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Is it normal to think of something to say after the moment has passed? Sometimes when I'm in an argument I'll think of a good response to something someone said, but it won't happen until a few minutes after the argument ended. I've had these post-argument thoughts all my life.
Do you think it's normal?
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Jim_Pfoss (19247)
3/27/09
If this didn't happen to a lot of people, arguments might never end.
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Relapse (21623)
4/5/09
Yes, lots of people frequently think of a come back just too late for it to be useful.

Sometimes I go right overboard, and retrace a conversation I've had where someone ticked me off ever so slightly, often a stranger or someone I don't know very well, and I imagine if it had gone much worse about the argument that would have followed.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, I just put it down to an overactive imagination.
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theanswerisprobablynotnormal (21883)
4/12/09
THIS HAPPENS TO ME ALL THE TIME TOO! Isn't it so frustrating?
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sealionwoman (22057)
4/16/09
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stairway_wit
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princesst76 (21942)
5/2/09
okay......... of course its normal!
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badfriend77 (22629)
5/3/09
Dear Lord. Every day of my life.
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OptimistPrime (22934)
5/12/09
An entire episode of 'Seinfeld' was dedicated to this, involving George traveling across the country just to deliver a good comeback. (But what hasn't that show touched on?)

Completely normal. Track down the book 'The Art of Verbal Self-Defense', it might help.
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tinsleytemptress (22119)
6/4/09
Always. Happens ALWAYS.
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emptiness (24535)
6/27/09
Definately normal.
Happens way too often.
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TheRealResponsE (24823)
6/29/09
your fine i do that quite a bit myself
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heinrich (5743)
7/6/09
There's a great episode of Seinfeld that deals with that.
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emmajohn09 (26703)
8/6/09
always with me ha
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obama (28213)
9/7/09
yes this happens a lot, it certainly happen to me when i was arguing with senator Mccain.
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PoisonFlowers (28309)
9/13/09
@: obama
x) Lol!

AS for me - yes, it happens ALL OF THE DAMN TIME!!!
It makes me so annoyed that I didn't come up with it in the moment. Gah!
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4w04se (25055)
9/14/09
Happens to me! I thought i'm just not quick-witted to follow up the argument with what I really want to say! =[
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oquenbe (28566)
9/25/09
yup its right up there with shiting and eating
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JavaJones (30482)
11/2/09
@: OptimistPrime
LOL..."The Jerk Store called....they're all out of you!"
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djG22 (30765)
11/4/09
hahahahha omg all the time...i have a bad temper when im mad n i usually go off on a baddd rant...its only until after its all over then i think of the stuff i shoulda said n it makes me angry all over again that i didnt!
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Kassidy363 (32041)
11/30/09
@: obama
lol.

Yea, I do that a lot. I am slow, bc I blank out a lot when my mind is occupied.
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Sedgar18 (32385)
12/18/09
normal..
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Roxanne (33640)
12/30/09
DON'T YOU JUST HATE IT WHEN THIS HAPPENS? I DO!
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rhiannedostya97 (34200)
1/5/10
I think of comebacks to things that HAVEN'T EVEN HAPPENED! It's called an overactive imagination, and I think it's perfectly normal.
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b_randomguy (29509)
1/12/10
I hate it too! "THAT'S WHAT I SHOULD'VE SAID!!" and i head back to the airport and fly back to say it.
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Irtzy (34718)
1/13/10
The same situation(sp?)... I really get it all the time, even before the conversation. I got to hit my head many times to get it away. That's some creepy stuff. I feel like I'm crazy or something... Maybe I'm just overthinking or something like I usually (think) I do.
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caffeinechemist (34859)
1/15/10
Well, the jerk store called and they're running out of you!
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caffeinechemist (34859)
1/15/10
@: caffeinechemist
Aw, someone else said it already. D:
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Noldus (36821)
2/15/10
Yep, I do this all the time. "Dammit! Why didn't I think of that earlier?!"
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Born2BAStar (35998)
2/24/10
If It Doesn't Happen To Anoyone Then They're Abnormal!!!
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whudafxup (36735)
2/25/10
i get it all the time ! it makes me so mad because i cant think of it at that very moment. 100%% normal.
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mieoux (36234)
3/19/10
Jim Pfoss is right, if this didn't happen you wouldn't stop arguing and every argument would end in a breakup/divorce. It's better off when you forget, because what could possibly be the point of wanting to come back with something else? You want to "score one" against the other team? That's ridiculous and useless.
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lynamph (17599)
3/22/10
Haha same here. Makes me want to hit myself.
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phillostopher (38663)
3/22/10
Same thing here, but I also get a rush of anxiety when people yell at me. So as long as its a nice debate I can usually think of something to say in good time, but thats why I choose to avoid arguing.
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landbeyondnoother (38444)
4/1/10
Annoying! but normal :)
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hazed (32214)
4/1/10
I do this all the time. It's normal for me. I'm trying to stop thinking on all the good comebacks I could have, should have said once the time has passed. There's been so many times in my life.

You live and learn.

Hopefully that time will come again and you'll know what to say, how to say it, and hear applause inside once you've nailed it. No shame.

Job well done.
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normalcydude (40590)
4/8/10
Its perfectly normal to have post argument revisions.
It actually allows you to polish certain type of interactions, so when similar situations arise in the future, you will have a more well thought response.
It is actually rather healthy to do so. Keep it up !
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K.T (40902)
4/12/10
Oh god,i cant tell you how often this happens to me.Its common but it gets real annoying after awhile.Specially a good argument.
Then when you go back sometimes its not as consitstent or agreeing what you said.
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precious13 (40878)
4/17/10
omg the same thing b happening 2 me


*ur not alone*
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bflo45 (42140)
4/22/10
keeps me up at night sometimes. perfectly normal though.
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CiroPost (42358)
4/24/10
Totally normal, everytime I argue with someone I think back to what I couldve said to hurt them more.
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slambo! (42168)
4/25/10
Indomitable allllllllllllll the time and it blows dick
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ruralfrights (42855)
4/26/10
Lots of good input on this one. Don't know if I have anything much to add except I know exactly. What helps me is to try to step aside emotionally when things start to go south with another person. I find myself much more reactive and in a tactful way. Nothing I regret. I like the first comment about arguments would never end if it wasn't for this.
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moe (42987)
4/27/10
Yes I always do this! I'll review over the argument in my head after I lost it and thembj come up with a comeback to what the other person said. I can't bronc the conversation back up because they will just be like 'that is so over' or something it's very frustrating!
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jessmartian (44438)
5/3/10
In France the word for that is something like "espirit de esclair" meaning "stairway wit" or thinking of a good response after you've left.
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elasticband (42433)
5/7/10
@: sealionwoman
Thanks for the term, "Stairway wit". I didn't know of it!
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rastabro (44978)
5/10/10
Lol who put they're name as Obama and said stuff about McCain! This cracked me up!
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granola_lola (45303)
5/12/10
This is like my life!!!!!!!!!!!
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mastercourtney000 (44292)
5/15/10
I do that too! So annoying
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darktenor1013 (46335)
5/23/10
I definitely agree! I'll walk away and then I'll be like "shit I should Have said that!" lol
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Aberzombie (46255)
5/23/10
YEAHHH SOO ANNOYING! HAAHA
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amethysteyes, (45411)
5/23/10
why ask such an obvious question? would you rather people say no, your fucking insane?
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daisy-jo (46382)
5/23/10
@: theanswerisprobablynotnormal
omfg me too!!! and i get soooooo mad at myself for not saying the awsome thing i come up with!
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gunmetalballoon (41884)
5/24/10
Ya I hate that
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persondude122 (47078)
6/1/10
i do that alot. sometimes, i'll think of a comeback, then carry on the conversation by myself. weird, right?
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Hunter0820 (36650)
6/6/10
Genious. It's how people solve problems.
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xxxsheep13xxx (46956)
6/7/10
yeah thats normal, i was in an argument because there was a rumour that i had called someone a bit**. and i didnt no wat to say,

but then about 5 mins later i thought about wat i should of said.

"i would never call u a bit** but now that u mention it, no-one in this world suits that name beter than u" i just hope this argument comes up again so i can use that,
no thats wrong, i dont like arguing.
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cman50 (47011)
6/28/10
Pisses me off to cause I love to argue
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myannaiscrazy (50332)
7/12/10
normal
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ronni (51288)
7/24/10
IF YOU THINK TO SPEAK THEN THE MOMENT WOULD PASS AWAY, BUT IF JUST LET OUT FROM YOUR CHEST AND HEART WITHOUT THINKING THEN YOU CAN ARGUE GOOD..

BY THE WAY YOUR SITUATION IS NORMAL..
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