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not enough sex
Alright, so I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. We still love eachother, and tell eachother all the time. Problem is, we have little or no sex. I'm not sure why because when we first started dating we were constantly on eachother. It's not like it's not enjoyable, we just dont do it often. And when I say not often I mean every couple weeks. We still spend a good amount of time together, or we have a short conversation on the phone before we go to bed if we didn't see eachother that day. And here's the thing, when I try to initiate any kind of sex, his excuse is usually "I'm watching tv" or "not now". Another thing that really bugs me is that he doesn't like to KISS... its not that he won't, but he avoids this. I'm not sure if I just have terrible timing, or I'm missing something. Any suggestions?
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My boyfriend and I have lived together for 7 years now. And for 5 years, he's really just gone flat - not affectionate, hardly any sex (once a week was a miracle, but two or three times a month was typical), barely spent any free time at home. He's not the type to cheat (no, I'm not blind), and was raised in a really unaffectionate family, so I blamed it on that. But I was still miserable. And a month ago, I finally snapped. I told him it was over, that I couldn't like that way anymore, because it hurt me to live every day thinking he didn't care (even if I knew in my heart that he did, it didn't feel like it).
Needless to say, he had a total breakdown - he cried ! I mean really bawled to where he couldn't even catch his breath. I felt so badly, because I've never seen him cry (or really show ANY emotion, to be honest). But he asked for a chance, and I said we could start over, date - you know. Not just live together like an old married couple. And shockingly he's improved dramtically. He brings me flowers at work (and I work 30 minutes from home), cleans the house, hugs and kisses me all the time, goes places with me and...drumroll please.... we have sex so much I can barely walk. I mean every single day, and most days 2 or 3 times. And HOT sex too, not just his typical roll on, get off, roll off and go to sleep stuff.
It's a Christmas miracle !
Needless to say, I can say that what's going on with you is fairly common - I'm a little concerned that it's happening after only a couple of years though, because boredom shouldn't really set in that quick.
Make your concerns known - tell him that you need certain things in a relationship, things that are normal and not extreme, and ask if he thinks he can do those things or not. If he doesn't think he can, they he's not willing to work at it. Cut your losses now !
Your so called man is either, A cheater, tried of you, gay, or on some kinda drugs. They are all bad. Run like hell and go get your world rocked!!! You are wasting your time with him. Real men cannot go to sleep next to a women they are attracted without trying something!!!
That is why we are called dogs. Your mans a pussycat.
that guys gay.
really gay.
how many times has he asked to take it up the pooper?
if the answer is more than one, he's most definitly gay
Really inmature.
And a bit of retarded.
she's married to a man,that man is married to HER.
so how could you say that he's gay?
sick cunt.
you asked for equal rights , there you have them , we can reject sex these days just because we don't feel like having sex , and yes , contrary to the popular belief , men aren't ALWAYS in the mood .
p.s. try spicing up your sex life by doing something u didn't wanna do before in bed, widen ur horisons