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I am 30 and have a 20 year old stepdaughter that lives at home with my wife and I. She is very beautiful and I admit to having had thought of her sensualy on more than one occasion. She has a boyfriend.
My problem is, I think sometimes she is flirtating with me. I know for a fact she would never cross the line to clearly put my relationship with her mother at risk, but sometimes she is too playful. For example, a couple of times, I've bent over to pick something up and she says to me, "next time I'll have to grab your butt".
Other times, she will just stick her tongue out at me, not move it in an awkward way, but it is usually out of context, as if she just wants me to see her tongue. Sometimes I give in and say, "you better put that away" and more than once she has responded, "what are you going to do about it?"
What she does most often is carress my back or run her fingers through my hair right in front of her mother as, "a joke". What is obviously a half joking and half serious comment, my wife resonds, "get your hands off my man".
However, whenever we are alone in the house, she never engages in any of these antics as if as long as she does it around people, she can pass it off as a joke and "play it off".
As I man, I know it is only natural to see a beautiful 20 year old girl and have a sort of attraction to her, and some might even think that is okay as long as I am the responsible adult and keep things in perspective.
Is it normal for her to act this way? Is this normal behavior for a stepdaughter towards her stepfather? Or, is it my own attraction to her that interprets appropriate interaction into something more sinister?
My problem is, I think sometimes she is flirtating with me. I know for a fact she would never cross the line to clearly put my relationship with her mother at risk, but sometimes she is too playful. For example, a couple of times, I've bent over to pick something up and she says to me, "next time I'll have to grab your butt".
Other times, she will just stick her tongue out at me, not move it in an awkward way, but it is usually out of context, as if she just wants me to see her tongue. Sometimes I give in and say, "you better put that away" and more than once she has responded, "what are you going to do about it?"
What she does most often is carress my back or run her fingers through my hair right in front of her mother as, "a joke". What is obviously a half joking and half serious comment, my wife resonds, "get your hands off my man".
However, whenever we are alone in the house, she never engages in any of these antics as if as long as she does it around people, she can pass it off as a joke and "play it off".
As I man, I know it is only natural to see a beautiful 20 year old girl and have a sort of attraction to her, and some might even think that is okay as long as I am the responsible adult and keep things in perspective.
Is it normal for her to act this way? Is this normal behavior for a stepdaughter towards her stepfather? Or, is it my own attraction to her that interprets appropriate interaction into something more sinister?
Do you think it's normal?
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It does seem a bit much, but I can see this happening since the two of you aren't that far in age from each other, it seems as if she's treating you like a peer instead of a father figure.
actually, she is not a minor. She is 20 and is a sophmore in college. But the break up of my marriage would be just as bad as prison none the less.
I can believe about the black mail. At first, not having had a father in the home for so many years, she felt threatened by my presence and wasn't thrilled. But I've been under the impression that over the last couple of years we've developed an earnest friendship. She always tells her mother how glad she is to see her happy (finally).
Nice try, it's "my wife and me" or "me and my wife."
But yes, it does sound like she's flirting with you, but the best thing you can do about it is act as if you're her dad. That should put her off. Unless she has an electra complex...
Just don't give into your urges and don't let her do anything too flirtatious.
Since the attraction appears to be mutual, I say it's only a matter of time before the two of you end up in bed together.
As for your stepdaughter's behavior, I can totally relate, and will shed a little light on her motives.
A. she flirts with you around others, and passes it off as a "joke", because in her mind, it's a safe way of letting you know she likes you, without coming out and saying it... which, given the situation, could be very awkward.
B. The fact that she behaves herself when the two of you are alone, further validates this theory. She has a strong sexual attraction to you, which she is obviously having a difficult time expressing to you, directly. It's much easier for her to get brave, when other people are around. Also, she is probably waiting for you to make the first move.
C. It's highly possible that, after flirting with you in public, she hopes that, when you guys are alone, you'll tell her what a "naughty girl" she has been, and "give her what she deserves".
Trust me on this; she wants your bod. LOL