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Funny, I'm a (straight) guy and most of my friends are women. I find men to be boring. And sometimes I end up sleeping with my women friends.

I want to be your friend. :) :)

AS long as your using your head and always practice "safe sex," then I don't see a problem with it. You may want to tone it down just a bit otherwise you could end up being labeled the school slut.

that's the best way to have it - friendly and fun, uncommitted and unencumbered with emotional baggage. have fun and, let's be friends!

WTF is with eveyrone calling this girl a slut? Fuck, get off your high horses people!

I'm sick and tired of chicks being looked down on who actually LIKE sex. Fuck that. Women want sex. We want it just as bad as men. But we have to pretend we don't and avoid it like the plague so people won't call us sluts and whores.

Not cool.

If a guy my age can have over 40 partners with no one blinking an eye about it then the fact that I also like to fuck should not be an issue. STFU already.

Sex is fun at ALL ages.
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I think you're missing out on having female friends though. Our society often pits women against each other, but even the best guy friends can't give you the same thing (I don't mean anything dirty!) that your girl friends can. As for sex with the guys, if you don't get hurt (many women get attached really easily with sex) and you stay safe, have fun! Yay to sex!

I wish I had friends like you. Seriously. Usually girls are really boring when it comes to sex with friends, as they fear to be seen as sluts or skanks. So I'm giving out a very big "Thanks idiots" to those clowns in here calling this girl names. People like you are the ones to blame for the worlds biggest irony. I mean, imagine a world where guys and girls had the same approach to sex? That would be heaven.

Respect to this girl for making the world a better place.

I'm the same way as far as having more guy friends than girl friends...but I don't usually let them have sex with me...o.o

I guess it could be normal though.

its fine .... infact i wish i was you lol

sex should be with one person and only after your marred.HORSE SHIT what are we liveing in the 1800s have sex act slutty if thats who you are if thats what you like and if your enjoying yourself (and others)ROCK OUT.

thats just how things happen when you enjoy sex and have male friends that you hang out with on the regular

Sounds fine. Just make sure to use condoms. Seriously - you don't know what kind of disease they may have.

I wish my friends that are girls would be like that

But yeah I think that is PERFECTLY normal as long as your being safe ;)

That's the only reason why they hang out with you, in hopes of the opportunity to have sex with you, ridiculously common these days!

Sex is something women have and men want, and as something women give in return for something else. Anything else you want, you better get before, because you will not get it afterwards.

In before the sad cunts who will say "Can I be your friend?"

Oh wait...

A very healthy attitute. Good that there actually are some people who can have sex and not get emotionally involved.

I have a boyfriend, but I also have a big majority of male friends and I would just love to have sex with some of them but I can't. Take the good out of it as long as you can. It's just evacuating sexual tension and it's a good thing. You're lucky you can do that.

In "Marriage and Morals," Bertrand Russell wrote: "The essential of romantic love is that it regards the beloved object as very difficult to possess and as very precious . ... The belief in the immense value of the lady is a psychological effect of the difficulty of obtaining her, and 1 think it may be laid down that when a man has no difficulty in obtaining a woman, his feeling towards her does not take the form of romantic love."

well...having sex with friends is ok but u have 2 have safe sex....

if u wanna talk ill be here

I have alot of male friends as i find girls to be bitchy and untrustworthy but i have a bf so i dont sleep with them. But i think aslong as its safe sex and no one gets ther feelings hurt i dont see a problem with it.

As long as you are prepared that you are diluting the meaning of sex with every guy, I think it is OK. If you want sex to be about fun and not intense emotional intimacy with say, a future spouse, then by all means have a good time :). But if you want sex to "mean something" down the road, you might wanna take it a little easy. I am probably the wrong person to ask though, b/c I think and care too much, so casual sex for me is an emotional nightmare...

The general principle of having casual sex is not illegal therefore there's nothing wrong with it. Even sex with a married person isn't illegal. Really the issue comes to the morality and your own values. However I wonder, if we always fall back on morality would we ever have sex. Would we want to lower ourselves to have sex. I mean. When you respect someone how could you do that. When you love someone. That is not respect. You love them and you want to do anything you can to please them and make them happy. I think sex is quite natural is that state. At the same token. I read about your body releasing dopemin which makes you feel happy when you are around something that you "love/care" but in a sense it's artificial. And until your body gets used to the chemicals then you'll always feel like that. I think I read after about 4 or 5 years your body becomes used to the chemicals. I would say after that amount of time. If you haven't had sex then you would feel that you weren't attracted to the person or that it wasn't working. So, ironically how can you truely know if you love someone? "I love you so much, that I don't want to risk my relationship with you".. :( Love is hopeless. And very imperfect.
Case in Point - it's your body .. do as you wish. There is no right and wrong. Only legal and illegal or moral and immoral. You will be judged by friends and family. But they are outsiders and can't necessarily understand your choices.
Sex with a random stranger sounds fun but if it turns into a pregnancy; very little likelyhood of that person staying and being a parent. A friend might b/c that person already cares for you.

Yes I think you have an issue with friendly sex or you wouldn't ask.

It seems okay as long as you're not upsetting anyone by sleeping with these guys, and you're having safe sex. You just need to keep a sharp eye on your reputation, cause it sounds as though a LOT of girls will be hostile to you/feel intimidated by you.

You'll grow out of it.

i got offered head once and i said i dont want an std and the girl beat the $hit out of me lol, and im 13 BOO YAH

dude, get your self checked out. std's are a bitch i hear.

I think it's f--ked up

In my experience, and although they may not show it, often-times it is the guys that feel badly about having sex with friend girls. I did so with a very good friend in college and felt I had let her down. I avoided her for a little while afterwards out of supposed guilt which produced its own problems between us. We put it behind us by, believe it or not, scheduling a regular night to be with each other for a movie or dinner or sex. We were usually broke so it was usually sex, but we didn't obsess and it made us closer friends. Whatever works and makes you happy.

Men are sooo fucking predictable. I have a couple of best friends that are guys, and yes at least once in their life they will TRY to have sex with you. God damn it guys, why are you sooo horny?

Sex is ultimate social lubricant, have fun. :)

WOW I wish I was more like that! You are so lucky. Casual sex rocks but I can't do the whole sex-without-emotion thing.

Girls as friends aren't that bad, though.

depends on how close you two are. i think sex should always mean something. i have alot of guy friends too but i would never sleep with them. because why should it be so easy for them to have me? im only going to give it to a guy whos deserving. not just another notch on my bed post or his for that matter. i can understand why u have more guy friends but try making girlfriends. they are great to have! and u can go out with them and have a good time. and i bet if u have more girls with you, you would meet a greater guy! rather than just having sex with the guy friends...

haha don't worry about it - I'm a 23 y/o chick and I fuck my dude friends all the time haha

You don't just "end up" having sex--you decide to do it. You little slut! Um...and furthermore, uh...Can we be friends?

I miss my fuck buddy

Having sex with friends is better than having sex with just some random person, IMO.

Modern birth control has changed the meaning of sex. Once it was a means to procreate, the more children produced the more likely the survival of the group. But with our vast overpopulation this has been reversed. Sex has now become a recreation and rightly so. Dispose of this society's puritanical beliefs. As long as you are not violating a promise made to a loved one, and you enjoyed the sex. I see anything wrong.

you have a lack of self-respect. You sleep with your guy friends bc you want to keep hanging out with them and are scared of losing their friendship. problem is they likely value you less, or really like you. Seen this a 1000 times. you need to stop sleeping with your guy friends. you will deserve more respect, and stop leading guys on.

I think you need two things very badly.

1. NEW FRIENDS
2. MORALS

I don't think it's cool. You sound like a skank who doesn't have many girlfriends because girls don't like you, not that girls are boring.

Sorry, but you are being a disgusting skank whore with no morals. I pity you, because no decent guy is going to waste his time on your slutty ass.

Good, bad, or indifferent you're what the gals call a skank.

Your only young there is nothing wrong with casual sex so just enjoy one day you will find someone you want to settle down with

It's a casual thing! Happens all the time and it's perfectly normal. I've had sex with like... 5 or 6 of my friends and we're still friends. As long as they aren't already with someone, it's OK.

You are a young lady and obviously enjoying your life. You are also very popular by the sound of things. As long as you don't go below your dignity level you should be OK. Take care and enjoy your life.

you have a very healthy attitude.

I've had sex with all of my male friends too. It can get confusing but its normaly a one off thing.

it's fun.

sounds like you are doing a fantastic job for us guys, keep it up, just play safe and don't spread or catch anything.

theres nothin wrong with just havin sex just take a look at my name

It's great that you feel liberated enough to have sex before marriage... just be careful. While you might not feel any romantic interest in any of your buddies, they could become attached to you. As in crazy possesive stalker if I can't have you no one will type of deal. Just be careful who you sleep with, and be smart about it. Drunk sex often leads to unprotected sex, which leads to-you guessed it-babies!!!

that's fine just be very careful

Your my kind of girl.

casual sex is alrite.

I actually lost my virginity to a good friend. And it was just casual sex. You're totally fine. :)

SEX is a part of life,Wanna be my friend?

I'm the same way. But its not normal. We're fucking whorres and we'll probably end up spreading some STD's at some point or another. I can't wait to see the looks on my friends faces. who wants to be my friend?

i agree Im 60 and still love to fuck younger women 20-60 is great the older ones know how to fuck but the younger ones love to learn

You are a perfectly normal woman. I think at your age you should have sex with several different guys. When you meet the right one, you will know it.
I am 55, and I have more enjoyable in the last year than any period in my entire l8fe. My girlfriend still likes a variety of sexual partners.
I don't mind, as long as I can join in. She is a true slut, but that's cool with me.
You don't have to have sex with everybody you meet. Variety is the Spice of Life.

casual sex is good anyone that say they dont need sex is either a virgin or a liar. im a guy and general prefer girl mates and have found my self in simular situations. its fine aslong at intensions are clear before starting anything

Who cares?!?!?!?!? you're young!!! do your thing, honey bee!

Why can't I have a friend like you! Seriously, I hear stories like this and I sigh so deeply you can hear my sex-starved cries in Hawaii.

But you must be aware that this could be one of the only reasons guys hang out with you - to get lucky. Just remember, they probably don't respect you. You'll eventually find sex with someone you love and things will change. Until then, have fun!

I have had sex with my friends that are girls and the same thing happened, we just kept on being friends so I think it's completely normal

It seems like a wierd situation. As soon as I get some from a women than I usually get it from them continually. If the sex stopped than so would the friendship. The cycle goes friens, than friend with benifits and than a falling out. You dont go back to friends, thats just strange.

It sounds like you don't know how to say "no" because they are your friends.

Stop it. It may cause problems later. Protect ur heart. I used to b that way but I've learned sex becomes less special and if u give ur heart to too many people it's hard to pick up the peaces later. They will still b ur friend if u don't sleep with them.

OMG I'm exactly the same!

u r sick??realy!

I TOO HAVE MORE MALE FRIENDS THAN FEMALE FRIENDS HOWEVER THEYRE INTRODUCED TO MY MAN AND THATS WHO I WILL FUCK WITH.....ONLY DIFFERENCE IS THAT IM NOT FUCKIN MY FRIENDS!!!!!! THATS GROSS...

i think its fine, just a bit of fun isnt it

for awhile i too did the same with a girl i was friends with, i'm 20 and she's 21 we to this day are still good friends and sometimes i find myself hitting on her friends and, well you know. but she's cool with it cuz we are just friends , ya sometimes her friends are like i like him but she wips out a "sorry he's mine" but she does that knowing that it was a bed buddy thing not a i want a relationship

I agree, I prefere male friends to females anyday. It's normal, you will just be talking then one thing leads to another. When you are not commited or anything then you don't have to worry about break ups and things never being the same. That is the advantage

Keep riding them honey! Your my kinda gal!

It is perfectly normal and as long as you can remain friends and they make no further demands on you than sex, quite rewarding. Varietal sex has been shown to strengthen a woman's immune system, and decrease the likelihood of her having heart disease or cancer. Sex with such friends allows you this rewarding experience without an increasing danger of exposure to STD's.
Research in evolutionary biology and genetics also indicate increasing trends of women practicing varietal sex. More and more women are practicing varietal sex even beyond marriage.

Wanna be friends?

Ha ha can you give me your number baby cakes?

Nah, there is nothing wrong with it as long as it doesn't hurt anybody. Do you feel used? I'm just wondering?

I need a friend like you....

I would love to have a friend who is secure in herself enough to have sex with me and still want to be friends. Most women deem sex as rights of ownership.

Just make sure they cover that thang up and hit me up if you need a good GOOD and I mean GOOOOD friend~wink~

Can I be your friend?

ive done it. as long as it doesnt ruin your friendship, no harm no foul. just dont get pregnant. then you end up hating them.

I guess that u can say that it's "Friendly Sex". As long as u prevent yorself from getting AIDS, STDs and HIVs, then u should be alright.. And also as long as it doesnt damage yor social behavior as well...

Like anger happiness sexual desire is also a feeling that we can't control so u should not think u are doing something wrong U had desire for sex as everyone has and u get full filled with ur friends just enjoy it.

Dear, um, Baby:

I want to be your friend!

Sincerely,

Me.

wanna be my friend

that's hot.
yur my kinda girl

i have done the same thing to have a one night stand with a friend is much better than with a stranger also when u have a boyfriend and all u have is guy friends u really lose touch u know it sucks

Can I be your friend?

i wish i had that

it's normal i think, coz' i do have one that kind of relation like you do...
just satisfying others, no hurt feelings after... it's just a sex...

your are a bit slurry, but w/e makes you happy

The more friends the merrier. Need a new friend?

You are my hero, lets hang out ;)

i use to fuck my friends all the time but i know i have sex problems..... but now i don't do it cuz i have a bf that i love..... so it could be a way for you to find true love

You ever heard the phrase "the more friends the better?" well its TRUE so will you be my friend :D

More power to you!

ummm..... best freinds forever:3

I wouldn't say it's normal... I guess if you feel fine about casual sex, then more power to you. But, if this is taking an emotional strain on you, then you should stop. Sounds like you're fine though. Btw, I'd like to be your friend too lol

72% of the commentators said you are normal. But I said, you are not normal. Far from it.

I let boys give me oral sex all the time but I don't date them just because they like giving me oral sex when I ask them for it.

i think that you are perfectly normal. more the merryer, wanna be friends?

I have many friends who are girls, but I don't go around shagging them! Closer to the point: Try to be in a loving relationship first, you will feel better about yourself.

Actually, I would say that you DO NOT have a problem with "friendly sex"

Sex was taboo back when marriage and children were institutions of social status and economic transaction. Now we have birth control and less class discrimination. Just make sure that you and your friends agree on the nature of the activity so that the sex feels good physically AND emotionally ;)

I would probably do one or two... I dunno never tried it but I feel like I would be diminishing my value and crushing my confidence if I did so. :s
But whatever floats your boat.

I wish I'd had a female fiend like you when I was younger. I don't see anything wrong with what you are doing. In fact, I think it is pretty neat. Apparently you are sensible enough to practice safe sex and birth control, so your behavior seems perfectly alright with me.

I have this group of friends, 3 guys and 2 girls, me and a friend of mine, sometimes there's another girl with us. I have kissed all of the guys without being in a relationship with them, and so has my female friend, never had sex though. But still, I think this is normal :)

Having a casual fling with a mate if they hit on you is far less awkward than turning them down. Turning down a mate if you are single is like saying I would rather screw a rabbit you fucking ugly cunt.

IT HAPPENS BUT PLEASE AVOID THIS AND IT CAN BE DEVASTATING TO YOUR SELF-ESTEEM. They do not really respect you and when you get older and they are all are married they will all still friends but they will not be friend with you because they had sex with you. You may see this on television but is not a good idea.

I think you have sex with them cause unconsciously you want one of them to ask you to be their girl friend and you think this will acheive that. Wrong they will use you for sex but since secretely they think your easy they will never respect you enough to have you be a steady girl friend. All you will get is a bad reputation for being a slut.

Be very careful with this kind of thing. First of all, I have ruined a few friendships by caving into either a drunken or emotionally charged sexual encounter. Either way it has ended poorly because the other person is either looking for more or really in to me. (Not to sound self-absorbed) but the few occasions I have done this I have lost the friendship. It never gets back to the place it was before, plus, it is so much nicer to have a bunch of girlfriends that you can just shoot the shit with and not feel any pressure about any future sexy times.

i love to have fuck buddys its ok

at times u cant say no what r friends for if u can not assist in times of need. i once visited a friend meet them watching sex film sat close to him n we started kissing d light was off but tv on 1 finger was deeping in n out of me b4 i no it was a mouth licking my vagina later a dick inside me all d 5 boys were on me,1 dick fucking my mouth,1 breast,1 deep in my vagina........ infact all fuck me 1 after n their dick so big, fucking for over 4hrs n they were licking my vagina deeply. group sex is wonderfull.

YESSS. Girls are so fucking boring. I also have only two female friends because they are just like me. I just like guys better, all they ever talk with me about is funny things, jokes, and we make fun of people; all girls talk about is emotion bullshit, girls can be extremely self-absorbed.

thats a whore for you hunny

I had sex with my best friend and we dated but she broke up with me and I asked my self why would she brake up with a good man why would anyone do that. I know girls are looking for a good man and she let me go for someone that looks better and he cheated on her. The only thing she would do with me now is have sex but I want more than that so now were just friends but o well I need a better girl anyway

Friends with benefits

This is more than likly more common than people would like to admit. ;]

Hey if you can't screw your friend who can you screw. At least you know them. Safety first.

it's normal. I've slept with female friends, and the ones i haven's slept with, i would.

Why not?

Any way you and I could become friends?

Jaaaa im having sex with my boyfriend and his father, this is ficking good, why sex is the best thing ever mmm ?

i have been having sex with my mates since we where all at school togther so do what i do enjoy all the sex n fucks they give you, its good being close to your mates like this cos we can tell each other anything so it has made our friendship stronger

if it's consensual and they arent cheating on their boyfriend/girlfriend.your consenting adults.it's ok.

Yeah bro, I'd say that's normal. though I find it slightly amusing.

I have slept with many of my male friends (I didn't have sex though)

Ahahahaha slut

Want to be my friend?

i'm the same i have got lots of male friends and just a few remale friends, i have also laid on my back for all my male friends quiet a lot of times.

i've do it when evber any of them want a ride

This is normal, you know them and it is just a thing to do. Keep up the good work, my friends an I do this.

There's nothing normal with it. You're not a slut like some people suggest.

With this, there's that double standard of society. If a guy has a lot of female friends that he screws, then he's a hero. If a woman does it then she's labeled as a slut.

Even if people say it to you, remember its just a word to keep women down. Its old old old sexism with a new name.

It's very common, but I think the real question is why casual sex with friends is preferred over a stable relationship with one guy, while drawing lines with other male friends. Is it just a way to stay accepted by the guys, where competition for being "the cool girl" is always on the horizon? Is it no-strings-attached for all parties involved? Do the friendships still seem as valuable and like they'd stay afloat without the occasional fling?

Theres nothing wrong with having sex with your friends. Monogomy was created by religious nutjobs anyways and most people are brainwashed. You sound like an awesome friend.

just enjoy yourself the best you can and as long as you decide who gets to have sex with you then go for it girl. Over the years i have let all my male friends have sex with me many a time and we are still mates and they still get sex with me when ever we want it, but has led to some gangbangs tho! so watch out for that

I think you should practice self control don't give it away so easy, but on the other hand its good to expeirence life. Really the best I can say is really ask your self are you happy in life, if yes then don't change, as long as noone gets hurt and you use condoms

I would love to be your friend, I don't judge anything sexual

thats awesome

I think you will find that after a while you will feel used. It's not really a complement for them to sleep with you. If you will give it,they will take it.Most women go through this it's part of growing up. I wish you happy life

I guess if it's clear from the get go that it's only sex and that one of you doesn't want more in terms of a relationship then fuck away and enjoy the variety! Just keep it safe obviously.

Just to tell you, every male has a worm feeling for sex. It is normal, and you are only making your friends feel happy. If they think you are hot, you should let them fuck you. I want to fuck my sister but she doesn't let me

The maths don't add up to me, all the guys you speak to have lots of women horny dirty sluts! All the girls you talk to have only had four or five guys! Now either guys are telling lies or the girls are, personally I think it is somewhere in the middle!

Ok Im just gonna assume from this that you are gay correct and wow , but um I do the same thing with my freinds I end up dating all of them XP

'Friends with benefits' , it's not a bad thing, you're just having a little fun, and as long as it doesn't become weird between you and your friends, you'll be fine, although if you were thinking of settling down any time soon, it may be a little awkward introducing your friends to your partner..

Its perfectly normal for people (boys and girls) to enjoy their bodies, hey why not if its not hurting anyone else?? The only time it may get problematic is when you do find someone that you want to stay monogamous with and your previous special friends may not appreciate why you no longer wish to be physical with them, either that or when you do find someone that thinks you should be monogamous and you carry on with your other guys, that could cause problems... I say enjoy while you can, but have a plan on how you will handle the day you want to get serious.

i dont see a problem with it, sex is awesome..as long as you are having a good time then whats the big deal? just be careful because if you're sleeping with a people in a group of friends then if the clap or something like that gets introduced yer fuckin doomed. how humiliating for everyone. i say do it..

most of my friends are male, and we dont have sex but we flirt all the time, its fun and gets me all giddy. i think its a sign of being comfortable in a relationship with someone, too. its a sign of 2 people being comfortable in their relationship as friends

Lets be friends?

Hmmm... When you say friends, that means more than one, I think you should stick to one friends with benefits maybe. And girls aren't boring. Meet new girls

its fine ,you dont just bang anyone,they are your friends,it seems quite healthy to me,and it reminds me of the seventies,sooo much ,you go girl ,you will know when to stop,

i had a friend who i hung out with and partied with and we hooked up like that and we were good friends and now we are married and have been for 17 years and going so i guess i did marry my best friend. and ya its bullshit us guys can fuck as many women as we want so i dont see why a women cant do the same thing as long thay do it safe. and guys might get laid more if we did not make women feel like sluts for doing the same thing as us men do just my take on the hole thing

I've never slept with anyone, but from what I've heard, it's not so normal.
Increasingly common though.

Had this happen a few times, and it's not worth it. 90% of the time, you lose your friend.

It's a good way to lose friends.

I wanna be your friend. I'd like to fuck several of my friends.,

If your a swallower I would like to be your friend. Not to many swallowers out there.

that is what good friends are for I want to be your friend.

I have a female friend with who i have had sex with. It only happened once and it never made things weird between us. Sometimes it just happens and its fine. Both males and females have certain urges and its natural for them to relieve them together. Just use protection though. Have some consideration for your friends.

you can be my friend

It is normal for slutty woman to do this!