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Here's my usual routine timeline with new guys that enter my life. During summer I usually have a healthy dating/social life but it goes like this: (and I'm getting fed up!!)

1. Girl(me) meets guy

2. There's mutual attraction, or girl likes the guy. Great vibes.

3. Something physical might happen (not immediately upon meeting, but on a date shortly post meeting. At least a kiss.)

3. A minor happening offsets the vibe. Girl gets gravely turned off and erases his number from phone. "I hate this bullsh*t," she says.
(I feel at ease when they don't exist in my phone anymore so I erase them right away).

4. Girl forces herself not to think about guy anymore.

5. Eventually she succeeds.

6. Guy calls/leaves text or facebook message that makes girl rethink situation.

7. After reasonable time, girl returns communication.

8. Vibes are back. Girl starts to like guy.

9. Guy is shady (not in every case). Never up front about how he really feels. What the hell does he want?

10. Girl gets neurotic: if he likes me why is he elusive?! Gets embarrassed over recent text. Girl stops contact again. Cuts him off; but is frustrated. Still likes him a bit. (Maybe a lot)

And repeat starting from # 4.


I've had it with this pattern!!!! I'm writing this as I erase Recent Guy's most recent text.
Eff!!!!
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Comments (21)
flikr (10636)
2008-07-21 20:32:51
you need a emotionally stable guy like myself
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cpg123 (15225)
2008-07-21 23:51:27
u need to find the right guy
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nearly (10533)
2008-07-22 02:26:28
@flickr

The day you are emotionally stable, hell will freeze over fella!


@poster

Maybe you should put a little more effort into the 'relationship'. Such as you sow, so shall you reap!
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Goatmeat (15262)
2008-07-22 09:48:50
poster, what size are your titts? that is the only way we will be able to give you good advice.
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nearly (10533)
2008-07-22 11:16:11
lmfao unilever!
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emo_rock_music (15283)
2008-07-22 12:25:11
you need to date someone who's not your normal type and break your pattern.
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Quadmaster (15202)
2008-07-22 17:33:26
Quit playing hard to get and put out! Guys are looking for women for sex not for broads that like to play head games.
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starguy (11171)
2008-07-23 05:32:00
not all guys, some r looking for a serious relationship with sexx as an added bonus
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Curiosity (15295)
2008-07-23 06:41:35
He's obviously not doing much good for you, break it off!
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DragonMaster (15312)
2008-07-23 20:52:46
Turning gay would be a good thing---- then you will discover that you are narsitic and just enjoy frustrating yourself because your parents never showed you the acceptance you needed!
So GET A BIG HUG FROM SOMEONE!
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fatmanph (15419)
2008-07-28 21:22:35
Guy's now days for some reason need the girl to tell them how you feel first. They don't want to get hurt as much as you do, so they hold back because they are unsure that you like them. Guys are also confused about the flirting. Girls could flirt one day and not another and that leaves the guys going what the fuck. Just my opinion.
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Orochi (12804)
2008-08-21 22:55:22
Perhaps, if you reacted like an adult @ step 3B and discussed the issue with the boy maybe you could skip steps 4-10. Another thought, cutting the guy off causes him to not trust you. Thats probably why he acts shady afterward.
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Eluveitie (17005)
2008-10-17 16:48:41
Obviously you screw up at the part "A minor happening offsets the vibe. Girl gets gravely turned off and erases his number from phone. "I hate this bullsh*t," she says.
(I feel at ease when they don't exist in my phone anymore so I erase them right away)."

Obviously he liked you before that
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WRYYYY (17074)
2008-10-20 20:35:53
You are an emotional headcase, and probably batshit crazy also. Next.
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adamblonde (17643)
2008-11-12 16:56:29
Chill. Men are selfish (i.e just people). As much as you want to divine meaning from "vibes". Vibes are just feelings, with projections, based on experience. Not everyone is looking for the same thing at the same time based on the same signals.
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SeniorKenzo (15945)
2008-12-01 20:44:09
I agree with the guy who said you should've reacted like an adult and just talk to the guy. When I heard "guy acts shady and holds things back" all I could think is "and who's fault is that?" You delete his phone number and quit talking to him and you wonder why he holds back on you? He's obviously afraid of upsetting you. I mean, if he did something terrible like cheating, then I can understand. But if it's just something he said or it's just a dumb mistake he made, then you're overreacting. Cutting a person off doesn't do anything to help a relationship. Three words: TALK TO HIM.
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georgito619 (20305)
2009-02-17 19:59:36
lol i actually avoid my gf sometimes i geuss this happens to girls alot cuz seriously u girls talk nd txt like theres no tomorrow seriously
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winterfresh (21111)
2009-03-20 05:25:32
@: georgito619
realllly? Well, just so you know guys are that way too. :) I avoid my bf all the time, and i even 'LOST" my phone once so i could get a break.
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combatgal856 (13140)
2009-03-28 16:48:03
Maybe you don't actualy like any of these guys in the first place which is why you are pushing them away, then you might want them back because you want to like them but you don't deep down.
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anabolic19 (25748)
2009-07-20 17:19:18
f*ck sake man
you have to stick through the good and bad in a relationship
your not gonna get any where doing this
you have to go through the bad and dodgy times so you can build real trust
you sound quite mental
hes probably shady cos hes confused
hes probably scared to tell you anything incase you go off it
and delete his number again
just talk to him and work out the bad things its what you have to do when you grow up!!
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-07-27 06:35:21
I agree with the relationship building. Seems you just dally around at the surface level of initial contact until it just peters out. Maybe now you just want that though - the excitement of contact. But if you want a more serious relationship, then you need to follow up the initial with some real time together.
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