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No Desire For Anything
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So, for my whole life up until the end of high school I was obsessed with pleasing people. Everything I did was to make somebody proud of me, weather it being my parents, friends, teachers, strangers. I remember once when I was like 16, I saw this guy get hit by a car when he was on his bike. I jumped out of my car and helped him. I didnt do it just to help him though, the whole time I was thinking "All these people watching are gonna think im awsome".

So after graduating high school my life philosophy totally changed. Today I dont want to do anything, I have no desire for money, dont care about posessions, dont care about work or school, dont care if im around people or alone. I really wish I wasnt this way, but I just cant get myself motivated to do anything.

I really think ive been this way my whole life, just when I was younger I was so obsessed with pleasing people that it appeared that I had motivation. I was just wondering if anybody else has these feelings and if im normal. I just turned 21 by the way.
Do you think it's normal?
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Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-03-27 16:34:26
You have to admit, it seems odd that you care about the way you are. Why do you suppose that is? Maybe a starting point.
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jondrinkwater (3402)
2009-04-13 10:04:21
Im about the same age as you and your discription of your situation is very close my situation. I dont think we are normal
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andrian007 (21330)
2009-04-14 12:22:25
The first thing you need to ask yourself is why you are currently the way you are. There is probably one or two important events in the past that made you like the way you are now. Most people in the early 20s go through what you're going through; don't know what to do with the rest of your life kind of thing, but yours sounds a little more extreme. Are you subconciously feeling ashamed that once upon a time you live only to please other people and all of a sudden, you're not doing that anymore and then you suddenly don't know what you want in life.

You're probably just very frustrated about something. Give it a bit of time and see what happens. Consider this a journey of self-discovery. You're probably changing from the I-need-to-please-people mode to I-need-to-start-thinking-for-myself mode.

But be warned, it's ok to have no money and women, but if you have no direction in life, we have a serious problem. Think about it, mate. Take your time, but not too much.
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wardenclyffe (22473)
2009-04-29 07:51:53
This is called 'the human condition':

Your life isn't for anything. You have no destiny. There's no fate, no purpose, no meaning, to anything - and there never was. You simply exist because your parents had sex. At least, that's how we begin.

You can choose to make your own purpose in life; no-one will, or can, do it for you. Or you could choose not to. Either way, you WILL die. But if you choose option#2 it'd be like you were never there at all. Do you want that? It's really up to you.
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XxINCHAINSxX (23121)
2009-05-17 19:09:40
Well, now you know why suicide, drugs, and serial murder become an option for some people. Don't forget pedophilia, compulsive masturbation, and other exciting things. You'd be a great hitman.
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GeraldMossman (24419)
2009-06-19 02:59:19
My only advice is dont want it all just want one thing and go for that. Also if you don't want any material possessions there are heaps of things out there that money can't buy maybe you should aim to get some of those and your life will have be more meaningful
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glasswilderness (5971)
2009-07-17 23:35:43
Get shit faced
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DontCare (26486)
2009-08-02 15:33:26
Travel.It will open your mind and you will see things in a different light.
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reddawn17 (27137)
2009-08-15 02:47:02
So, you've realized that you've been a tool throughout your early years. Good. This is a good first step. Now what you need to do is come to the following realization "Fuck everyone else." These three simple words should help you understand where you are and where you'd like to go. Don't feel like doing jack shit still? Good; don't. It really doesn't matter. No ones forcing you to, its all of your own free will. So, you might be wondering what now? Do whatever the fuck you want; you're free. Like sex? Go try to fuck every woman you find attractive. Like drugs? Do some. Like material possesions but don't feel like working too hard? Figure out how to maximize your income while really not doing anything. It can be done. Just think of something that you find entertaining, fun, or hillarious and just fucking do it. It really doesn't matter. Just try your best to avoid being thrown in a cage, that's pretty much the only guideline to keep in mind.
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ntbarone (28311)
2009-09-09 18:10:07
Dude I can totally relate. I have lost the desire to do anything and I'm only 24 F*cking yrs old! I am however overwhelmed with life right not. Work pulls me in several directions and I am currently taking three classes a week for a career I don't feel I will be happy in. I guess you have to do more for yourself though. travel, hang out with your friends more. Do the things you use to love that you no longer have a desire to do anymore as well. Socialize a lot more with people. I spent a year living on my own living a routine life working full time and going to school at night coming home without an ounce of energy left. Get out and go do something! You'll feel alot better although its sometimes hard to do because your so drained. Listen to uplifting music. You'll be surprised how your mood can change instantly. Also watch your diet. I have good and bad days and realize that on the days I eat pretty well and healthy I tend to feel great throughout the day. Good luck man.
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DavidCarusoisGOD (28919)
2009-09-24 15:38:37
@: reddawn17
A cretinous response. This person shouldn't be driving themselves towards failure, but seeking immediate help with and adult or a professinal. As I just told someone else, blog forums wont help. It will just compile selective, pointless, cretin-infested advice from silly people such as yourselves.
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jamujam (29016)
2009-09-27 17:06:38
try reading the bible for insights. It shows you how to be good naturally without "pleasing anyone"
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Leonphelps1217 (29188)
2009-09-30 02:52:00
I feel the same way. I used to do things because thats what I thought I and everyone else was supposed to do. Now I just seem to sit back and wonder why do anything at all. I think it's the fact that everything turned out to be bullshit. College had the promise of being either the world's greatest party or this great intellectual awaking of minds. It's just people in a classes (most of which have nothing to do with a major) trying to get a paper that will hopefully get us more money. Money that we have no need for. Anything we could possible want will satisfy us for a small time or eventually break. Lately that small satisfaction doesn't occur anymore. I've been told it's depression. I don't feel depressed, I just feel nothing. So yes I do think it's normal. What to do about it, that's the answer I'm searching for.
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adyb12 (30771)
2009-11-04 10:05:13
I can completely relate to all that's been described here. My best advice is to go see a psychologist/do counseling; should that not work out, then see a psychiatrist and get on anti-depressants. Your doc will refer you to a good specialist.
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Emptyness (31113)
2009-11-11 12:52:04
I got familiar story..It s help me a lot one verse from Bible in Old Testimony EKL all chapters.Actually you can find a lot wisdom in Bible..
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Simply_Abnormal (24962)
2009-11-16 06:36:06
Lack of self-esteem ...
Lack of self confidence?
Lack of emotions..

I think this could be a sign of depression? Possibly....
See someone; a counsellor..if it's not then...
Maybe your just an average joe who can get by in life without the need for anything but the air you breath.
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Bugaboo (30340)
2009-11-16 12:10:32
I was there for several years..I recently turned 22 and finally I am beginning to feel free from it. This is something that you will have to figure out on your own.
What worked for me won't work for you but a few things that helped me climb out of my hole were laughter, learning, travel and passion in that order.
I know how painful and frustrating it can be, but don't turn to anti-depressants or drugs and alcohol, they are a temporary fix and will only destroy you, mentally and physically.
Keep your chin up friend, it's a great big world and you still have lots of life to live. You will find your purpose, but until you do don't stress about it. Find some things laugh and learn about, maybe the rest will follow. Good luck traveler!
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