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I think what your relationship needs is a little romance to get the spark back. Try planning a weekend away, if you guys can, with the whole hotel wine and dine deal. I read somewhere that couples can rediscover their closeness in new atmospheres. Worth a shot? Also, try bringing up positive past experiences where she will be reminded of how close you were to each other. Like a vacation or something that you guys laughed about. I dont know if any of this is helpful but good luck!

I believe a man should share the same bed. Perhaps go on a vacation for a couple of weeks and make sure you get a room with just a double bed. After a few weeks shell get used to it start sleeping with you again. If all else fails sell her bed shell have no choice then

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whats wrong with marrage??????????????? huh huh.

Cuzz, one day, after you find out, and you have the balls, you will post what I am fixing to tell you as the truth. She is phucking someone else. The nights that she goes to sleep without action with you, she has phucked her other man and feels bad. On the nights you get it, she did not see her man. Dude open your eyes and believe me. I am friends with a women that does this-hell where are you from?

No you got it all wrong she is not having an affair. I don't believe that for one minute. We still have a great relationship. If she was having an affair she would flat out tell me that is the kind of person, she is.

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Thanks for the advice I will give it a try :)

Oh shut your damn mouth retard!

My girlfriend and I probably will have our own bedrooms when we move in with one another. She's a morning person and I'm a night owl. She likes a very firm mattress and I like soft. I toss and turn and she mostly lies still. It's no biggie, we just prefer sleeping alone. Don't worry unless you find another bloke in her bed!

I agree with the first poster. It sounds like your romance has fizzeled. Bring her flowers, take her to dinner, be interested in her as a person and what her interests are. Caress her hug her love her make her want you beside her in your bed. Date her again. My plans, send flowers to work or leave notes for her to find. Make her fall in love with you again. Make her tingle.

Thanks so much for your nice advice I am working on getting her back in the same bed with me, but so far she won't budge. She will sleep with me occasionally but not on a full time basis I am beginning to wonder if it is my snoring or something.

some times when its gone its gone sorry to say i seeen the post where they recomend to get flowers and etc,I dont think so women should chase you not the other way around you should play your part as a man and make her desire you good luck and dont kiss her ass to make her get back in to bed with u that would be the wrong thing to do and all these women posters here giving you the wrong advice man....

I'm a wife in a smilar situation. At our former apartment, I slept on the couch because our bed was too small and uncomfortable for us and the dog (I know, I know...). Now we're in a new house with a big bed and I still head to the couch whenever I can. I just dont like sleeping with him.

If you want her back in your bed, woo her. Date her again. Do whatever you did when you met and fell in love; im assuming you were sharing a bed then. : )

hmm thats strange.. i rather sleep in a seperate bed than my bf and were wondering if we should get a custom made bed when we get married lol cuz i like to sleep alone with looootssss of room but i never thought that would change things like that.. talk to her about it or surprise her with something romantic one nite maybe ??

my parents have not slept on the same bed for about 8 years? not sleeping on the same bed may be indicative of problems that have yet to come. talk to her about it

My husband works hours that are all night long but I still find the time to lay with him some times through out the day. My grandparents sleep in seperate rooms and have for a very long time. They love each other to death but they also enjoy their own space. Slowly try to invite her back into your or her bed.

Hello... I know this problem is probably an old one, infact i hope it is and i hope that you and your significant other have sparked things. Actually i'd like to ask if you have :)
I've never been married but I have had the same boyfriend for roughly 5 years, since i was 15. He and i are still deeply in love, but there's no doubt there were some rough patches. We got through them by sharing more things and most of all, more time. :) When he came home from his long work day, i would have dinner waiting for him, and of course i would work my way up to some cuddles after dinner... which often leads elsewhere :P
I know in your case the roles are reversed but why dont you give it a try... buy her some of her favorite flower and other things that she halfway doesnt expect u to remember.... and make a home dinner, trust me those are always the best.. candle lit dinner with your favorite foods, a bottle of wine and a small piece of the past.
i'd like to hear how things are going now.
take care and best of wishes :)




oh and btw to those who posted those nasty comments about all women cheating, its probably not true. Dont listen to them, just to what you know in your heart as the truth.
Even if she was cheating, if you can get that spark back she wont want to... but dont think about that. I doubt its true. :)

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Relax - this sounds like it is about getting a good nights sleep - so talk to her a bit about it. The sex is good. And you need your sleep. See if you can sleep together more often. But recognise that people need to get sleep.

Maybe she just can't sleep that well when she's with you. Do you snore loudly or prefer different sleeping conditions? I personally need total dark and quiet to get to sleep, but the silence drives my fiance insane! I could imagine us ending up mostly sleeping in different beds, but it's nothing personal. As long as everything else is fine, I don't see why it has to be a problem.