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i started college last year and met a girl and i liked her, i thought that maybe she was into me cause she was so charismatic and would smile to me when we spoke. it was to late when i realized she was like that with everybody. so i developed a crush on her. eventually we where separated in our classes so i stopped seeing her. this year we where reunited in our classes and i went to speak with her asked her number and all. started to talk to her more often until i realized that she was not into me and felt a great amount of pain. so i told her that i liked her (thinking that expressing myself would make me feel better) and she gently said no, and told me there was some one else she was interested in. so it was okay until she became friend of my friends, now i have to see her everyday. i dont want to see her cause i want to forget her but now i have to. and i get so jealous because everytime i see her she is hugging other guys or when i see her body, i feel bad. the thing is that when i get home i really feel bad and i cannot help it. i get to a point when i feel so bad (after hours analyzing stuff) that my brain gets so tired and i stop feeling at all. eventually i start feeling bad and the next day i see her again and the cycle starts again. this is really a problem cause most of the day i really feel bad, i have the same feeling as if a loved one passed away. i feel like there is something missing that i will never ever have. this is a problem cause i really have to study a lot (in med school) and i cant. and im trying and trying to analyze things in my head and this gets me really tired. and end up solving nothing.
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jack126 (21297)
2009-03-26 13:57:06
I donīt know how old you are but I think itīs pretty normal and common when you are young. I am not really good with girls and got obsessed with plenty of them even in my mid twenties, used to fall in love pretty easy, but got through and I am with a good girl right now.

Just do whatever is relevant for your life, even if you donīt feel like it or donīt want to. Get hobbies, relate with people, hang out with people and maybe you will get to know a girl or two in the way and it will be easier to forget the other one. Sooner or later your mind will give you a break and let you study or do whatever you intend to. Just keep going on with you life. Trust me, it wonīt last forever.

And yeah, it happens to the best of us!
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andrian007 (21330)
2009-03-27 12:36:34
You're not the only one who feels this way. It has happened to me before too. Except I didn't have to see her everyday afterwards. But there was a similarty such that I simply couldn't stop thinking about her and I felt really jealous when I saw her with someone else.

My friend, first things first. Forgetting her will take time. You have to accept that. This is not like a light switch where you can switch your feelings ON/OFF whenever you feel like it. My only advice is that you channel your energy into other things. What hobbies do you have outside school/work? Sports? Arts? Books? Museums?

The other thing is if you absolutely have to, try to avoid being with that group without upsetting your friends.

This is going to be hard, but be strong, my friend, and you will get through this.
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sodas (21247)
2009-04-05 22:08:59
@: andrian007
thanks i feel so much better, maybe she was not the right girl. thanks for your comments made me feel a lot better. really
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Nobodyislistening (23937)
2009-06-06 23:08:09
You have my condolences. I've been there and it sucks. I don't know what I can say- stay at it? Don't keep asking, I mean, but keep your options open. you NEVER know when things could change. Mine ended up breaking up with her fiance, becoming single. While we never dated we gave each other a bit of a go, and I got closure out of the fact that it never would have really worked out. Keep your options open bro, and good luck.
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Penispoopoo (26070)
2009-08-01 10:18:56
@: sodas
This is a rite of passage for 99.9% of men. This is something that will make you as a man stronger and assertive. The important thing is these feelings WILL NOT last forever, but you will not forget her either. Believe me I completely understand. I'm 23, happily married and the future looks bright, but my experiences and pain are what make me who I am now.
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