Normal to be made fun of by friends?

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i have the exact same problem except im 16. it's like their source of entertainment is breaking apart what i have to say. if that's not enough for them they just start to demean me in any way possible. then when i leave they act like they've done nothing wrong and criticize me for staying inside all the time. i know, it sucks but it's normal. just needs to be dealt with

Let me start off with this, I'm really sorry, that must suck!!
Personally, a little name-calling, or just giving each other shit, here and there among friends is totally normal in my opinion. But this sounds more severe than that, I think that you should explain your feelings to them, and if that doesn't work...maybe just meet new people because these people sound like they aren't worth your time, let alone your friendship.

I experienced a similar situation where, three of us were great friends, but both of them were closer with me than they were eachother. The only way they would bond was by making fun of me. (ie. telling me how ugly I am, that I have no friends, that I'm stupid, etc.) One day I completely exploded on them. I would address your friends now before it becomes too much to handle and you get extremely angry.

Mainly you seem to confuse a bunch of dickheads for friends - sadly this is not an abnormal confusion.

Humans are social animals - to the point where often we prefer social abuse to fear of being alone. Regardless of this, don't waste your life with people who makes you feel bad.

A kids book called "My secret bully" does wonders for kids who are confused by some of their "friends" actions.
Since you (presumably) are not a 4 year old I'll summarize:
1) Friends do not deliberetly make each other feel bad - you are not bigger by making others feel small, nor are you a friend.
2) What people do say more than words
3) Friends can feel happy for each other (i.e. score a goal)
4) If somone say they are your friend, but do things a friend would not - they are not your fiend.

Honestly, me and a group of friends do the same to this guy we know. And the reason why we do it is because we are truly fed up with him. I'm sorry to those who think its wrong, but when someone invites him self over and is constantly a downer, and just doesn't plainly fit in with us. We can't help but abuse him because were not a fan of his personality.

That said, you might have a trait that your friends don't like. Try and change your self up a bit, but don't say you changed to them or make it obvious that your still screaming for there acceptance. Its a cruel world, but that's life. =/

Well I am definitely not the one that "invites myself", infact, I never invite them to do anything. It's always them inviting me to do things. And since I posted this almost 6 months ago, things are a lot better and they don't make fun of me anymore.

I'm glad things are better for you now. I've went through the same sort of thing when I used to hang around with a certain group and it was just pure shittiness.