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Relationship Envy
Why do i envy other people in relationships so much? is it because ive never had one and i don't know that feeling? i don't what's wrong with me im not fat but im not thin either average you could say. I have a heart i do feel happy for them but wish so much to be like them. It makes me feel psyichally sick sometimes. i go out to pubs clubs all that and everyone around me seems to find someone maybe not all on the same night but its never me. im becoming a bit a of hermit now i don't go out so much (probly from all the rejection ^ALOT^) i tryed girls my age didnt work i tryed younger girls (ie 16-17) didnt happen. its hard looking at people going from girl to girl and not having a problem its like its easy for them. i think its affecting my health. i was having chest pains and the doctor say'd i have stress and anxiety. i think it more of a depression at this stage. im worried because im becoming more how do you call it snappy towards people. *sighs* im 23 year old guy. i just wanna share my time here with someone and not be alone all the time. im scared i might go all psycho and take my angry out the wrong way.
other points
no job
lonely
very nervous at this stage
shy (from rejection not 1 or 2 girls more like 202)
head up my ass
other points
no job
lonely
very nervous at this stage
shy (from rejection not 1 or 2 girls more like 202)
head up my ass
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Maybe you should look elsewhere for girls... If it makes you feel any better I really do understand how you feel, I am 20 and have never had a boyfriend, but for more complex reasons.
I can see how you are afraid of becoming bitter, but only you can decide whether you will react that way. I think you need to try a different approach since whatever you have been doing isn't working for you.
It's totally normal to feel like crap after someone has rejected you - it happens to the best of us :( but that's life. Look forward, not at what has happened.
As you have a negative opinion on your day-to-day life, introduce changes into your life, and your love-life will follow that change. Apply for a job, join a club which interests you... the worst thing you can do is give up - trust me it'll be a lot worse for you if you sit on the couch feeling like poo.
Perhaps you can go to confidence boosting classes? lol if i make any negative comment about having no confidence i'd be a hipocrite, but being at a younger age hopefully means that i can develop my confidence... - that is exactly what you need to do, take small steps to gradually rebuild your confidence.
You only have one life - go make the most of it! Go out with your friends, have a laugh. There is more to life than love - although love is important, you need to develop yourself before you concentrate on that aspect and finds someone who loves you in return - and you will, I promise.
Take care x
Your problem is a far more fundamental one: lack of self-confidence. This may have resulted from multipe rejections. This may also be the reason why you have difficulty finding a job.
So this lack of confidence is the very first thing which I recommend you tackle immediately. To be frank with you, I envy others with relationships occasionally, but let's be frank here; it's fantastic to be in a loving relationship, but it's hardly life's ultimate objective. The ultimate objective is to enjoy life to the utmost and do what you want to do.
I agree with what others have said here. You need to engage in activities that will boost your confidence significantly, whether it be joining clubs and playing sports or whatever. Go do a bit of travelling or whatever it is that you enjoy doing. When the self-confidence returns, everything else will come into place. I really hope this helps by the way, but you are not alone, there are others out there and you know we are here to listen.