My mom just doesn't care

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I've had endometriosis for the last few years & in that time,I've had 2 surgeries & 1 treatment.It's come back & now I'm scheduled to have surgery next month.I called my family & friends,& I text them to remind them of the date.Today I get a phone call from my mom asking me when my surgery is.I told her November 20th,& she said she thought it was the week after T'giving. I told her that I had told her it was the 20th b/c she got upset that I wouldn't be home for T'giving. She said she doesn't remember me saying that & kept repeating that I didn't tell her.I then asked her the purpose of her call& she said it was bc my older sister,whom I no longer speak to, wants her to come for that week to take care of her kids so she can go out of town. I figured this call would come. 2 years ago I had this surgery,& my mom left me to go be with my sister after she gave birth to her 3rd child.No matter that she has a husband & close friends around. I had my boyfriend. He took off work to go w/me to my surgery bc my mom said that she couldn't take anymore time off. So he brought me home from the hospital, stayed thru the weekend,& then had to go back to work. My endo was so bad I couldn't sit up straight,& when I had to get off the bed, I had to roll.My mom left, my dad was so into his tv,& my sister was drunk, I had to go to the bathroom &I had to roll onto the floor & crawl to the bathroom. I wasn't mad at my boyfriend,he wanted to be there, but he is the only one paying his bills & needed the money. My mother should have been there. I told her about the surgery weeks before. Anytime I was hungry or thirsty I had to go up &down the stairs just to get something, no one brought anything to me. They thought I was better b/c I could get up on my own when in reality, it only ruined the healing process, I was in more pain than ever b/c the stitches were ripping from going up and down the stairs. I never forgave my family.So my mom is going back to my sisters. She acts like she didn't know the date of my surgery, but I told her not to worry ab it b/c I didn't think I could depend on her anyways. My boyfriend is taking me & luckily we live together so I don't have to worry about being alone. I also told her that his mom & sister were taking off from work & school to come take care of me.It seemed like she wanted to sound like she felt guilty, but then she sounded more like she was hoping I didn't need her so it wouldn't be a big deal. Either way I'm tired of her. I wish I had a better mother. My future mother in law is more caring than her, my mom only cares about the approval and attention she gets from my other brother and sisters. I'm so tired of it. Therapy would never heal all this drama.....does anyone else have a selfish mother like this? Always there for the other kids? Not you?