I recently got married into a warm loving family.
I love my husband and am quite close to his family.
He has an older sister who is also married and has 2 children.
And I' m not overly fond of them because I think they are spoilt by their parents, it's not the kids fault. I do try a bit but find them really spoilt and bossy so I can't see them often.
They aren't disciplined at all.
However, we moved cross country before we got married and were looking forward to some family time and time with his parents before the wedding.
However, we didn't get any time alone with his parents. All they were interested in is spending time with their grandchildren who they see every week anyway.
We arranged a catchup and whatever reason they didnt show, or try to make it up to us.
The morning of the wedding we asked them to control the kids at the wedding, as it's our moment. We don't want them running around. I honestly expected that they would get a babysitter.
But no, they didn't arrange a babysitter and our wedding dance became an upmarket kiddies party.
They are completely oblivious.
Before they left the following day we said we hadn't spent time together and his mother said that they do things as a family: as if she's forgotten that her own son is her family.
Everything is about the grandchildren, even my wedding.
I used to really like her before, and felt so close to her as my parents are dead.
But I honestly felt better off compared to my husband, whose parents are obsessed with their grandchildren and make us feel like we are on the periphery.
I don't want to talk to her for a while
and I feel like the whole family is like a cult worshipping those children.
Is this normal or am I overreacting?
I love my husband and am quite close to his family.
He has an older sister who is also married and has 2 children.
And I' m not overly fond of them because I think they are spoilt by their parents, it's not the kids fault. I do try a bit but find them really spoilt and bossy so I can't see them often.
They aren't disciplined at all.
However, we moved cross country before we got married and were looking forward to some family time and time with his parents before the wedding.
However, we didn't get any time alone with his parents. All they were interested in is spending time with their grandchildren who they see every week anyway.
We arranged a catchup and whatever reason they didnt show, or try to make it up to us.
The morning of the wedding we asked them to control the kids at the wedding, as it's our moment. We don't want them running around. I honestly expected that they would get a babysitter.
But no, they didn't arrange a babysitter and our wedding dance became an upmarket kiddies party.
They are completely oblivious.
Before they left the following day we said we hadn't spent time together and his mother said that they do things as a family: as if she's forgotten that her own son is her family.
Everything is about the grandchildren, even my wedding.
I used to really like her before, and felt so close to her as my parents are dead.
But I honestly felt better off compared to my husband, whose parents are obsessed with their grandchildren and make us feel like we are on the periphery.
I don't want to talk to her for a while
and I feel like the whole family is like a cult worshipping those children.
Is this normal or am I overreacting?
But, what can you do? Just let it go, talk to your husband and respect his feelings and try not to become that wife that fights him every time he wants to visit his family or makes it an unpleasant experience by acting like a b*tch or complaining the whole time. It's tempting but don't do it. The kind of man that loves and respects his family is the kind of man that you want to keep.
We should have awards for best quotes of the year... and this would win.
I just thought since his parents hadn't seen him for 9 months and won't see him again for 2 years they'd be interested.
There were no special moments for him from his parents, his mother didn't even tie his tie or put the flower in his lapel.
Absolutely nothing.
And when she left she was crying that she was going to miss us, and then we said you didn't spend any time with us.
They didn't even give us a wedding present, they just piggybacked on his aunt and uncles present.
I wanted to feel resentful but if they can't be bothered, why am I upsetting myself? Pointless