sex for punishment?

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No, I don't like sex, and guys gross me out most of the time. Personally I think it's horrible that you're having sex with guys that have girlfriends. If you're trying to punish yourself try cutting yourself or something. Don't ruin more relationships. I hate girls that do that kind of stuff, it's sooo wrong. (AND SLUTTY).
Alright I guess I'm being a bit harsh, but I'm also being honest. I think you gain nothing from it and neither does anyone else. Please stop.

^ lets not tell ppl to cut themselves
if it makes u feel like shit then i think the answers clear

I've only felt disgustin once after sex and that was because I didn't want to do it and I didn't like the guy. Sex in a relationship however feels more secure because you know the person. Maybe you should try and get at least a friendship with your sex buddies and sex may be more pleasent because there is that sence of trust

your gonna grow up to be a porn star,
make the industry proud! :D

yeah sometimes sex is shit, you just have to meet the right person i guess? ive f*ck many of girls i just didnt give a rats arse about and afterwards ive felt bad, i guess cos ive used them cos they like me?

i guess its normal?

i will not u fuckn idiot

Most of these comments are silly little boys. It sounds like you have sex for the wrong reasons try therapy.:)

You sound like a great person. Most guys with the same sexual history as you would not be kicking themselves the way you are. You are the victim of a messed up double standard that has hurt a lot of women. Therapy has helped a lot of people to feel better, but you will be fine either way. Time fixes most ills. Even the guys will get better as they mature.

You deserve better than this. Make friends and do not worry about sex. It is not important, friends are. If sex should happen then that is your decision. DO not look for sex and do not look for guys in pubs

It sucks real bad to have sex only to feel disgusted with yourself afterwards. You're doing real damage to your self-esteem and this is not the way to go.

The fundamental question is why do you do it in the first place if you know you don't like the guy? Peer pressure? Maybe your friends are doing it and you feel stupid if you're not? Stop doing it if you don't feel like you're enjoying it! After a while, rumours will go round and people will just think you're a loose woman... that would be really bad, right?

"i sometimes cry and feel disgusting afterwards" ... how you feel about this casual sex, including that you don't even enjoy the sex act itself, is part of what you can change. Stop approaching sex through casual relationships.

My guess is you might need to think about the relationship part a lot more, and either cultivate ones that are healthy, or put it all on the back burner if you are not ready for that.

Please don't beat yourself up for having casual sex though. Lots of people go that route. Just listen to yourself about how you feel, and act according to that.

You sound like you have low self esteem and you need counseling. You probably don't care but you could end up pregnant by some loser or get AIDS or an STD.

At least find a guy that likes you.

maybe coz sex is supposed to be cherished and ur definately not cherishing it so u get the after effects

I've had boyfriends in the past who will pressure me into having sex when I'm not in the mood or they want to do a position that's painful for me. I usually let them and afterwards, I always feel kind of used and I'm disappointed with myself for letting them do that to me. I often will go to the bathroom and cry, or I'll cry silently beside them while they're sleeping it off. And then I feel kind of mad at them for pressuring me into it when I really didn't want to and I told them I didn't really want to. When it happens, it almost feels like a mini rape. Which, I don't want to put words in your mouth, but i think we're feeling something pretty similar. I think a big part of it is society's pressure on girls to be like the girls on tv and the big screen; the media tells us to seek male approval. And it's impossible to escape the media. So we do it, even if we know it won't make us feel good about our selves because we'll get guy approval for having done it. I think the trick of it is is finding a good guy who won't put that kind of pressure on you, but I think finding a good guy is sometimes really hard to do, particularly when you're as young as you are. Guys mature slower than girls, so you'll probably start finding better guys your own age as you get older. Don't sell yourself short by being with these guys who are just using you for easy sex. Personally, I've been trying to find a guy who meets my standards and I've made a commitment to myself to just stay single until I find him. I'm tired of dating guys who would be willing to use me for their own pleasure. I think if you wait for the right guy, sex will be a lot more enjoyable for you.

I agree:D!
ON a serious note tho if it makes u cry and feel disgusting afterwards ...idk its all bad and u dont seem to enjoy it stop :/

Your mini-rape is a good point - though if you say no & don't want to & the "pressure" is intercourse despite that, then there is no mini - its rape.

And your point about standing up for yourself and having standards is great. The whole fuck buddy concept sounds pretty impersonal and degrading. Certainly it is for her (the poster) and was for you.