possesive wife - 14% Normal

Has this all been triggered by the birth of the baby? If so, postnatal depression is a possibility (http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/depressionpostnatal.htm ). If you think this could be it, encourage your wife to talk to her GP about it.

Why delay professional help? Sounds like it couldn't hurt, and the sooner the better.

well thanx.. I thought abt it and tried to talk abt it to her, but she simply says that it is nothing. she doesnot need any help or professional help... the only thing that can stop her from behaving like this is if i cut off with everyone and just be hers. I have told her that it is true and she means everything to me and I love her, but she insists on proving it by ristricting my life to work (caz gotta have to pay the bills) and then just her... no friends, no family members no contact with anyone.... thats the only thing she says will prove that i love her.

If she is unwilling to seek any kind of help I would have to seriously consider ending the relationship. I wouldn't do this as anything exept a last resort, but...

i guess the best way, is to bring her to the psychologist for a consultation or councilling. Because your wife isn't behaving very normally. She MIGHT even be suffering from depression... Its best to give her treatment asap. All the best to you two, and i hope she become all right soon :)

Definitely doesn't sound normal to me. If she's really unwilling to go to counseling about it, then you could at least visit one yourself on her behalf. I'm sure they could give you some good pointers on how to deal with this.

Often depressed people fail to see the problem, kind of wood for trees scenario. It seems that your wife has some serous confidence issues, the fact shes feeling second best to even her own child is a worry, but it definately seems to be triggered by the birth which would point to PND (post natal depression) It's a slippery road and a viscious circle for a woman when she gets insecure.

When my boy was 3 month old I found myself resenting my husbands family contacting him, particularly female ones, mother, cousins, aunties etc and even got to the point where I threw ultimatums like "its me or your mother!! cut her out of your life for good or we're getting a divorce!" My child was a year old before I snapped out of it and realsied how irrational, unreasonable and cruel I was being, I was never diagnosed with PND and to be honest I dont think I had it as I was possessive BEFORE I had my little boy, I have grown up so much since and taking up a new interest and making new friends was the backbone of this change, it made me feel me again.

How old is your wife? I was 24 when I had my boy and Im 26 now, looking back it was my insecurities that caused the problem, not the relationships my husband had with his family. If she is insecure in anyway it can manifest in controlling behaviour, cutting off from friends/family, insisting you have no outside life - I know this, I was that controlling wife!! And there is a way out, she must talk to someone, have a distraction, a hobbie, a sport, new friends maybe, something to boost her confidence, having a baby can be a very isolating and lonely time for a woman, shes only human, and there is definately hope, if I can change - anyone can, (and I used to be outragousley bad!!) Dont give up on her!

Best of luck x

It definatly sounds like postnatal depression. Look it up and talk to your wife or someone professional :)

She has got you in a leash. Break loose and do what you want.

You might want to get her to a shrink, for you and your kids sake, can tell you not much fun growing up with a loopy mother.

wow...if that is what pnd is like i am sooo glad i never got that..i have depression and i thought it was like that just a little worse. i suggest u try your hardest to get her help and go with her if u can to see what u can do together..but if she is not willing to change maybe take a break and she might break down and realize what she was doing and try and fix it.. hm well i hope it gets better for u guys

Keep being supportive and reassuring of her. Keep your connections with family. Go speak with her Dr about what is going on right away, with or without her.

give her more attention...have more sex with her.

I agree with this posting as well.
Not normal. Hormones can do a number on people.

This is not normal and is not post-partum depression. This is a larger issue being brought to the fore by the depression or chemical imbalance. She's probably been a control freak all along and it's now become much stronger. People like this want 100 percent of your attention and can not stand to share the spotlight. It's also a symptom of NPD (narcissitic personality disorder) so you should look up the 10 signs of this and see what matches. I had a boyfriend like this and he wasn't going to be happy until I had zero friends and zero family ties left. I ended it because that's not healthy or normal to be seclusioned with just one person. He was totally nuts. She needs help, but beware, NPD people are not curable and will ruin your life if you let them. They always seek out weak-willed people and will keep it up until you break. Think about your baby and what her life will be like unless this is stopped in it's tracks now. Good luck.

it sounds like your wife is lonely and as a result has become jealous with your interaction with family and friends. Encourage her to get out and meet people and make new friends, mother and baby groups are a good start. If things get any worse she should seek help for depression.