My sister ignors me, now that she has a boyfriend.

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Look.. I see your point but she is inlove - let her be.

She might have a boyfriend but it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

Remember blood is thicker than water.

Yea, I know she can't spend every minute with me for the rest of her life. But she's never been the type to be on the phone all day, or care about this kind of stuff. And I don't think she's in love with him. It's just she acts different now, which is fine... but I don't like her as much now. She just acts like a typical teenager, and she has never been like that. People change, and grow apart. It's natural. But she has become more immature. So it's not growing up, it's like backtracking.

And it's not so much that she doesn't spend time with me... it's that she doesn't want to. She used to always want to hang out with me.

She's not busy either, when she's not talking to him, she just takes a nap or something.

drifting apart from your family a bit is just a part of growing up, it's nothing personal against you, it's just sometimes if you've been raised with a group of people all your life you need space from them. it doesn't mean she'll never be as close to you again, just maybe that she needs a bit more time apart.
the reason she's hangin out with her boyfriend more now is probably just 'cause he's new and exciting for her. the novelty will most likely wear off after a while, unless they actually are in love.

Thanks... that actually helps a lot!
I guess it was inevitable.

And I do think she will eventually get over it.
I think she just got caught up in it!

Teenagers especially like to have space, and since this is her first boyfriend she is probably very excited about him. Don't worry you have plenty of time to fight, make-up, talk on the phone, host one anothers bachelor parties and bridal showers, have a baby shower together, and just spend time with each other. I envy you a little, i'm an only child.

I meant bachlorette parties*** LOL.

its not about your sis right now its your feelings of left behind. what ya need to do is let her go but get you a close friend or even a boyfriend if you are old enough, cause in the mean time anything goes wrong with your sis relationship you will be who she turns to first and then she will hope you are still there for her so dont sweat it

I agree and try talking to your sister about how your feeling. If you don't tell her you miss her, she won't know.

I have the same problom. My sis's bf is really nice to me but spoiles kara(my sister)! Now she thinks she is all that! I dont know what to do either! First thing you do is to talk to your sister....


tell her how you feel then work things out from there! :-)

yup yup its normal i think. i got friends who had the same thing happen.

One of those boys. Must be hard loosin someone close over a boy. Just make a day when it's just the two of you or something

Awws honey u sound like my little brother Im sure ur sister loves u very much right now shes giving her full attnetion to her boyfriend which isnt right but its something that happens with us girls when we meet a new guy.just give her some time im sure the initial infatuation will wear off and thing should be simi-back to normal in a while. Goodluck :)

I never spoke to my sister for an entire year when I was 16, she missed christmas, thanksgiving, called me on my bday but she never showed up without her boyfriend. It made me extremely bitter towards her becuase we used to be best friends as well, then one day she moved out and i rarely saw her or heard from her. She broke up with him now but seeing how she treated me like an expendable family member just to use up time until she found her boyfriend and then just phase made me hold a grudge against her till this day. If I see she is calling me I wont pick up the phone, I wont go eat somewhere with my family if I know shell be there. It is pretty horrible to feel phased out, like some dude she just meets is more important than a brother or sister shes known practically her whole life. Well, whatever. If shes doing that to you then just stop talking to her, if she starts missing you and wants to talk then thats good, if not, then just phase her out she isnt worth yourtime even if she is your sister.

Talk it out with her...

Is she a teenager? I think it's just a phase, when she grows up, she will grow to accept that she cannot claim to be a superior human being just because she has a boyfriend.

If she is old enough to know better (above 23 or so) and has done this before, then she has a real problem and you need to sort her out.