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The thought of my wife with another man excites me
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I have finally come to the realization that the thought of my wife having sex with another man excites me. I thought I was insane and completely alone until I found this site and started reading some of the posts here. my fantasies about this are not as extreme as some of the other stories about this I have read, and I still have alot of fear about the aftermath. But I have masturbated many times thinking about the men my wife has been with before, and often times imagine them doing to her what I am doing while we are having sex. My feelings are unexplainable. I am jealous, angry, hurt but very excited and turned on at the same time. I told her to go with another man a few nights ago and she finally did. At first I was hurt, but I was actually getting aroused when she told me what she did. We have still not made the decision for her to do it in front of me, but I am starting to think more about it. We love each other very very much, but we enjoy unusual sex at times. Our sex life is wonderful, but this fantasy is growing more in my head by the day. I have watched her with women several times and it was great, but my wife is obviously more attracted to men. I don't know why I am so aroused at the thought of my wife having sex with other people. For those who have done this, did it strengthen your relationship or did it damage it? Any advice anyone can give me would be appreciated.
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cabinet70 (4440)
2008-08-21 03:00:36
If you are going to go down this path make sure you are ready. It should not make you jelous as you seem to instigate it. It should be done in front of you and you should join in. it should make you super horny. I feel you would like to do this but in reality your not ready for it so I would stop now it could end your relationship
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califtom (15847)
2008-08-21 21:49:22
@: cabinet70
thanks. yes I think I should definately be ready to actually see it happen. I don't think it would end our relationship, but youre right I think it could cause some serious problems if it is not right. When she went with another man a few nights ago I went through a variety of emotions I never felt before. In the end though it made me more attracted to her than I have ever been. I'm really confused about this, but as with most of my fantasies, they don't stop until they actually become a reality so I'm not sure what will happen. thanks again for your comment.
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danvilleman (17335)
2008-11-01 08:46:43
It shouldn't hurt your marriage if you are honest with each other and have some common sense ground rules you both agree on. My wife and I did it for three years and then she said that was enough. I still get hot remembering her in action.
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aafan (18842)
2009-01-02 13:28:07
I have the same fantasy,concerns and fears that you do.The only thing that we have done is go to a nude beach in Jamaica.My wife seen thest to guys at the bar that had dark tans.She walked up to the bar to get a drink and started a conversation,then they walked over to the hot tub and got in she motioned for me to come over and hop in to.She introduced me as her husband.She put her hands behind her head and her breasts stuck right out of the water,then she told the to guys to suck her nipples.That was about it.though,but were willing to try anything once
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davidt (22231)
2009-04-22 21:07:32
I have the same fantasy, but I don't know if she will go for it or will get mad and think I don't love her. For some reason, I just want to see her getting screwed by another man and suck his dick. Sometimes we talk about it in a roundabout way. She says she would definately do certain movie actors that she likes, but I'm not sure if she would really go through with it with someone else. I think she suspects from some comments I've made that it turns me on to know that other men want her and would probably not get jealous if it was only physical--no emotional ties. But, I'm not sure if I should push and actually go through with it.
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Stearman (30438)
2009-10-28 11:55:26
I also would love to see my wife being ****** by another man. I have talked to her about it, she says the ideal turns her on , but she want do it.I am not sure how to get her to agree.
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liquour (11697)
2009-11-23 22:07:22
Yeah, what you're talking about is my hottest fantasy. I'd love it if my wife woul do that. And tell all her freinds, too, so they'd know, and make little jokes behind my back, but so I could hear. She could tell them she had to find out what a real man was like, she'd been with a pussy so long -- and so forth.
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Ms_October (16391)
2009-11-24 10:07:03
Nothing inherently Wrong with that, or ANY *Fantasy*

Keep in mind though that in real life, life goes on After the clothes are back on and the bed is made.

I have had bfs who have wanted to see me with other guys (or girls) and once we even explored that - and a good time was had by all.

UNTIL, that is, our next fight, when he decided to throw the whole experience all up in my face.

I say Go For It - IF you both are okay with it and IF the relationship is strong. Otherwise you are just begging for disaster.

Tobra - Near Perfection In Heels
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TOMiami (33789)
2009-12-30 20:27:13
@: Ms_October
You got that right Ms_October! Big fantasies are great and the reality of making them happen better. But, you must have respect and grace to not bring it up or let it tarnish your image of one another during and after arguments. That is when it will slowly or instantly ruin good relationships.
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stillcurious (30483)
2009-12-31 03:01:28
It made ours stronger.
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LibertyJames (37583)
2010-02-27 01:15:01
My husband always talks about me sleeping with another guy. I was so surprised to find out that this is his fantasy. Most guys want to hear about or see their girl with another girl. He says that he knows that I can handle a guy with a bigger d***! He likes me to talk about screwing my ex-boyfriend while we are having sex or while he masturbates. He has been talking about it for years. He wants me to sleep with another guy and I don't want to at all. It really pisses me off when he talks about it. I do not think it is normal and it is somewhat gay. Nothing against gay people. Everytime he talks about it I just want to break up with him for good. We have been together for a really long time and have two kids together.... It is just crazy! Why would a guy want to see their girl with another guy? I just cannot understand it. I wouldn't want to see him with another girl... He should feel lucky that he has a girl that likes sex. I don't know where this fantasy comes from. Is it because I am more experienced than him?
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califtom (15847)
2010-03-02 23:39:30
@: LibertyJames
I can assure you LibertyJames there is nothing gay about this fantasy at all. There is just something very erotic about the woman we love doing something naughty. I have found there is a fine line between jealousy and excitement. Isn't everyone attracted to someone who presents a challenge or is aloof? This fantasy is taking that concept to a new level. The fact you are married and have kids together is irrelevant. The problem is, there is this idea in American culture that when you are married and have children youre either supposed to stop having sex or only have it in a very conservative, almost church-endorsed fashion. Actually, the marriages that last are ones with very unusual sex lives. If its your husband's fantasy maybe you should do it once just to try it.
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