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Thinks my boyfriend is addicted to phone sex
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My boyfriend of 6 months is addicted to phone sex and porn. I know he did it when he was single but there is no need now that he is with me and we are living together. Porn is not too bad as I dont mind the odd dvd but phone sex daily is just about as close to cheating as you can get in my book! A relationship shouldnt be totally about sex (which I thought I had found) but is a part of it and it has to be with the person your with and not over the phone with some one who is working for the sex industry!
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Why don't you try phone sex with him? Least then it won't be so much as cheating
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just tell the guy to eff off, cuz watchin porn while your in a relationship means hes not physically attracted to you, and the phone sex is cheating, there is no close to it, it is in fact cheating
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sex in all its forms can be addictive. Short cuts like porn movies and phone sex, allow the consumer to by pass all those intricate elements that come with a relationship (discussion, communication, compromising etc) and go straight to the sexually gratifying parts. It is fine and possibly healthy to participate in these activities to a point. That point is where they being to interfere with the ability of the individual to carry on a relationship with his/her mate. If your boyfriend is unable to go with viewing these videos and talking with the sex workers knowing how much distress it causes you, then it might be time to seek professional help for him as he may be dealing with a sex addiction. If your sex life has changed and this change can be directly or indirectly connected to his use of these sexual outlets, this might also be indicative of a sex addiction. Either way, you and him need to have a serious talk about the phone sex and how you feel about it. Only then can you decide the best way to move forward together or to go your separate ways.

best of luck!
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Yeahhhhh, porn is fine with me but phone sex would be really not at all okay with me. Confront him if you haven't, and if you have and nothing has changed, find a new boyfriend because that's disrespectful, in my opinion.
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Ollieo
I don't think you have the same values and you need to think hard about how far this relationship can possibly go. It's kind of stunned he would just expect you to accept it, especially the phone sex. Somehow I do not think the bar is going to get higher in this relationship (the opposite is more likely).
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I think that his penis actually fits in the phone holes rather than yours..

oh god sorry, i always do that to retarded couples.

Ok, this actually is quite stupid, obviously it isn't normal.
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porn it's fine for all guys, but phone sex?
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I don't like my Fiancée/boyfriend watching porn and he respects that. Instead of him watching porn I make videos of me playing with myself and send it to him. As for phone sex, he& I have phone sex together. You should try these things if yu don't like it. It's better than him hurting yu right? Just have ps with him and enjoy it. You'll get used to it. Make him want you, not them. Don't get your hopes down. Be sexy and spontaneous. Try new things in bed with him.
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that's weird. why isn't he addicted to real sex?
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I think you are over reacting. I wouldnt mind at all if my partner was having phone sex or even cyber sex on cam. As long as its just sex and not an emotional involvement. And as long as it isnt effecting your sex life in a negative way.
You need to understand that mens sexuality is different to womens. Perhaps your sex drives are mismatched. Therefore if he needs more than you are willing to give then he needs an outlet for it or he will be miserable to live with. As long as he isnt actually having real sex then what is the problem? There is no risk of disease. Get over your childish jealousy.
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Oh god I get so sick of hearing whining females crapping on about how their partner looks at other women and porn etc and they read into it that it mean hes not attracted to them enough. Its so juvenile. Get over it. It doesnt mean anything. Its sex. We are sexual creatures. You want to chain him up , its ridiculous and unrealistic. Every relationship gets to a point when the sex becomes a bit predictable and unspontaneous. If you allow men to excite themselves in non physical ways such as phone sex perhaps they can bring that into the bedroom and it will improve your sex life.
Try looking at it as something sexy and horny instead of "oh poor me, he doesnt love me, hes not attracted to me" It will only push him away.
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Ollieo
I think you are being a bit insensitive, and insulting. Porn has always been around, but on nowhere near the gargantuan & mammoth scale it is today. Not everyone accepts it's intrusion into their lives and relationships to the same degree as you apparently do.
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