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I'm a 30 year-old male and I joined a dating website recently. I need some advice from someone who's joined a dating website before.

Over the past few days, I've "winked" at several people to indicate my interest. But all bar one did not reply at all, not even the polite "Thanks, but no thanks" message. And even this one girl who did wink back in return (that was encouraging), I sent her an email two days later asking if she would like to come out for a coffee or lunch or something really casual. Then... no reply at all.

Is it normal for me to worry about this? Dating website has worked for many people, but for me, it's hard enough just to get anyone to reply to my emails. What's the best strategy for getting dates?
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Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-03-27 16:54:48
Send A LOT more emails, winks, whatever. Try to give away as many free meals as you can. Don't expect to find any trust without a few face-to-face meetings, so keep everything as safe as possible until the ice melts.
Eventually you'll get lucky or go broke.
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replicator (19836)
2009-04-02 23:00:00
Don't ask a girl out in the first email. Have 2-3 chats and than get her phone number. You have to call and invite the girl out. You have to talk before meeting.
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andrian007 (21330)
2009-04-07 12:47:44
Thanks, people. Great advice. This is an ongoing thing as you might imagine, so keep the comments coming!
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niicocofosho (22010)
2009-04-19 15:06:07
i think you should talk to her a couple times, before you guys hang out.

and, NEVER send a lot of emails to the person, thinking they didnt get it-you might come off as desperate.
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Padawan (23198)
2009-05-19 20:33:23
it NEVER worked for me the way I wanted!
People are there with no expectations at all,just to kill some time at work or when they have"nothing" to do!Usually they have dozens of online "friends" and rarely they will show interest for only one person! If you are looking for something serious try dating web sites that people pay for such as lavalife or eharmony!At least you know they want something more serious if they are willing to pay for it! Good luck
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-06-13 16:42:31
Go off line & meet real people.
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GeraldMossman (24419)
2009-06-19 03:02:33
Pick up in a bar
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mochamocha (25704)
2009-08-01 14:05:14
I'd offer you some advice man, as I am not much older than you (36/m), and have been in the same boat before, and have had decent and not so decent experiences with online communication as well as off. Let me know if you want to chat or whatever.
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normalisoverrated (31677)
2009-12-09 06:37:10
Might be your profile picture very highly possible. Not that you are not handsome or anything but all people will care will be what they see up there. So if you wanna find a girl online seriously take some good pictures maybe headshots. Then if you add your character talk with them for awhile, then the invite. There you go!
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leahquestions (31598)
2010-02-09 18:38:29
first write for a bit then call then talk but don't wait too long.. paid date sites are best, the free ones are for losers but I never had any luck with them, got way too many replies and 99.9%% of them were bullshitting-- even the paid date sites, they show you all the good... the best way to find a mate is to go do activities you like and you'll find someone with similar interests..unless you prefer to just write etc some people are like that-- it's called safe sex and it happens all the time.......
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