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If you're a nice guy and would treat a girl right, then you're good enough to get a gf. If you want to go wi someone, just get out there and ask someone out. She doesn't have to be a supermodel or what, even just try someone you know you'll have good craic with. Work on your self esteem too, it's easier to find someone if you have confidence

As long as you don't think you're good enough, you won't have a girl friend.

And all looked over by machines of loving grace. Problem solved.

Of course, maybe you could do something that will make you feel good enough.

What kind of person do you think a girl friend deserves? How do you fall short? Maybe you could fix it.

Umm, actually I'm a person who's never dated anyone either. And yes, I have to say, that's normal. I feel like i'm not worth guys' time either, sometimes...and I know it feels like everyone in the world says this, but...just try to be patient. I know it doesn't really make you feel better, but what other course of action do people like us have?

It is normal to feel that way, especially if you've experienced rejection in the past. I tell you what, I'm 29 and still get depressed about that some days. But the older you get, or if you make the choice to do so, you can accept yourself for who you are. So you're not some perfect model type or whatever. You've no doubt got qualities a girl would find cute, but you just haven't met a girl who's told you so. Ya know, there could be a girl crushing on you right now, but she also feels like you do and is too shy/scared to say anything. First thing is to get to the point where you can look yourself in the mirror and be okay with what you see and who you are. Just a kind of, "I am who I am" kinda thing. Everyone can only be who they are.

A lot of times people pick up on our emotions subliminally. When you feel sad, people may naturally keep at arms' length. But when we're feeling better, people naturally gravitate toward us. Try to get yourself happy and stop worrying about having someone else, and then lo and behold, someone will come. I know, easier said than done, but what's inside shines outside. If it's dark in there, people can't see you. If it's light, they want to take another look.

dude i hear what you're saying. my long-distance kinda sorta girlfriend lol is amazing and i'm a pretty average person so sometimes i worry that she'll realize that and not want to put the effort in to make our relationship work anymore. The cool thing, though, is that she seems to disagree with me. So remember that even if you feel like you don't have anything to offer, someone will disagree :)

I truly love my boyfriend but I have that same fear. It's like there is this little voice saying that they can do better and that I got lucky. I hate that. I know how you feel.

I used to think so, but after a while, it goes away because you realize you've contributed just as much to the relationship. You'll see each other as equals.

This seems to be a growing problem. I think you should sit down, make a list of other things you like or are good about yourself. Work on your postive things and build you confidence. There are bunch of stupid palces out there that tell guys you can pickup a girl. Avoid them. Read women;s magazines and take advice from other women. even on her on meeting women and building confidence. Good luck!