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Permission before you jerk-off to her.
I know a lot of guys who would see/talk to some girl they like and than 20 minutes later be beating off to her in the bathroom. Most men would try to secretly check out some female and than pretend that they weren't looking at her ass, boobs, whatever. Especially if she is their friends girlfriend, sister, or young. I never felt comfortable with that it felt kind of creepy and barbaric. I would see someone doing that and it just felt wrong. To me it feels like disrespecting them by not being upfront about it.
I would feel like I need to let the subjects of my "affection" know how I feel. So if my friends gf came out of the shower in skin tight pants for example I would not hide the fact that I am checking her out in fact I would make sure she knows either through talk or by not hiding my glance. I would see my friend's friends trying to sneak a peak at her when they think no one is looking. I couldn't do that. I had no problem for example showing my sexual interest in the conversation either through jokes, gestures or straight forward comments. ex. "you have a cute camel-toe." Sometimes I would get hard I would not hide it.
When asked point blank questions I would remain honest. Another friend asked me if I ever thought about his gf sexual while she was there and I did not deny it. I would build a strong level of comfort, I would not mind changing in front of anybody and never censor my sexual thoughts from my male/female friends at any given moment. I would talk to all my female friends like they were my male friends, we would have no taboo subjects be it incest, bestiality, rape, fantasies, sexual experience etc. If I would be watching some sex movies on my computer and my female friend would come up I wouldn't hide it. We would sometimes watch what society deems "sick" movies together.
I wanted to know how do men behave differently if there is a female friends present versus male friends and vice versa for women. IN my experience the norm is to censor yourself. Is this true for you guys, please explain. People tell me my behavior is eccentric and my openness rare. I want to know how rare, if others do the same.
I would feel like I need to let the subjects of my "affection" know how I feel. So if my friends gf came out of the shower in skin tight pants for example I would not hide the fact that I am checking her out in fact I would make sure she knows either through talk or by not hiding my glance. I would see my friend's friends trying to sneak a peak at her when they think no one is looking. I couldn't do that. I had no problem for example showing my sexual interest in the conversation either through jokes, gestures or straight forward comments. ex. "you have a cute camel-toe." Sometimes I would get hard I would not hide it.
When asked point blank questions I would remain honest. Another friend asked me if I ever thought about his gf sexual while she was there and I did not deny it. I would build a strong level of comfort, I would not mind changing in front of anybody and never censor my sexual thoughts from my male/female friends at any given moment. I would talk to all my female friends like they were my male friends, we would have no taboo subjects be it incest, bestiality, rape, fantasies, sexual experience etc. If I would be watching some sex movies on my computer and my female friend would come up I wouldn't hide it. We would sometimes watch what society deems "sick" movies together.
I wanted to know how do men behave differently if there is a female friends present versus male friends and vice versa for women. IN my experience the norm is to censor yourself. Is this true for you guys, please explain. People tell me my behavior is eccentric and my openness rare. I want to know how rare, if others do the same.
Do you think it's normal?
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just wondering though, your friends don't get pissed off when you check out there girlfriends? knowing that you are so upfront about it i myself would be a little worried that you wouldn't bother resisting banging my girlfriend. on the other hand though. she shouldn't let you in the first place and if she did she shouldn't be my girlfriend. so how could anybody be mad about that?! i answered my own question!
Open, truthful, respectful, etc.
You have great relationships with your friends, and you deserve it.
Good job
I think it is brave to ask a girl if ya can pleasure yourself to thoughts of her, though I hope you do it politely.
It sounds like you are a nice guy.
(I can see where it could be a problem for a sexy girl though - heck if all the guys that pleasured themselves to Me had to ask me first, the line would stretch for a mile and most of my day would be taken up with replies.)
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And how is your girlfriend coming out of the shower with pants on?
BUT wtf, that kind of openess is wrong.
We have all gotten the boner, when sitting next to a hot chick, most of us know to hide it. Do some math in our heads, to calm us down, or if you are a math nerd, think of pornographic images. For some reason, pi really gets me going, I digress.
Censor yourself, create some balance between you id, ego and super ego. Understand that the rest of us, are prudish, puritan, uptight, Victorian minded compared to yourself. While I can deal with Edwardian clothing reform, I don't think we should have a society were every guy walks around with a boner, and every female is in mid orgasm. Just my two cents.
(You said you dislike censorship, so you can't claim I am rude, unless you are a hypocrite, than you can do whatever you want)
what do you think this means you have some sort of respect for women? it just means your more womanizing
So yeah, there's probably a couple girls who've cried over what you said to them and/or had nightmares. You should stop.
Sex is not filthy, it is emotional, passionate and ecstatic.
Repression is not good it broads and than leaks out as violence and intolerance.
What I am referring to is something that I saw today actually. I am sitting in the doc's office next to me sits this guy. Across sits a semi-pretty girl. Instead of starting a conversation or just acknowledging her presence with a smile a nod whatever. He waits for her to turn around and is snapping pictures of her with his phone and than tries to hide what he is doing when someone looks in his direction. Now That's creepy.
job interview (female interviewer)
meeting gf/fiance's mom
btw.. gf? fiance? hmm.. she knows that the love and respect you have for her is comparable to the love and respect you have for your favorite porn star. She would be crazy about you, dude.
lol, just a wild theory. I can't say for sure, of course.
I'd guess they mostly think it's rude and/or creepy.
The coy games we play with women allow us to flirt respectfully, and without presenting a threat.
If it doesn't come naturally to you, try watching romantic comedies to see how it works.