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No family but don't care
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I'm an only child raised by a single mom. I don't know who my biological father is, and my mother was estranged from her family before I was born, so I don't know them either. My mother died during my last year of highschool so I'm now totally alone as far as relatives go, although I have lots of friends.

People are always commenting on how alone I am and how I should try to find family. They feel sorry for me and think I'm missing something really important. But the truth is I really don't care. Like I said I have lots of friends, I don't feel sorry for myself, and I figure I'll have a family when I get married. Am I normal to not be missing a family and not even caring if I find my blood relatives or not?
Do you think it's normal?
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DJ_Slone (697)
2005-08-14 21:23:33
I think it's totally normal, man. I'm adopted and although I do have a mother and father, I have NO freaking idea who my biological parents are nor where I came from. Sometimes friends can be like family. Like the old saying "Home is where the heart is", family is the same way. If you don't care, don't let a bunch of hippies tell you what should make you happy.
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citizenpremier (159)
2005-08-30 01:44:09
Where do you live?
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Anonymous
2005-10-31 11:56:24
dude, I am in the same boat as you. Now that I'm oder its affecting me. I am the only child my sister died at 2 weeks. I dont care or know where my faher is,I dont even know him. I only know his parents are dead too. I have no relatives,They all died and my mom died in the 9/11 attacks. I'm having really weird breakdowns, and find myseld crying silently. I cant watch family shows, and I'm am deepy jealous of friends with family. Yes friends are great, I have quite a few, but as time passes, its not enough. I need more, but I know I'm not going to get it. Good luck to you, and maybe try to find someone who can offer you love that has your blood, or acts like your blood besides friends.
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xox.mle.xox (1240)
2006-01-19 14:50:44
to the last commenter, suggest finding your biological family.
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xox.mle.xox (1240)
2006-01-19 14:51:59
whoops i messed up. i confused commenter 1 with commenter 3. sorry.
and yes its normal, you are just more introverted than most people.
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whatisnormal (1394)
2006-02-20 16:03:30
@: Anonymous
To Anonymous, I am really sorry to hear that. That is awful. I hope you have a loving family one day. Maybe you should get counseling or join a suppoer group. I am really sorry, but you seem to be a good person I hope everything works out for you.
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Anonymous
2006-05-08 11:52:17
You don't need a family, per se, as you need people around you to love.

I don't consider myself to have a real family, I don't talk to my mom or step dad and my sister is more of a best friend than a sister.

I've found 'family' in my sister, my friends and my fiance. Just because you aren't related to someone by blood or legal documents doesn't mean you can't love them and appreciate them like family.

If you have lots of friends who support you, then I don't think you're really missing a thing.
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babyangel2580 (1623)
2006-11-11 18:00:03
well if you weren't looking for attention and really didnt care at all you wounldnt post this, would you?
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cabinet69 (3089)
2006-11-11 19:17:27
Nothing wrong with that at all Im estranged from most of my family and you will have a good life when you get married. Dont bother trying to find them I found a sister who was a complete fuckwit
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Scion_of_Wisdom (3393)
2007-01-11 21:25:46
Family ties are decided at birth and are completely random, and by themselves they're meaningless. It's people who you choose to treat as family because you share something that actually matter.
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Shavemeslowly (5177)
2007-01-11 21:30:28
No its normal to be satisfied. Its even admirable. Its also normal to wonder why you don't care more. All around good.
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smithee (4389)
2007-01-11 21:30:54
Wow its nice to know you don't like your family, the ones that raised you, fed you, clothed you, put a roof over your head.... you're a real great person.....
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Shavemeslowly (5177)
2007-01-11 21:40:11
Smithee read the post again dude.
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theprettypig (5188)
2007-01-11 21:49:04
@: Shavemeslowly
dont worry mate.

Family can be what you make it.

A lot of teh people I've come across tell their close friends more than what they tell their family anyway...
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