Spanked growing up. How about u? - 59% Normal

It's "normal"--BUT NOT COOL. We got spanked by our mother as children; either a slap on the hand or a brush or ruler to the bum or thigh. My father only hit me once. It was always humiliating, painful, and unnecessary. I never understood why responsible adults, when they got mad, didn't hit each other, but they could hit their CHILDREN. It's totally lazy parenting. I wouldn't dream about spanking my kid or even my cat!

(Btw, my cat plays fetch, sits up, gives kisses on command, and is extremely well-behaved. -All learned through positive reinforcement! ;-) lol)

I was never spanked per se, but our father used to hit us if we pissed him off. For the record though, I object to any kinda violence towards kids, I don't think it's necessary or productive.

See what you learned about being smacked & hit about as a kid - violence is OK: "all well deserved." Well. parents didn't know any better then, some still don't now. Hitting kids with objects as "discipline" would bring in the cops and child welfare now.

it WAS normal... but sometimes dads get into the habit of it and then feel better...so that leads to mental abuse thats a NONO

i got spanked up to 5th grade. my mom usually did the spanking starting with clothes hanger (broke that), wooden stick (broke that too), broom stick (broke again), and finally my dad's belt (this is last).

if my mom got really mad, she told my dad to spank me, and i got a second round. ended up with bruising marks on my hands and thighs that last about a week.

i wasn't a bad kid, usually i got bad grades in exams (typical asian parents), don't want to shower, or eat to slow. i hate it when they told you that you deserve, and want it.

i used to cry when i see my sister or brother got spanked. over time, i realized my little brother just out of control. my parents spank him, and he still does the same thing. probably he thinks that "i'll get couple spanking later on. i can handle that."

i will spank my kids to discipline them. hey, it works for me. i prefer get spanked rather than get ignored. when i grew up, my parents didn't spank me anymore, but my mom stops talking to me. that was the worse.

it should be legal to beat the crap out of your children. when i look at it, i always behaved for fear of getting the shit beat out of me. i got it from belts, shoes, wooden spoons, bamboo sticks (if they were feeling generous), a screw driver, a sandpaper belt, and even a hot oily spatula at one stage. all of those were for doing bad at school, and the hot oily spatula was because a policeman brought me home after beating the shit out of someone while she was frying burger patties in the pan (she first picked up the pan, then realised it still had food in it, and took the spatula instead). i never got smacked once each time either. i got smacked by both in syllabels (eg. why -smack- did-smack- you -smack- play -smack- with -smack- the -smack- phone?!?-smack- stop-smack- crying!-smack- why-smack-arent-smack-you-smack-crying-smack- etc etc. it made me a much better person, and it's a good thing to get beat. my cousin (now six) causes all kinds of nonsense because he knows he'll just get shouted till he cries and then they leave him. i smacked him once (a light tap i might add) and i got a handbag upside the head for it. he broke my FF8 disk one!!! that game is hard to come across. anyways, be grateful to your parents for whacking you so much. say thank you to them for it. you'll understand when you have to spend every day with a child

You obviously have many common but faulty presuppositions about spanking. First of all, you say it is not "cool". When was it ever suppose to be "cool"? It obviously would not be a punishment if it were.
The mere act of hitting someone does not constitute abuse. If it is done in an out of control fashion and leaves marks and bruises it is. But if done with the right motives by a loving and concerned parent, it can be a very effective disciplinary tool.

You also have a common but very faulty presuppassition in regards to spanking. The mere act of spanking does not constitute violence. The mere act of striking does not.
Beating does and abuse does, but there is a qualitative difference. So spanking does not instill violence. If that were true then about 95% of the people who grew up in the 50' and 60's era would be violent. Violence by kids today who have not been spanked is much greater than kids in those previous eras.

I was spanked by my dad when I was litle. He used a belt. I was so young I don't even remember what I did wrong, I just remember being afraid of the belt and crying. That was one of my earliest memories as a little girl, and a very sad one too. It also made me afraid of my dad and affected my relationship with him.

I don't think spanking is ever acceptable. There are better ways to punish your kids without hurting them. Timeouts were better for me, I got the point, was bored out of my mind, and I rarely repeated bad behavior. If I ever have kids, I'll never hit them, with ANYTHING.

You jgr,are presupposing knowledge of an acceptable level of violence. There is none. Its a big myth. Spanking is not tickling. It is intended to hurt - to cause pain - to control with pain. And that is violence - not discipline, teaching or in other words, parenting.

Yeah i got spanked too. I also think i deserved it. looking back i'm glad my parents spanked me because i probably would have turned out a spoiled bitch. My parents used to use shoes and belts mostly. I don't think its abuse, its discipline. I don't think it means you're bad parents, there's different opinions on how to teach your kids.

i got hit growing up as well, by my grandparents and my father mostly. like this one time i snuck out of the house, and was caught. i feared my grandfather because he used a paddle, that sat ontop of the fireplace as an ornament and u can bet that thing scared the shit out of me after that day. i do think it made me a stronger person, strong discipline. nowadays everybodies kid is a brat and does whatever the hell he/she wants. i dont aprrove

I was spanked often as a child. I was also bad often. Didn't scar me at all. It most definitely kept me from misbehaving if I knew I'd get a spanking for doing so. I spank my kids too. We do time out depending on the offense, but sometimes spanking is very necessary. Never more than 3 swats though and never with anything but my hand.

i got chased around the house with a belt LMAO

i always got to pick who spanked me...
id pick my dad cuz my mom was a fuckin beast=P

I was spanked growing up, by my mother, mostly with her hand but sometimes with a belt, i turned out fine, in fact i probably deserved a few more. However my best friend and her sister were also spanked but it was never enforced with LOVING discipline and led to emotional abuse. her sister who is six years younger now refuses to live with her parents, granted there are many other reasons why she left. Spanking ONLY works when done properly and within the right environment.

I dang near got knocked the fuck out. I got regular beatings, which i really deserved, i am happy that my mom disciplined me esplly being a single mom. I am now 23 doing my masters and enjoying a fruitful life cuz of the discipline enstilled in me.

I don't think using objects to whack kids is great to be honest. I used to get a whack on backside with a hand (or even a gentle boot) when I was younger and I'd do the same to my kids if reasoning with them first didn't work.

Whether it's normal or ok has been debated for a long time. What I will say is that it has been a common and traditional form of discipline for ages. Spanking is legal up to a certain point. If you are leaving welts or bruises on a child after a spanking, that would be considered abusive. There is a fine line between a proper spanking and abuse according to child welfare laws. In some states they will almost always consider it abuse and may remove your child(ren) from the home. Other states are more laxed on it and will allow parents their "right" to spank within reason. Both side of the argument have good points. Whether or not spanking will warp a child mind and teach him/her that using violence as a means of solving problems is ok is still in the up in the air. If it does, then they have a good argument for not spanking. On the flip side, can a child beyond parental control effectively be brought under control by merely talking them out of the behaviour or giving these "time outs"? Could mild physical punishment act as a reasonable deterrent from engaging in problem behaviours? One fear is that children that are out-of-control and can't be brought under control via counseling, taking away privileges, and time outs may be given potentially harmful medications as a last resort. Is corporal punishment worse or better than drugging a child into submission? Perhaps spanking has no other effect other than instilling fear. These are difficult questions to answer, but everyone has there own take on the subject. I personally think there could be a middle ground, but more study must be done. To spank or not to spank....that is the question.

My Mum used to beat me with a wooden spoon, and whilst it may sound horrific I actually thank her for it because it was undoubtedly deserved.

I thank my parents for every spanking I ever got. It made me behave, they knew when I deserved one and when I did not deserve one, and how severe my spanking should be. I usually got them pretty bad from my father because he has large and rough working-men's hands. I feared getting spankings and hated my parents for only a few hours. I know realize I'm a respectful person who thinks twice before every actions and considers every consequence. I will spank my children wisely, just the same. It should be kept legal. (And, does anyone notice, that the less socially acceptable spanking becomes, the worse the majority of children behave? Parenting has gone down the drain in such a sorry way.)

Emotionally and verbally spanked...

Spanked? Yikes.... But I've always been yelled at.. insulted and emotionally screwed up at time cos of my parents.. I think spanking sounds better :(

It's not normal now because people are so freaked out about child abuse. Sometimes my mom spanked me, sometimes she just gave me a talk. My mom seemed really mean at the time, no one wants to be spanked, but I'm sure glad i was! So many kids aren't disciplined, and are such idiots, jerks, pervs, and just mean. It annoys me when parents let their kids do whatever they want! No wonder america is going down the tubes... What happened to the youth?

Spanking is not discipline. It is risky to the point of permanent damage & quite ineffective as discipline. There is no correlation between not spanking & children misbehaving. There are many correlations between spanking and childhood problems, including bullying (why that would be a surprise I have no idea). People who believe in spanking are 5 times more likely to abuse. No credible (example, health educators, childhood development) parenting program teaches corporal punishment. And no one has a mandate from God to hit children - just for the bible (or whatever) thumpers out there. 24 countries have banned spanking - and no - civilization didn't end - it just became more civilized.

Just because you loved your parents and they spanked you and you accept it, doesn't mean you are normal. You now believe it is OK to hit little kids. Can you not see how not-OK that is?

MY GRANMA USED TO CARRY A WOODEN SPOON IN HER PURSE

your folks might have been retarded

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
Center For Effective Discipline,
PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals,
Churches' Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

my mom used to chase me through the woods and beat me with a large wooden baking spoon. then she'd lock me in the closet for 3 hours. My childhood rocked!