pls. help!!

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If all he did was talk to some girls he's never met online who cares. If he was cheating that is a real problem, but just talking/emailing, though weird is not something to get pissed at him about.

And in addition to the above, I also found pictures and porno videos from those girs?... even id those emails HE was inviting them to his house

Does "easy girls" mean that they are talking phone or cyber sex? Chances are he is just getting his kicks from it and it wouldn't go any farther. It doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with your relationship. Guys are strange primal animals (just kidding) - They just do it because they can, it's fun, and it feels good! I am finding that even in the most happiest and sexually fulfilling relationships, they will still look for other outlets of "release" like with porn. They will still masterbate everyday even if they are getting it regularly. Would you get upset about that? I certainly hope not!

If you are having problems believing him about how far he has gone with the conversations, you probably need to discuss it some more and let him know how you feel about it. I believe when he told you he did it for fun, it was just that. Frankly, I don't think you have anything to worry.

Now when I hit the submit comment button, you've added all these other important details that would make a major difference! You said phone/email conversations and my response was based on that! Just like a soap opera!

Boundaries have certainly been broken in this case, especially with invitations to the house! Do you need help with a "Dear John" letter or video?

I would be mad, and it would be a problem for me. I mean even if all he did was talk dirty or whatever it would make me feel somehow inadequit. I personally am not okay with my man watching porn I dont like thinking about him getting off to someone else. I think if this has made you feel hurt or betrayed in some way that it is validated and I would let him know, and you need to decide if this is a matter of trust and if so is this something you can really get over or are you going to dwell on it causing you both to be miserable?

I don't want to generalize, but most guys whack off regularly, whether they use imagery,porn or whatever. I guess my point is that sometimes they ("normal guys" - for lack of better words!) do this for very simple reasons. What HE does with his body won't make ME feel inadequate, but I wouldn't ignore it; we would have a very frank discussion about it! This is why the majority of guys hide this from us - they don't want us to get all hyped up about it. I am not saying this is right or it is okay in all instances. But you are right that her feelings are validated (especially with the added details) and she has to decide whether she can deal with it or not.

cheater, cheater, cheater, cheater. How stupid are you for even letting it get this far. You knew that he was doing this before you found the movies and that he invited them back to YOUR HOME!!! You may want to burn the mattress!!!!!! Good luck!!!

he might just be having stupid fun. us guys do this for the thrills not the chills that are ensued by the knowing that its another woman. Plus most of the girls that a loyal guy looks at are just a way for them to get a sense of variety instead of getting sick of you. so relax its normal. like 80% of married men look at porn and masturbate and it is in no way horrible. inviting them to your home however is a different story. DUMP THAT MUTHAFUCKA and BURN the matresses and make him replace them. do what your heart tells you always but let logic seep into your thinking okay?

According to divorce attorneys, 50% of divorces are because of or partially because of porn. Does that sound like a healthy statistic to you? And those are just the ones who say it outright instead of saying "irreconsiable differences". Even if it was just playing around, that is a line he should not have crossed. If it makes a difference to anyone reading this, I am a guy.

Is it me or does that strikingly remind anyone else of those forwards you get in your email box from 12year olds trying to pretend they are Bill Gates...

That's not normal, if he were happy in his relationship with you, what the hell is he doing chatting with other women in a place called "Easy Girls"? It's not just for fun, if he was looking for fun he'd have found a safe site or just torrented some porn.

I'd look into this if I were you, or start looking for someone with habits that are less worrying. I'm secure with my boyfriend, but I still wouldn't want him to be a part of anything called "Easy Girls". After all, what would they give him that I apparently can't?