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Should I Really Let Her Do This?
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My friend and I both like the same person. Unfortunately he likes her. It started that she didn't him but ever since she found out he likes her she likes him too. She asked me how I felt about it and I told her that she should go for it. Today in class I had a breakdown about family problems but she ignored me for the guy. My other friend had to comfort me. when she finally came over we told her that she could go talk to him and she did. So I let her date him. Is it normal for me to just put my own feelings aside like that and let her do this?
Do you think it's normal?
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roadrunnerxo (21317)
2009-04-24 23:43:23
It's a normal thing, but it isnt good for you, because it'll only build up whatever feelings you have because of her seeing him. That's great that your trying to be a good friend, but tell her how it makes you feel, whether anything changes or not, it's worth letting it build and having it erupt on someone else, or having it backfire on yourself.
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Solimorphic (20553)
2009-04-26 15:10:58
She likes him, and THE WOMAN CHOOSES. Took me years to larn that.

She asked you how you felt about it, not for permission, but to see if you will take it like a man. You did.

When this happens, I remain friendly and just move on. Your male friend will be around longer; women tend to come and go anyways. Keep his friendship, esp is he's a chick magnet. Those guys make useful buddies!

My experience.
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rockstar (22402)
2009-04-27 14:06:16
Dont worry about this, you were strong in the first place to say that to her! threr is plenty of other guys out there an i bet you , you will find an ausome guy soon ;) x
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piglet_pants (22625)
2009-05-10 15:24:22
I have the same problem, but kind of different: My friend likes this guy I have liked for a long time and he kind of likes her back and I just feel like punching her in the face when she just talkes to him, so I dont knnow what I would do if they started to date! I try to avoid looking at him because it makes me so sad.
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JaiHo_YouAreMyDestiny (22923)
2009-05-29 05:01:21
It's OK. I have done the same thing...
I still haven't got over it, and they're broken up! THAT'S not normal! But it was my cousin, and she knew I liked him, so she DID ask me if I was OK with it. And I said yes, but I wasn't, at. I would cry all the time. Your so not alone on that one!
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bamboo11 (25123)
2009-07-06 11:48:08
This is how I see it:
you have to remember, you're living YOURRRRR life. Everyone else is part of YOUR life that you have to try and control. If you wanted him, and you really didn't feel right about them dating, you should've taken control, admitted it, and went after him. Maybe he just didn't know you liked him. (:

Remember, you (for all I know) have one life, don't let anything slip away.
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esreverlogic (9945)
2009-08-18 02:13:04
tell er how you feel, then give the guy a run for his girl. but you DID tell her to go for it, so you had it coming.
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combatgal856 (13140)
2009-08-27 15:52:29
Yeah, I guess so, but don't make youself vunrable. If you do she will take advantage and see you as a cussion to lie on or someone who just listens. She will not listen to your problems and to her she may think you have a perfect life, and when you finally do get a problem that is big she will see it as nothing.

So remember don't get involved with her because she will just depress you and come across as selfish. So keep yourself happy, no one else.
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applescruffs (28944)
2009-09-25 13:57:09
yea its normal. Your like me, always wanting to make other people happy.

But your friend sounds like the type of girl that likes attenion. i mean, how can she not like him and as soon as she finds out wants to go out with him?

just a thought :)
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ordoabchao (29329)
2009-10-05 22:59:51
its normal and its the best way to handle things IMO.

or you could've beat her face in? yeh, thats never good.

you sound like you have alot of confidence which is something to be proud of.
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sephff9 (30328)
2009-10-25 23:13:18
The realistic approach is to not require someone else's comfort and deal with these problems yourself.
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