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Okay, I'm a straight guy and have no feelings of sexual attraction to other guys (I don't find the male physique at all appealing, and don't feel I could fall for a guy like I could a girl)... but I have a fantasy of having a girlfriend use a strap on to take me from behind.

Is this normal? Comments welcome, unless they're derogatory... Preferably either other guys who feel the same way or girls who wish to share a female perspective on this.

Incidentally, I'm 22 so I'm perfectly old enough to make my own decisions... I'm mostly concerned about how any girlfriend I might be with would react.
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Anonymous
Some girls like to be pegged. Some guys like to be pegged. Some guys like to peg girls & some guys like to peg guys. Some girls like to peg girls or guys. Some people have no interest in such a thing whatsoever.
It's personal preference. If you want it, it has nothing to do with your sexual orientation.

I'm a lady, & I love pegging my straight boyfriend.
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do you have any female friends that like doing that too cus i would like to experience that as well
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Actually, as a girl who has always wanted to do a guy from behind with a strapon, I have to say that this is actually pretty hot.

Guys get a lot of pleasure out of anal because it massages the prostate. Basically, like a male G-spot. There's nothing wrong or gay about having an interest in it. Hopefully you'll find a chick openminded or experimental enough to take you up on that.

P.S. Ever wanna know why they call it a "strapon"? Spell it backwards. :D
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Have you ever done a guy with a strap on before? I absolutely love it
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Where would I be fortunate enough to find you women out there that really enjoy pegging. because I love it and I'm having a hard time finding anyone to give it to me
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ha ha ha!
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Anonymous
My wife and I have tried it several times and really enjoyed it, we still do. First the physical prostate stimulation is amazing, but you should take that slow and get used to it since it is very intense. It's also very powerful psychologically since she loves to be the one stimulating me and it's very intense to be open and receiving for a man. And no, it's not gay, while it is different and powerful for a man to be penetrated, as long as it's a woman doing it it isn't gay, I certainly do not think about men when we've done it. It's also not about bondage and domination unless you want it to be, we aren't into that so there is no tying down or calling names involved, essentially for us it's the same as regular sex with a role reversal. I agree with advice start small and use lots of lube, maybe with a bend over beginner kit you can buy from places like blowfish or good vibrations on the internet. I'd also find someone you are reasonably open and honest with since it's a very powerful experience. But I'm afraid a lot of women won't be interested in this. But it's increasingly common and in the open and talked about, and more and more porn videos are being produced with this theme. Take it slow and enjoy.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gentlestraponlove/

http://www.take-it-like-a-man.com/
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Anonymous
yo i think that would be fun but dont mind me no one does
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My wife trained me to come with my prostate and the feelings of penetration without touching myself! She preferred me soft and enjoying her screwing me only! I had some great orgasms from her!
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Ven
"Gay" doesn't mean "enjoys anal sex", or vice versa.
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@: Ven
Don't worry I know im not gay but sometimes i kinda wanna screw my best freind(a guy)(ew I know) in the asshole
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Anonymous
I'm a 23 year old straight guy, and I've had very similar thoughts as the ones you're describing. I don't know that I could ever bring myself to act on these thoughts (simply because it sounds nice in theory, but I'm not sure I would like it in actuality), but I admit the idea intrigues me. As other people have indicated, this doesn't mean that I'm the least bit homosexual. The thought of being pegged by a guy does not appeal to me at all. But it sounds like you understand all that. In any case, I don't know if we're "mainstream," but I think there are plenty of people around who feel the same way.
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Anal stimulation can actually be quite nice, if done right.
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Anonymous
Ouchies!
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Anonymous
I have taken it up the ass from a female friend with a small strap on and found it quite enjoyable.
Yeah it hurt in the beginning but as long as she's gentle there should be no problems. Use plenty of lube tho.

Good luck... ;)
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Yes, it's normal, and there are females who want to do that.

Liking anal doesn't make you gay or bi; some gay and bisexual males care nothing for anal sex, wheras some straight couples love it.

So, it's just another spot to get some good feeling out of.
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Anonymous
Actually I've had the same thing and I also have no gay feelings. It has been shown though that like it or not the anus is part of the sexual system and that most men and women can enjoy this kind of stimulation. Theres nothing wrong with this fantasy really, its just a combination of the stimulation and wanting to have your girl on you doing it.
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Anonymous
It doesn't have anything to do with being gay. It probably just means that you're submissive and you want a girlfriend to dominate you. Check alt.com.
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I have had a woman do this to me and it is wonderful. Make sure they go slowly at first. I find it to be even more exciting when I wear womens clothing with stockings and high heels. I think it adds to the feminine effect of being "taken".
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Hi!! I'm a 35 year old heterosexual male and I've been married for 7 years with 3 children! I really want my wife to PEG me or even just us a vibrator on me!! She does finger me from time to time and we do have a toy she has used on me a few times! BUT....... I am having problems with getting her to use the toy on me!! I LOVE it when she fingers me and when she uses the toy on me! When I can get her to use it! It first started when We made up a drinking sex game! To prove to her that Anal wasn't that bad I let her! from then on I've loved it! I have got to do her in her FINE ASS but that's hard to get her to do! How can I get her to at least us the toy on me? Or even better let me buy a strap on? Can anyone help me PLEASE!
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hi , I just wanted to add some imput that I feel will really help .. I am a 24 year old male and i feel the same felling that you fell but I acted on it.. I would say it was 150% werth it, but theres
a few thing I think should be considered.

SELF DISCOVERY
1. you should always try thing by your self for the first few times to see if infact it is worth it to take the leap with your partner .. ( This allows you to be as comfortable as possible.)

RELAXING IS KEY
2. laydown on the bed with a towl beneith you when no one will be around to disturb you. its important to take your time and enjoy the new venture your about to take part in.

PREPARATION
3. The body tends to block out pain when the body becomes aroused, so its always a good idea to get your self in the mood first. Then therally lubing your self as well as the toy that is in question.(smaller toys to start with will allow you to have less disconfert and more joy) more lube the better .

what I use http://www.kyshopdirect.com/detail/KYB+8947
reg not warming might be perfered

FINNALLY
4. Make sure you stimulate your self to stay in the mood. when done make sure to stay sanitary and wash all anal toys therally.

Hope this helps
stay open minded and live life.
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I would love to do this to my man.
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everyone is different...im a teen but even i fell the same way sometimes...but all i can say is find a girl with a strap-on... i i havent really givin a reall responce so ya i guess its kinda normal
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well everyone has some kind of outragus fantisy
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Anonymous
well
my girlfriend has done it to me, she bended so she could suck me at the same time
it kind of hurt at first but felt good after
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I said NOTHING DEROGATORY!

Can't you guys read?
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@: Brit1
Haha, nobody said anything negative dude. Your fantasy doesn't make you queer. You won't know what to expect from partners. Sounds like fun. Don't sweat it.
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Sadly, flamers and trolls are par for this site. Try not to sweat them.

Your fantasy is common enough to have its own name: pegging. There are definitely women who are into it. I can't tell you how to spot them, but if you're with someone you can trust you should be able to tell her your fantasies. If she's open minded the idea might intrigue her. If she'll only get busy in missionary position while partially clothed and with all the lights off you might want to keep your secrets, though.

Is it "normal"? I don't think that matters. We're talking about consenting adult behavior that shouldn't result in permanent damage, so go for it! Don't worry about what the neighbors would think...I guarantee you you've got at least one or two sets of neighbors with some funky sex toys in the back of their own closets.

As for the actual act, I've always heard this advice: "Start small and use lube...LOTS of lube."
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Sidenote: a wikipedia search on "pegging" should provide you with more info and resources.
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Thank you for reassuring me intelligent and reasonable people exist. And to the initial question, what this person said.
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man the thing is this u got to do what makes u happy .I my self had no idea how to bring this subject up with my lady friends when I did they all reacted the way Id wanted and to there surprise they found that it is enjoyabol to them also dont wate to long to ask u might regret that .I know I do and wish Id have doen it at your age . I've found that most of the wemon ive presented the idea to thought it a good one and many of them expresed that it had ben a fantise of theres also. Wat ever you deside good luck.
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Anonymous
It's absolutely normal.
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I'm 18 and I loved being penetrated by my x girlfriend, its alot of fun if you know what your doing its quite pleasurable
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Anonymous
I have been pegged twice, but it is not easy to know whether a girl is into it or not and ask her.....
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Go for it, bro. F*&K what other people think. It's an incredible sensation. Start small as to not damage your lining... there's chicks out there who will do it.. put an ad on Craig's list.
I was 19 when I did it, did NOT think it was my thing but after about 2 minutes it's NICE.
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Guy - it's quite normal. Ignore the narrowminded people who associate the desire for anal play with homosexuality. It's a vicious myth that wanting to be penetrated makes you gay. Anything you do with a woman is straight, by definition.

Now, some women buy into the myth, too, so if you have this need, find yourself a woman who likes the idea. My past girlfriends included two women who brought it up first--they really wanted to finger my ass. It became a regular part of our lovemaking. I had other girlfriends who I knew would never understand; in one case I told a woman I should have never told, and she got all uptight about it. My wife, who is a wonderful lover, had to be dissuaded of the myth. But very soon she really got into it--it excites her to finger and even lick my bottom.

The penetration itself feels good, because the anus is very sensitive. Also, your prostate gland, which produces part of your semen, is about two inches inside the anus, on the side toward your belly. It feels great to have the prostate stimulated--it can make orgasms extra intense. Also, it can be psychologically gratifying in a powerful way to let a woman inside you, physically. It turns things around, making the woman the penetrator and the man the penetrated, which can be really, really HOT.

If being penetrated hurts, you (or your partner) are doing it wrong. First, use LOTS of lubricant. The best is KY Jelly, because gel is better than thin lubricant at reducing friction. Have her take it slow, building up to full penetration and fast in-and-out motion. Fingering is the most intimate act, along with analingus (anus licking). If you're both really into it, you might move on to butt plugs, dildos, and even strap-on dildos.

So, find that special woman who will love your butt! Here are some articles to read on the subject:
Analingus and Anal Fingering - http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_analplay.shtml
Sacred Spot Massage -
http://www.whitelotuseast.com/SacredSpotMassage.htm
Prostate Stimulation: The Whys and Hows -
http://www.vibereview.com/browse/page/Prostate Stimulation: The Whys and Hows
The Prostate Gland -
http://www.good-sex-positions.com/prostate.html
A Fun Story called "Adventures with my Angel" -
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=27834
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It is normal? Trust me. I'm a man and cringe at the thought of having sex with a man. But a woman taking me with a strap on is the best thing I know. I don't know why, but good to know I'm not alone.
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Never fear! This type of desire is completely normal, and increasing in popularity. The desire to be penetrated by a woman isn't so much as making her a surrogate male, but more about switching gender roles. That might sound like I'm saying the same thing two different ways, but I'm not. The thrill for most men that enjoy strap-on sex with women isn't that they wish it were a man, but more so that it is a woman doing something typically male, allowing them to do something that is typically female. It is the submitting of themselves to the whim of the female that is thrilling, not to mention the sensation. Sometimes, it's just the taboo of being taken by a woman that makes the experience exciting. This is healthy, if not super-healthy. Just the fact you are willing to openly explore this part of yourself means that you are more secure with your sexuality than the larger percentage of men. Have fun with it, take it easy, invest in good lube and enjoy yourself!
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The second largest concentration of nerves in the human body is located aroundthe anus, and well it feels good and has nothingto do with sexual preference. It feel great and is a great way to enhance a sexual relationship. You should always keep an open mind and be secure in who you are regardles of your sexuality.

Right on Cyndiana
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Your Absolutely normal and not gay!
My husband and I have been married 24 years and about two years ago started to really talk about our fantasies. We both wanted to try Anal.
For both men and women it can be really awesome


How your girlfriend will react depends on the nature of your relationship. Communication, mutual trust and maturity are all big factors.
When your ready, there are 100's of web sites for tops and techniques.
Good Luck
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im a guy and i love <a href="http://www.peggingfetish.com">pegging!</a>. at first i was a little weirded out but turns out it is the best thing i've ever done with my sex life. guys i highly recommend!
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im a straight guy and my girlfriend peggs me all the time and personally i love it so id go for it just ease ur way in and try not to over do it or else ull be sitting on a bag of ice for the next few days
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If you want to find a girl who is into it it's probably quite easy to find one on an internet site. If it's embarrassing for you then try the internet. Then again I don't know how many women would try it so you might be lucky with a girl you met elsewhere.
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Well everyone I'm getting my wife to start to toy play with me! NOT as often as I would like! I want to get a new vibrator or dildo for her to use on me! I think I'll have to go buy one on my own!! Which I don't care, but I'm afraid someone may see me! I wish I knew what to do to get her to do more anal play with me! Is there any suggestions for me???

If I go back to think on how all of this started!! I was doing this to try to be able to do my wifes SEXY ASS!!! It just ended up that I liked it so much I want more and more!! I just know my wife thinks I may want to swing both ways, and I do NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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It has all ended now! BUT... still trying!!! :-(
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ok so im 20 and i came across this while looking for strapons because me and my girlfriend are wanting to do this as well if anyone can advise me that would be apreciated
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I am a 40 years old married male and I simply love anal play. I am hetero in my opinion as I can't and don't find the male body attractive at all. Nothing wrong if you do, or if you are gay or bi, but it I see a naked man I don't feel aroused. However I love when my wife fingers me or if she use her toys on me.
We started one day with her fingering me, then we upgraded to an Aneros until we got a full strap on. The one we have has a little dildo for her and a 7" that she uses to do me.
I always do a nice douche when I know it will happen, this way I can relax and have her have fun with me. Usually she does it to the point that I am crazy horny and I feel like doing her hard, the same way she did me.
But I was upfront with her about my sexuality. I told her since the beginning that I have absolutely no desire to be with a man, or to have a penis inside of me, but I loved an external stimulation while she was giving me oral (Back then that all I knew). She started with just the tip of a finger, until a whole finger went in. Months went by, then two fingers... Months later she started using one or two fingers in a more vigorous back and forth motion, really f****ing me. So we had time to develop trust and complicity.
Now, maybe once a month she wear her strap on and f****** me really good.
I love the whole scenario, the submission, the touch of the dildo tip behind my prostate, her eyes staring at me, etc...
We do keep a "vanilla" sex and sometimes I am the one tiing her up and being the very dominant macho she loves. I also make sure that when I do her doggy style, I give it to her really good.
Society and religion made society so full of preconceptions and guilt. I am Christian, I love her, I am loyal to her and totally monogamous. Having a kinky relationship is our secret to happiness.
I don't need another woman, she gives me everything. So I'd say that pegging brought us closer together. For us the abnormal is our normal. The freedom to reveal any secret to each other made us happier.
Have fun!!!!
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When my wife took my anal cherry she was in the process of making me her male lesbian. She was the dominant butch. I performed oral sex on her and she took me with her strapon. It was not weird or wrong and it satisfied both our fetishes, I could come without an erection! We both dressed in stockings and garters as well.
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I'm a 23 year old man! And I love it! I'm not gay but my girlfriends doesn't do it so I'm kinda stuck, :(.. Help lol someone private chat if your a member, coz I'm not!
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Anonymous
The only think I can think of saying is.. TAKING IT FROM BEHIND HURTS LIKE FUCKIN HELL!!!
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Pretty brokeback dude...
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