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I have a older man I work with he's 50 and i'm only 20. We been fooling around at work and I enjoy it. I know he's married and he's got kids. I was just trying to have some fun with this guy. Make him smile. He is really nice to me. He wants to do more with me should I nip it in the butt or continue with it. His perception is we have't done anything wrong.

I want to ask him about his wife but thats none of my business?
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...I don't find it very classy to mess with a married man. :/
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Don't, not to be offensive but if you don't stop now you will be the equivelant to a prostitute! That is what they do, fool around with married men. Also, if for some reason you do find him to be a "nice" person, then think about this- if his wife finds out the marriage will end and it will have been all your fault because you were the one who let him fool around with another girl (ie you). Also, when that finds out think about his kids! That kind of parent trouble will screw-them-up! No matter how old they are. Just stop it now and forget it ever happened! Ok? ;)
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That is correct. Find a guy your own age who is single and fuck the hell out of him. There are many reasons to avoid a possible entangling alliance with that guy.

That does NOT suggest that you could give him a blow job (his wife probably won't do that) .. just be sure to suck it ALL in and also SWALLOW. He will be your pal for as long as you want.

But lay the ground work first.. namely ... This is ONLY A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP ... N O T H I N G more.

kinky mood
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I have no idea what you mean by "fooling around" but if you're just trying to have some fun with this guy at the expense of someone else's marriage, and it's even worse that there are kids involved then......you're not a very good person, are you?

Besides, you can't possibly think you're the only person he's ever cheated or attempted to cheat with. Dirtbag.
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i agree with WillieWonka older guys love younger girls i am 19 and guys around 30 try to talk to me i think thats to old for me, but u kno there is nuthing wrong with flirting if you go beyong that thats the problem. i bet he is a milester
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Budthewise
I agree with the smart girl, we need more information to comment right.

Also, he said wedding vows to his wife; this means that he spent time and effort to convince both his wife as well as himself that she is for him. What makes you think that he will just give a lot of this up to be with you?

You already know what you need to know. He is 50 and you are 20, do the math. This is fine and I am truly happy with both of you, but do not think of this as anything more than what it is.
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Well worded. I agree with you
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In 10 years or so, how will you feel when its your husband and a younger girl messing around together while you are at home washing out his skid marks?
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Girl, you are in deep sh*t. If you keep "fooling around" with this guy and "making him smile", his wife is gonna f*ucking beat you up. Quit it while you still can. And by the way, I don't smile a lot, and when I do, I'm with my girlfriend in bed!! So if he is like me, you are double f*cked!
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I'm going to be honest... That is just sick and wrong.
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...Ewww.
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He has a family, let's be sensible and break it off.
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An older man will always be taken by a younger girl who flirts around with them. It is always a morale booster whether they act on it or not, let him know you do not wish to pursue anything further, but hell keep his spirits up, harmless flirting is good for the soul of both of you.
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OP: The way I read your post was that you were being playful, and nothing's actually happened - but he wants it to happen. You're now asking whether to take it further or not. Is my understanding correct? If it is, here's what I think:

Somewhere along the way, you've developed feelings for him, but now you're feeling conflicted because you know he's married with kids. Your conscience tells you that you should raise this issue with him, but you're not sure where that would lead things, either. Does that sound right at all?

My opinion is that you're both playing with fire. You can stop now and only get singed, or you can keep going and end up with third-degree burns.

I'm not impressed at the comments calling you a whore, etc for a few reasons. First of all, nothing's actually happened. Secondly, you clearly have a conscience or you wouldn't be worried about the situation. Thirdly, what about HIM? It takes two to tango, and at 20 years of age, you're almost certainly the less-worldly of the two of you. It's time more people started holding him equally accountable.

My best advice to you is this: If he's prepared to cheat on his wife with you, he'll almost certainly be prepared to cheat on you with someone else. Moreover, there's nothing to say he doesn't just see you as "a bit on the side" and nothing more. Neither option is emotionally healthy for you. I think he's trying to take advantage of you. He's the "whore" in this situation!

Be honest with yourself: what does your gut tell you? I think we both know the answer, and it's the whole reason you asked the original question. You've hesitated because you know within yourself that this is going to end badly, but you're struggling with your feelings for him. If it were just a matter of sex, after all, as a young woman you could find that without trouble. It's not about the sex. It's about the man. And I truly believe that you're going to be left humiliated and heartbroken. Don't let him use you. Cool things off for your own sake.

Good luck!
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LOL "Nip it in the BUTT?"

I personally don't think you are doing anything wrong, after all you're not the one who is married with kids. On the other hand this guy is and you should probably feel a bit cheap and dirty about what you've done.
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If he's interested in you, he's not interested in his wife. Wives also cause and bring on the disinterest by being disinterested themselves. If his wife was at all interested in him he woldn't stray. No man goes out for a burger when there's steak at home. If he makes you happy and you him, go for it and let his wife wake up in her own time. If there's time left that is.
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Find someone your own age. No problems.
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Ollieo
OK - why are you crossing the line here? Leave the guy alone. His age & family status should make him off limits. And this is a workplace relationship - not a pick up club. however flattered he may feel to have the attention of a young woman, this is wrong. Plus you have your own work reputation to consider, which could easily slide into the category of on big to cock teaser. Get a brain.
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Im 22 year old guy and I think thats just sick! Hussy! Shame on you and that perverted old man.
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Stop it! Messing with a married man is a morally bad thing for both of you, and shows low self confeddence on your part. Remember, just because he's old doesn't mean he's nice. By not wanting to talk about his wife I'm guessing that he doesn't really like her to begin with. Your "fooling around" could be misinterpereted as flerting. So don't do any thing rash or in the moment with him around.
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poor kids =( they dont desserve it. id say no but its up to you whether u want to break ther hearts
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dorkyou21
Dude that's horrible, not cause of the guys age, but just the fact he's married with children and is willing to risk it all for a little sl*t like you. Don't be a homewrecker and ruin his poor wife and kid's lives, that's so...I don't even know what to say, that how gross and mean I think it is.
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playing with fire.....Dont do it!
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End whats going on, shame shame
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That's so hot , i'm attracted to younger women
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You know it's wrong. He's married. End of story. However, I am older male and am sick and tired of all the young punks thinking that all older guys are worthless and are "yucky" and don't have a right to have relationships with younger girls. There is a lot of truth in only being as old as you feel. People should look upon each other as people not "I'm 23-you're 54, eeeeew". Don't forget you'll all be old someday also. Then see how you like it.
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dont cut other peoples grass. none of your business. take it from me, im a serial flirt, but home wrecker is a whole new level of shame.
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suedux
You're thinking about this too much. He says he wants to do more with you so all that matters is if you want to fuck him. I think you're open to it and I think you should do it. I've been with a number of married guys and they are great in bed and very grateful lovers. Lots of married guys do it too. So just be discreet and have a good time.
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cabinet70
The expression is Nip it in the bud but Im sure hed like to nip you in the butt. If you have no objections to his fooling around why not have a quick fling with him. I think you will enjoy the experience of an older more experienced man but just remeber a fling or brief affair is all it can ever be.
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Don't do anything with him! If you do, I'm sure you will both regret it in the future.
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Weird
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Its normal. Love is blind, either way.
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cow balls
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Happyjonah
Go for it. Do whatever you like and enjoy it.
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i think that your a sick individual and that whores like you should be put to sleep...this man is making money to provide for his family and your perverting that and attempting to use that time to slut around with him...your an adult act like it!!!
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The problem is not the age (you're both grown up enough), but the fact he's married... But if you like him, he likes you, then it is just another married man who betrays the wife, nothing new under the sun
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rammstein234
well now that you know his intentions, I suggest you stop joking about stuff like that cause even if its just a joke, he could interprete it wrong.
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I am 22 and I love older men flirting with me and they're very pleasing in the bedroom. Not sure if it's really normal though
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Well, I'm 42 and I'm infatuated with a 22 year old at my gym. Yes, I'm old enough to be her daddy, but I'm good looking and am probably more fit than the average 25 year old. So my advice is Never judge a book by it's cover... So go for it!
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I say go for it, let the guy take a dip in the Fountain Of Youth. I'm in my 40's and have the hits for a 21 yr old. I'll never act on it cuz she's the giftirnf of a friend's kid. I would love the chance to be with a younger girl cuz I know I can teach them what real love making is all about. Oh great! Now I'm horny and alone, lol. Guess I'll just go fantasize about her and have a jerk. :)
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Age is just a number in my opinion...on the other subject, I think you should just follow your heart. If you enjoy what your doing than just go for it. If he wants to risk his wife and kids finding out that's his problem. But if I were you I wouldn't get too attatched to him because who knows what the future holds. Be careful & good luck!
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depends if he's your boss
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They're very much experienced and failures too! He'll probably get inside your pants or you'll probably pull down your pants for him. Don't feel guilt. Just do it! LOL
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Pokaż mu swoje nagie odbyt
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Just do whatever feels right to you. Nothing wrong with having a little bit of fun.
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WTF just give him a good bonk, nothing better than an older guy who knows what he is doing.
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DameInDistress~
Don't you mean nip it in the bud?
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It has nothing to do with age. He's married. Find a single man.
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It's "nip in the budd",not butt dumbass
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No. Just no.
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I guess if it's a one time thing it's okay. What everyone else doesn't know can't hurt them. Do you trust this guy?

Not to say this isn't wrong, it totally is. I mean, I can understand the appeal of an older man, they're mature, experienced, over all better than younger men. This guy is married though and has kids. Can you live with the fact that you might skrew things up for him? You're old enough to understand the consequences so it's entirely up to you. He apparently has already made his decision.
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ask him. i doubt he's really into you. he's probably scared.
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