Porn and My Boyfriend

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dude, let him be, you know? Porn is like a gateway. Fantasy, fetish (whatever weird/normal thing he's into)--it's all there. and so are you. he's intimate with you still soooo, that's good. itf he starts becoming intimate with porn...then that's a problem. Other than than, maybe he's using porn as a sort of release if you know what i mean. or maybe he's training for you lol

it could be worse. like if he was out actually having sex with other people then i can see how that would become problematic. lol
idk, i used to have similar issues with my boyfriend looking at porn. i have thought about it ALOT.
people like sex. we are wired to do it. so he is going to get off one way or another right? and sometimes maybe you dont feel like sex.. lol why shouldnt he be able to do things on his own? btw maybe you should consider checkin out some porn on your own to get his perspective??
there may be a problem if he chooses to look at porn RATHER than be with you. but other than that i would say its rather normal for him to enjoy porn.

Awwww girl I feel your problem. When my boyfriend and i first started to date he had porn and into the relationship he put one on for his friend, his friends girl friend and me. I was so upset i pretended i was asleep! I couldn't believe he would do something like that, im thinking what does he want all of us to want each other or what! He knew i was so mad about it he got rid of them and its not wrong for you to want to be the only girl he sees naked the girls on those movies are hoes for doing that on tape. Your way better than them ok just tell your boyfriend you don't like that he watches them and make him get rid of them...

I am sure that porn has been in his life way before he met you. It is like a security blanket.

It's a natural thing. I have a girl that I am crazy about and we do have sex. But you can't always be having sex with your partner or it seems to be a one dimensional relationship, and I doubt you want that.

Sometimes it is just something that a guy has to do. It relieves stress and can change your mindset if it needs to be done.

I totally agree with you , I am age 41 I am a male But if I had a girlfriend , I would not be watching any kind of porn
Yes i do admit it's a replacement for
real love , I wouldn't watch porn and have a girlfriend

I get what you're saying, my husband has his occasional trysts with the late night pornos. What you have to understand is, porn has nothing to do with you. I know, you're thinking "Well DUH", but think about it. Guys are seriously horny creatures and thinking about sex takes up the majority of their brain cells. For guys, porn is sort of like a romantic comedy is for women.

I've had this conversation with half a dozen of my girlfriends, and it's pointless... I think I'm the only female who doesn't have an issue with porn.

It means you want to sleep with someone else.

I think its normal to feel threatened by porn, but you need to remember he loves you, and not just for sexual reasons but for much more. Porn is just something guys use to masturbate, maybe you could suggest taking some dirty pictures of yourself that he could use to masturbate too?

we try things that he sees in porn. i know of all his fetishes and i play along. he masturbates to it. we dont live together, so im not always around when hes in the mood though.

okay thank you so much. i dont know i guess its just human nature for me to get jealous. but he most definitely rather be with me or be sexual with me than watch porn.

thank you hun:)

i understand the whole deal of it. i just get jealous, and can't help it, you know?

thanks for your thoughts

I'm sorry, but I totally disagree with most people here. When evaluating whether an action is right/wrong I think most people will just ask themselves 'do I do it?' Yes I look at porn, or yes all my good friends look at porn so therefore its good etc.
I look at porn occasionally, and when I do, I am not as attracted to my girlfriend as I am without it. I find myself checking out other girls a lot more and even making mental notes on what it would be like to do different things to these girls.
You have to be loving and patient with someone, but if something they do makes you feel uncomfortable, despite what people here say, you should let them know or do something about it.

Have sex with him more. Spice it up in the bedroom.

If my boyfriend was watching porn, Id assume it was because I was gone, or was not able to have sex with him for whatever reason. If i was able to, he'd go to me. And your guy should do the same. Are you both at home while hes doing this? Or is it like, when you're gone?

Nothing wrong with porn, aslong as you're having a healthy sexual relationship I see no problem, sometimes porn actually helps people stay sexually active, if you cut off the porn then he might stop feeling sexed.

I understand your jealousy though, maybe try to watch it with him? Maybe try to share a fetish? If you truly can't stay it, ask him to stop watching it, or at the very least don't watch it infront of you and wait till you are out or something.

Hope that helps. Xx

I suspect that your jealousy is at least partly because you're not involved in what's happening when he's watching porn, and you feel like he's getting something from it that he's not getting from you. How about you try including yourself in what's going on. Maybe the porn doesn't do anything for you - people respond to different things and his "bag" might not be yours.

But does it get you hot when he's aroused?

So get involved in how it makes your boyfriend feel. I once had a partner for several years who was quite keen on porn, and it made for some of the most stimulating lovemaking you can imagine. I wasn't allowed to watch it too intently or she'd get offended. So instead I focused my attention on how she was responding. Ah, the things she'd let me do to her while her every nerve was standing on end and she was jumping out of her skin. I let my imagination run wild!

You've probably got a few fantasy's of your own you'd like to explore. Let his excitement fuel yours. He's much more likely to go along with anything you want to try when he's wild.

Try setting the negative feelings to one side. Try accepting this side of your partner and exploring what opportunities it might present. If it doesn't turn out good then you've lost nothing, and at least you've tried. If it turns out good, it could be wonderful!

Good luck.