When im in an argument or if someone (normaly my mam) says somthing that deeply upsets me, somthing is going to get broken. Normaly one of my knuckles, anger builds and i have to lash out at somthing. I have never hit anyone in this situation, its always the closest thing to me that gets it, usualy a wall.
Then my mam guilt trips me and says i have anger issues etc. Im guessing their is some truth to that.
How many of you hit walls when ya really mad??
Then my mam guilt trips me and says i have anger issues etc. Im guessing their is some truth to that.
How many of you hit walls when ya really mad??
Joybird usually recommends Kalms Tablets.
THE FUCK MAN!? HOW DO YOU EXPECT THE PARKING BRAKE TO WORK IF YOU KEEP DRIVING ON IT FUCK THIS CAR SMELLS DISGUSTING WHY YA TRYIN' TO FUCK UP MY RIDE MAN!?
Or something similar to that, probably more on-topic though. I don't think I'd yell at you about my parking brake during a discussion pertaining to religion. Or maybe I would, I don't know.
Sheesh!
But you never sounded like you were Blinded with Anger. Maybe annoyed a little bit. :)
To be honest if a comment is long I normally won't respond out of laziness. I guess people took my silence on one of your Posts to mean you had my Logic beat and thumbed your Comment into the stratosphere.
How Naive.
Seen lots of good contributions here from you as well. :D (and not that it matters,but I'm not precicely a sir. ;P hehe)
And I agree with you. But even when People decide to look, they very rarely see.
Heh, I was talking to some friends earlier on where humanity went wrong. I suggested that it was when they give into fear rather than reason and curiousity about the world. At least, as part of the problem.
Better yet would be to find a healthy outlet for your emotions, something not so destructive.
Even better would be to just say fuck it. There are times and places where anger is appropriate, but in most day to day arguments and disagreements that is not the place. If you want something to truly be angry about, just watch or read some world news. There are much worse things going on in the world right now than an argument with parents.
And my cousin got himself a punching bag. Works spectacularly. Sometimes. He still gets the urge to break shit every now and then. But that's because his Mom has him on over 9000 pills and doesn't discipline him. Poor fucker. I hope he breaks everything she owns.
What kind of pills does she have him on? A lot of adolescents get misdiagnosed or just put on shit to keep them quiet when they would be better off unmedicated. Sometimes that shit helps, but I'm really leery about those kinds of things.
The kid is on ADHD medication, has been since around 2-4 years of age. Honestly, I have dealt with a great deal many children, special ed of many degrees as well as regular ed and I truly do not feel as if he has ADHD nor is it appropriate to diagnose a child with ADHD before 5-6...
To rant, she put him on ADHD medication for his hyperactivity and then complained that he wasn't as bubbly and hyper as he was when he was younger and she put him on depression and mood swing medication. Bear in mind, he is 14. I truly don't feel that there is anything wrong with him that reducing his sugar intake, introducing him to exercise (I FINALLY LEARNED HOW TO SPELL EXERCISE) firm discipline with set consequences and increased involvement in after school activities won't fix for the most part if not entirely.
I was able to get him to a point where, if he was doing something that he knew I didn't like, if I were to become present in the room or he were to hear me coming, he'd drop everything and leave. Because he knew that there would be consequences - as in my stopping him from his "fun" - if he continued his behavior around me. A child with an impulse disorder (ADHD) does not understand consequences and link action to reaction as immediately as that. I truly don't believe he was any special needs - he is just like every other regular kid I have dealt with. It pains me to see a regular kid with potential labeled as special needs by a lazy parent =/
If you're able to tell someone why what they have said has hurt you so much, one of two things is going to happen.
(a) They'll stop doing it in future.
(b) If they do it in future, you can politely remind them that you've asked them not to do it, and ask them why they didn't listen to you? It puts you in the right, almost.
If, however, you don't do this, you'll hurt yourself and also let people know what pushes your buttons. You're gaining nothing.
I know it's hard to be logical when the red mist descends, so you also need some techniques for dealing with anger. I'll let you Google that, rather than rabbit on.