I won't go into too much detail, but I will say I do enjoy sex. I don't think it has anything to do with being uncomfortable physically usually. I like things to be exciting and new. Recently, when a friend and I were chatting late night we made a blind observation that I felt the need to be intoxicated in some way or another before I get interested in even having sex.And it's become a habit more so lately than usual; I do remember "sober sex" not being as thrilling. But I was also with a man who didn't make me very happy at the time.I don't know if this tendancy to get fu*ked up before I do get active is normal for woman, and at my age. Just an self observation that kind of struck me.forgive me if I sound over reactive. Just looking for opinions.
That being said, I understand where you are coming from. For over seven years I didn't have sex without being drunk or on drugs. I realize now that it was a way of justifying what I was doing; if other people judged me for having sex with someone, I could just blame it on being f'ed up.
So while I totally think that it is "normal" I think you should take a look at whether or not it is actually your interest level that increases when you are intoxicated or if it is your inhabitions that are lowered so you don't have to face insecurity. Trust me...when the right person comes along, being completely lucid and totally in control and making decisions because you WANT to...it makes the sex OUT OF THIS WORLD amazing.