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Partying VS. Staying at home
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Lately I have been feeling like an outcast. Everyone around me Loves drinking and partying, whereas I like to stay at home, relax, and do simpler things. I recently moved to a new town and I'm having the hardest time making friends because I don't like Drinking ( It seems like everyones favourite pass time is drinking! ). So I stay at home, alone. Every weekend I make up new excuses why I cant go out with people, when really its because I dont want to drink. No one accepts me when I dont drink, They tell me its awkward. Ive actually lost a lot of friends due to not wanting to party. Im accepting of them, why cant they accept my sober lifestyle? Is there something wrong with me?
Do you think it's normal?
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oquenbe (28566)
2009-10-30 07:08:21
i like to stay home too! althought i also like to weigh out my options sometimes plus if you wanted to you could go out dance, have fun and not drink
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Jen118584 (30020)
2009-10-30 07:51:17
Volunteer to be DD, that's what I do :) Hangovers are just not worth it to me...feeling like crap for the whole next day is just not my cuppa tea.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-10-31 03:20:33
DD's OK - but drinking is usually about getting drunk.

If you want to do other things with other people you are going to need to pursue other interests that you can do with people.

Hobbies, sports, outings, arts, etc. There must be things some of these friends do other than drink that you can do together. That & you can reach out to new people/groups/clubs/organizations.
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needadvice (30471)
2009-10-31 11:30:27
@: Ollieo
I know I should be trying to find other people, except i'm really really shy and quiet. So it's hard for me to meet new people :( I try t be outgoing and i'm really friendly but I just get so anxious about it.
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shiftysplit (30590)
2009-11-01 15:30:41
Same thing has happened with me. I am so tired of people always needing to drink to have fun! It's ridiculous! I'm from Utah and here there is this stereotype that if you don't like to drink and party you must be Mormon. Well I'm not, but I still prefer not drinking. I'd rather do some other sort of activity where I'm actually getting to know the other person, not just the image the person is trying to portray.

I think it's so important to find people who are like you to hang out with. Find people who will respect you for not wanting to drink. I now have a couple friends who are like me who I feel so much more comfortable around them, than any of my partying friends. I don't feel like they hold me to this stereotypical obligation that to have fun you need to be intoxicated.

As for your drinker friends, be direct and honest with them. Don't put them down for wanting to drink, just make sure they know where you stand and be confident about your decision. Make it seem like you could careless what they think about you for not wanting to drink. Laugh it off and have fun with them while being sober. (:
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needadvice (30471)
2009-11-03 18:10:46
@: shiftysplit
Thanks! It's nice to know others feel the same way about drinking. I just don't understand the mentality that you need to drink to have fun.
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