Sex isn't a big deal, is this normal?

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Well, sex isn't really a big deal to me now that I'm a older(32). I think that it's really overrated and there are so many dangers out there surrounding it as well. Of course I'm over my sexual peak, where you have about 10 years to go before your hormones are in overdrive. Just wait, you'll be craving sex like a smoke after dinner soon enough. :)

Yes, of course it's normal. Some of us are more highly sexed than others. I spend a lot of my spare time fckuing, because I have a constant need. It's not good or bad, it's just how I am. I have two friends the same and three who find it all an over-rated pastime. One is a virgin at 27 - she's trying for the Guinness book perhaps.
Sex is for pleasure, as well as babies. Enjoy it as you want and don't worry what the others say.

ya but there are times like after the bar or something when i'm with a guy friend when i wanna have sex i mean lol come on, but i just dont want to becuase i dont want to be another number on some guys list lol...i wana be in something like bf/gf or whatever lol, but the fact that i dont go around thinking that i need to do it or care enough about it bothers my other guy friends? weird? i didnt think it was such a big deal? BAH lol

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It's not a big deal and if they can't take it then maybe you need better company. Don't be judged, go to www.theadulthookup.com where everyone loves everyone. At least for one night. :)

Your guy friends are just insecure and view chastity as an annoyance. Once they start becoming unchaste they will probably develop into misogynists. I'd keep my distance if I were you. The definitive work on this is 'The Second Sex' by Simone de Beavoir. They should have it at your local library.

Unfortunately sex is a big deal with most men. So your going to get guys frustrated especially at the age you are. Sex is what drives most mens lives. That is 90% of the time of what they think about while they are doing something else. They are thinking about when are they going to get laid next. It sad but true. But I think its normal for a girl to feel like sex isn't a big deal you will when you have a very close relationship with someone but you are still a virgin so how can you think sex is any deal at all?

I am 36 years old single man and I have never had sex. I have always wanted to but never went out of my way to get/find it. I have a sexual over-drive and I can pecker up in a second.
If you believe in yourself and what you are doing then societal pressures won't affect you.

It's totally normal to not feel the need for sex ... until your first orgasm during sex. And then ... mmmmmm... well there's never enough time. Granted society puts a bigger emphasis on it than it should, but when you're ready you're ready. Don't stress. (though you're missing out) Anywho, you really should buy a vibrator. People who orgasm at least 2 times a week live on average 10 years longer than those who don't. It's the only healthy pleasure in life.

as was once said my a great philosopher, you don't have the urge for candy untill you had some, same with sex, for me to stay a virgin was easy, after my first or second time though it changed for me as a guy, then i not only wanted it, i needed it, to this day i get the need for sex.

um because everyone makes it a big deal..our culture is all about sex all the time, just turn the tv on, or read a magazine. so ya it is a big deal at the same time because i have to weed out the losers who actually care about me and the ones who just want to use me for that need for sex. its not like i'm staying a virgin till marriage i just want a boyfriend someone who actually gives a crap

im only 18, and the most ive done with the oppisite sex is share some, erm, awkward kisses and snuggle a little. so i may not give great advice.
in my opinion sex isn't important, i feel that the other person is whats important. i think that being happy because of the person, and not anything sexual is more important.
so to answer your question, it doesn't seem like it should bother ANYONE. but thats just me.

Sex rules!

Well I think its pretty clear that the author is just waiting for the right guy to come along. So too bad for the guy friend wannabes and other players.

im still a virgin at 18 and it doesn't bother me when i think about it but when people bring it up and rub it in my face it makes me feel worthless and i get depressed i wish people wouldnt make such a big deal about it but thats not how the world works sometimes my advise from one virgin to another is to do what ever feels right you know? i know it sounds corny but its true don't do anything your not comfortable with. i hope this helps and i hope that im also normal for my post is the same sorta' ;)