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so what do you thing about my sexuality?
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check this out...i am a 22 year old with a story that makes absolutely no sense. if someone told me this i probably would say that they were in denial and didnt want to leave the closet. this is my story and i would really love to hear what you think.

in high school i was the normal boy crazy teenage girl. i had boyfriends, guys were interested in me, and i was interested in guys. i had a best friend who walked me through all of these crazy boy adventures. everything was normal until she admitted that she had feelings for me. she was in love with me. instead of freaking out i decided to pretend like nothing happened. i said no when she would flirt with me because i was straight and i wasnt into that. but now i find myself thinking about her all the time. she's amazing. she makes me smile. it has been a tad bit over a year and half since she told me how she felt and i know i love her more than i could ever love anyone else. i also know i think men are sexy and i cant imagine my life without men. i've thought of everything. am i a sl*t? am i greedy? and i dont think im bi because i am not attracted to women at all. i just love her. everything about her. she's that missing part of me that i need to survive...so what do you think. am i gay, straight...hmmmm i wonder?
Do you think it's normal?
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bimomate (22129)
2009-04-19 22:56:42
hmm mabye your bisexual?
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oskilover18 (22167)
2009-04-20 18:54:00
You're probably like me! 95% straight. But there is this one girl in college I had a huge thing for. She happened to be bi, but wasn't into me unfortunately. Had she been into me, however, I totally would have dated her. But I have a boyfriend and I really don't like girls in general that way. But ... Elizabeth was really awesome.
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lisha590 (22204)
2009-04-21 12:06:38
I think that you are staright and just have genuine love for your best friend. I think that the fact that she told u she loves u in a more than friend way is confusing how u feel about her. Dont let her suck u into her gayness (no offense) but when u habg around people their qualities good and bad tend to rub off on u. You should have a serious conversation with her and tell her that u are not gay and that she needs to respect this and move on
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rokker (22780)
2009-05-07 22:59:06
... Lisha may be half right. Love and sex are unrelated. You should consider that in your deliberations, however; If it were me, I'd disregard everything after 'confusing how [you] feel about her.'
As for your sexuality; You really didn't give enough information to give an educated answer. In general though the major test of ones sexual orientation is fairly simple: Do you or do you not want to have sex with this woman?
Before you think to deeply on that though, remember that Freud believed that all humans were inherently bisexual. It is a normal response, and nothing to be ashamed of.
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lisha590 (22204)
2009-05-13 22:30:04
@: rokker
Honey, just like I said please don't think your gay. Just like I said "when you hang around someone their qualities good and bad tend to rub off on you" I don't think the question is "Do you want to have sex with your friend" I think the real question is "Do you want to choose to be gay.
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achoo (21869)
2009-05-18 17:06:53
I think it's important to mention that you shouldn't lead her on. If you're not sexually attracted to her or you're confused, then it might be best to leave it alone for awhile.
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smeagolxx (24102)
2009-06-24 06:40:40
your love for her is pure, it's unfortunate that what you offer and give isn't enough for her

and when it hits her that you can't be the one for her, she will go searching, and when she finds an actual lesbian partner... her attention and care for you will decline, as her gf will become her new top priority

your love for her was selfless, hers for you was an investment, do you see that? and when she realises that there'll be no returns in the ways she was hoping, things will change

you deserve a true best friend, not just someone who's in it for benefits
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-07-08 05:35:44
Hard to say - you are not attracted to women sexually in general. But you are to this particular person. Is it just powerful feelings of friendship/admiration that is not all that sexual but is exciting? Is it a stage. Is it the stirrings of a gay side to your sexuality?

Whatever it is, I hope you just accept yourself as a normal.
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joliegems (28460)
2009-09-13 16:17:10
I think you are straight but she is slowly influencing you into the gay lifestyle. If you want to know if you are gay, then try finding some other women/girls you are attracted to. If you cannot find any, then this is just an isolated thing with this girl and you are in no way gay or bi.
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nothing2 (29013)
2009-10-25 01:02:51
thats cool i like your denial thing. its a great coping thing. oh yeah. there is no real lines anywhere. the man wants you to think so but that's just for marketing purposes.
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