cash.
Tell her to 'go for it'.
Her husband brings home about $150,000 a year. This is just his business income, after his income from stocks and other various investments, he brings home more.
Her need is calculated based upon her income. Her husband's income is calculated into that as well. Henceforth, her household income is $150k+. She would not get aforementioned benefits due to that.
She would get the parking, but as for your benefits listed, should would not get anything because her income is far above the determination for need.
And although she is financially secure (that YOU constantly bring up) I still 'believe' the benefits continue since she will be classified as Dissability Pensioner (highly likely without 'cash' benefit, but everything else YES (that's my most likely point of view!)
By the way, this is my point.
She 'may' only be applying for this damn thing to get 'other' benefits, that she is entitled to.
So you can't just say she doesn't need it (on her income alone) as 'Dissability pension' ENTITLES her to those parking spots and likely a WHOLE range of cheaper or FREE stuff!
She is only interested in applying for the check. She does not care about the other benefits. She just wants the check. And that is why I am angry. The more money she has, the more she spends and she is in enough debt as is. She doesn't need more money, she needs more financial discipline. That's my gripe.
Your original topic quote: "Is it normal that I am this pissed off about my friend wanting disability i.e. more spending money?"
About the money only? Yes that seems to be a bit over the top for her present luxurious lifestyle.
Unless she feels she'll have some type of independence by getting her own (government) income, instead of just getting the ongoing free money from hubby.
Either way, she doesn't need the money.
Out of curiosity, just what IS her disability, anyway?
Anywho, it's pretty screwed up that she'd take away from people who actually need the fantastic $700 per month to pay their most basic needs.
She needs to live some real life, she obviously doesn't understand the meaning.
She won't qualify for government welfare for disabilities because of their high family income - and with it and any other income program (pensions, worker's comp and workplace insurers) independent medical documentation is needed - often on an ongoing basis - demonstrating that you can't work. You will also likely be expected to pursue rehab, re-training and expected to accept employment that accommodates the disability.
People with disabilities work. Some can not. But just having a disability in itself doesn't exempt you from work or automatically entitle you to income support with no strings attached.
The woman may be misinformed and just blowing smoke. Or she may have a bona fide problem to which she does indeed qualify for help. Either way, you may wish to step back and mind your own business because you are just getting needlessly upset.
"Either way, you may wish to step back and mind your own business because you are just getting needlessly upset."
Edit:I worded this very rudely and if you read it, I apologize. She is married into my family and what she has been doing with her money and legal business lately has been directly affecting my family and she tells me everything. I believe I am allowed to react to what I am told and the business of my family.
She is making my family miserable. Otherwise, I would not give a shite.
Either way, I know that she would not qualify, and this has happened before where she had said job but she refused to continue working even with accommodations.
it is kind of pointless to even get it if hes giving her $1000.00 that will be cut off her disability money only if she tells them he gives her that money they'll take that amount away from her check.
they did to me when i told them i was working.