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Real Live Spinster
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I'm 42 years old. I've never been kissed, never had a boyfriend or lover, never even dated. The only relationship I've had with men has been work or school. I don't know how to relate to men in any way other than friendship. Some have shown interest, but I change the subject.

I'm not a lesbian and I don't hate men. I'm just scared of AIDS, betrayal, abuse, and ridicule. It's just hard to believe that there are any good men out there and I dread being hurt.
Is this normal?
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Comments (10)
Anonymous
2005-05-02 06:36:03
I think you're just afraid of being hurt, rejection, etc. This is only not normal if you actually want to be in a relationship. You shouldn't let your fears keep you from experiencing things, good or bad. Part of finding the right man for you is finding the wrong men. It's hard to know what we want until we know what we don't want. Get out there and date casually. Take it slow and you'll be fine.
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Anonymous
2005-05-02 09:03:34
you are not alone, and it is not too late for you to change. Please find some kind of counselor who can help you.
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Frank A (42)
2005-05-04 00:33:15
Go for someone known to be a "nice-guy" you will love him and he will love you...I am a nice guy but only 19 same problems as you though, only I am a guy...
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Carlotta10 (198)
2005-06-16 06:36:29
Who cares if he is a good man. Sounds like you need to just meet someone and learn that men are people and make mistakes. But they are gooooooooood people, just as women are...
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roony (2666)
2006-07-07 00:44:39
Yea, You should really try to date. Try to find a ncie guy, or put in a personal ad.
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weirdotoo (2626)
2006-07-07 02:45:58
just one question... are you happy like this?
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PainInTheAss (1660)
2006-07-30 22:56:22
LAID!!!! asap, and stop being such a puss, you only live once. good luck!
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tsarinaamanda (3462)
2006-08-29 23:55:52
I understand, I am married and I love my husband, but I wouldn't mind being alone. If you are happy, then it is normal for you. If you aren't, then get help. A psychiatrist can work wonders, believe me. But don't let anyone pressure you if you are happy, being independent is a GOOD thing!
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Johno (4085)
2006-10-23 18:52:27
Well your luck has just changed call me
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slackjawedyokel (6678)
2007-04-16 10:06:17
42? the change will come soon youd better go and and get some sex before you lose what little juice you have left.find a man with a big schlong and make up for lost time.
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