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Nearly 21, never been kissed: will i end up alone forever?
I feel like such a loser admitting this, but here goes nothing. I'm a 21 year-old-female who has never been kissed, never had sex and has never had a relationship. At first I started to think it was just circumstantial, but I'm starting to think I'll end up alone forever. Every time I like a guy, he's either unavailable or he doesn't like me back. I even tried using one of those online dating sites and the one decent guy I talked to for awhile and made plans with ended up blowing me off and never contacting me again. I honestly don't know what to think. It's not like I sit around waiting for a guy to ask me out...I have things to keep me busy. I'd like to think I have a decent personality....so does that mean I'm just so hideous that I'm meant to end up like a crazy cat lady???
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I think I know how you feel! I am 20 and have never been kissed or been in a relationship either. People keep telling me how pretty and beautiful I am but never had a boyfriend or anything. I think sometimes this surprises some people. I know guy's have crushes on me, but nothing ever comes out of it and the guy's I like are off limits. I go to a university and there are plenty of guy's around but none seem to be right and am quite quiet. I understand you when you say that you worry about being lonely and single for the rest of your life because I am beginning to feel increasingly like that 2. I think we just have to try and accept the comment of 'When it happens, it will happen' though I really dislike that comment. I don't think it's abnormal at all, though very annoying!!! Hope this makes you feel a bit better.
Seriously, you're only 21, you're young and still have many years to go. What you're doing here is being sensible. Most of your friends who have already done it by 21 probably chose a man indiscriminately because they just wanted to know what sex felt like. You're better than that because you're actually seeking a special connection and that makes you special. You're a good and sensible person and that is something to be very proud about.
I come from a culture where women normally wait until they are married before they have sex... and this is normally in the late 20s. So as you can see here, you're just feeling unnecessary peer pressure that may lead to disaster should you succumb to it. In an age where unwanted pregnancy is on the rise, I thank God for more people like you.
My first bf broke my heart and before him guys never had an interest in me... and after he left me, nobody took an interest in me at all. No male attention in any way.... for a long time i felt like i was the ugliest person on this earth.. but then my second bf came along when i was 15. He always made me feel beautiful.. we have been together 5 years and i've never had a 3rd bf. I know its a bit unusual but i dont care :)
so dont worry, you will find someone who will make you feel special. and if you get tired of waiting, go pick up a few guys from bars or something... get into the dating scene. alot of my friends do this when they feel insignificant.
good luck and take care
its not that i waited, because i didnt. boys payed no heed to me. My first bf asked me out, and i said yes. there was no waiting lol.
my second bf and i actually met sorta by accident... it started out as a friendship, but quickly developed into something much deeper. He and i became an item. we have been together now for 5 years.
:)