Never been loved

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If you don't believe in yourself, you won't even notice if someone else loves you.
Be outstanding. The rest will take care of itself.

Go on askmen.com and read book call THE SYSTEM of Doc's Love.

I've read it and it helps a lot.

He talks about the women love to chase the guys. That means you have to become at times unavailable to her and also talks about how to raise he IL (Interest Level).

Also talks about the games girls play.

I'm 30 and I have never been in a relationship myself. Let me tell you something. I was very worried about this as well, like you are. It took me around two years to come to terms with the fact that there could be something wrong with me whatever it may be, afraid of commitments or whatever. But I simply concluded that worrying about this is just time-wasting. I'd look at it from a different point of view. There are many out there who have lost their freedom and their spare time because they are now married with children but in the meantime, we are free and we can do whatever we like.

Obviously, companionship is fantastic, but my only advice is

1) Enjoy life. Don't waste it worrying about this.

2) You're not alone. I'm in an even worse situation than you are.

well your the exact opposite of me but just find someone that usualy eyes you when your not looking and go for her that will work everyone has a secret admirer.

theres someone for everbody.be patient get yourself busy or sumthin

I haven't found love either. I'm only 19, but it seems like everyone has someone. I think that when you actively look for love, you're less likely to find it. You might want to focus on relationships with your family or friends, school, or career, and then CASUALLY look for love.

Try one of those dating sites if it seems like everyone you like is straight or married, it sort of takes that out of the equation and makes it a little bit easier to find someone.

You sound like a sweet girl, I hope everything works out for you...

you actually shouldn't feel so bad. I'm 26 and I've been in a handful of "serious" relationshps and none have worked out. Right now i'm engaged and my fiance has turned into an unemotional uncaring ass. So who knows if this one will even work. It's probably partly my fault but i also know for a fact that i have dated a number of losers. You can still be with someone and have them be "unavailable"...emotionally, etc. My point is that even if someone has had 10 relationships, for example, they're lucky if even one worked out. You're lucky to never have gone through a terrible breakup, have a crazy ex, deal with your partner's jerky friends, etc. I sometimes wish i was still single, i partied all the time with friends and loved my life. I sort of envy you! but good luck.

hey im 26 so i feel im on the same page as you as well as a few others that commented.

i feel you have the same EXACT problem as i do, and probably a whole ton of other guys but its in the approach you take towards the problem. Any woman who is beautiful, most of them are, is gonna be tied up in relationships until the end of time, thats the way it goes.

As sucky as competition is, you gotta put yourself into the game. If they are not married they are fair game and they may ditch their boyfriend or fiancee for you especially if they're unhappy on the inside. In summary, it all just depends on how many toes your willing to step on :)