Normal to feel used in the circumstances? http://isitnormal.com/story/normal-to-feel-used-in-the-circumstances-30110/ Ok so here's my opinion: Sounds like ur girl right now doen't really seem to mind that ur apart. So prob jus take a break - like u said - and go plough some other pastures or whatever u wanna do. By not paying attention u'd be doing the right thing. Jus like this post on top of mine says... It's not worth ur time to waste it on trying to prove something to some1, who (from wat it sounds like) doesn't seem to notice ur attempts. -So jus give it a break and things'll work out http://isitnormal.com/story/normal-to-feel-used-in-the-circumstances-30110/#comment-320343 2009-11-01 07:13:24 It sounds like she has managed to make you jealous. This may or may not have been her intention, but rest assured that she is observing your behavior now--very closely. Undoubtedly, she is seeing an incongruence between you being "Mr. Nice Guy" and "caring for her," and the fact that you are feeling "bitter", and have an inner belief that she is a "bitch". Women have very sensitive "radar" for this kind of stuff. She probably sees some of your behavior as phony. And, it makes absolutely no difference whether or not she is the cause of the negative feelings. I have an obvious question: Have you guys had sex together' If not, this can hardly be called a relationship. If you have had regular sex, at what point did it stop' The quality of sex is usually the best barometer of the health of a relationship. Look at it from her perspective. She has another option she is exploring, and she has no real incentive to 'commit' to you, whatever that means. It sounds like you are desperately wanting this 'commitment,' she smells this, and she is therefore holding this out in order to keep her power. As a result, you are providing her with entertainment "and crap" (as you put it), so she has little incentive to change. I would suggest you start seeing other girls. This is for several reasons: 1. It will give you more practice at learning how to treat girls. 2. You may discover what you are doing wrong. 3. It will make you less desperate. 4. You might meet someone with whom you are more compatible. A side benefit is that your former 'gal' might become jealous, and want to come back to you. http://isitnormal.com/story/normal-to-feel-used-in-the-circumstances-30110/#comment-307663 2009-08-29 04:08:40 agreed. the most vital thing in a relationship is to TALK and be HONEST. if summats on ur mind, tell her. http://isitnormal.com/story/normal-to-feel-used-in-the-circumstances-30110/#comment-307511 2009-08-28 14:28:34 A Relationship is all about give and take. Obviously this is not what is happening here.. http://isitnormal.com/story/normal-to-feel-used-in-the-circumstances-30110/#comment-298346 2009-07-04 21:13:24